Teaching Your Children To Drink (ears, feeling, alcohol, broken)

[Dude111]

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I was 15 years old when I first went to a party where we got our hands on substantial quantities of alcohol. It was like letting children loose in a candy store. There was also that "forbidden fruit" aura around it. It didn't work out very well for any of us. One guy passed out in the front yard. Since we were in a semi-secluded area, with the neighbors quite a distance away, we just threw a blanket over him and stuck a pillow under his head. He lay there all night. [more]

Interesting......

I havent ever liked any kind of BEER,alcohol,etc..... THEY TASTE GROSS (I dont know how people can stand the taste of it)

[Citynda]

I think it depends on how responsible your kids are. If you raised them right then when they start drinking during their teen years, hopefully they'll be smart enough not to binge. Face it, all kids drink and there's nothing to stop them, but if you teach them good values and whatnot they'll decide correctly on their own.

[Dude111]

And its important to NOT PUT RESTRICTIONS ON THEM (Only makes them want to go against what was said)

[jimboburnsy]

Ah, restrictions are extremely important. Even if the rules are broken when the authority is unable to enforce them, the structure is still there. In much the same way that education is what remains when the individual lessons have been forgotten, personal discipline is what remains when the parents' roof is no longer overhead and the parents' rules no longer apply.

I think you can take a lot of mystery out of alcohol through proper introduction. There isn't a general solution or an approach that will work for everyone, but, for example, a father and son sitting down at a meal and sharing a bottle of wine can work wonders. For example, "what you're feeling now is a good place to STOP DRINKING; you are feeling a nice, social glow but are not sloppy - it will not get better if you continue to drink." It's an opportunity to teach "buzz monitoring", which is something that kids will never learn from other kids whilst enjoying forbidden fruit. I think its a bad idea to let kids form drinking behaviors at "parents-out-of-town parties" rather than in the home with family.

[BlueWillowPlate]

Originally Posted by jimboburnsy

Ah, restrictions are extremely important. Even if the rules are broken when the authority is unable to enforce them, the structure is still there. In much the same way that education is what remains when the individual lessons have been forgotten, personal discipline is what remains when the parents' roof is no longer overhead and the parents' rules no longer apply.

I think you can take a lot of mystery out of alcohol through proper introduction. There isn't a general solution or an approach that will work for everyone, but, for example, a father and son sitting down at a meal and sharing a bottle of wine can work wonders. For example, "what you're feeling now is a good place to STOP DRINKING; you are feeling a nice, social glow but are not sloppy - it will not get better if you continue to drink." It's an opportunity to teach "buzz monitoring", which is something that kids will never learn from other kids whilst enjoying forbidden fruit. I think its a bad idea to let kids form drinking behaviors at "parents-out-of-town parties" rather than in the home with family.

Agree.
And even when you think you've done all the right things, your kid might mess up at least once.
Explaining boundaries and modeling the correct behavior can go a long way, though.

[jimboburnsy]

Originally Posted by BlueWillowPlate

Agree.
And even when you think you've done all the right things, your kid might mess up at least once.
Explaining boundaries and modeling the correct behavior can go a long way, though.

There's the rub. Gotta just do you best and hope they don't wind up as a Darwin Award candidate.