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Old 06-06-2012, 01:34 PM
 
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A loved one of mine has a drinking problem and his parents found out about it (but not from me). He goes on binges every 3 to 4 weeks or whenever he gets really stressed or unhappy. He then has difficulty recovering from the binges because he can't stop drinking the alcohol.
His parents asked him if he would go to AA, he says he hates AA, told them he wouldn't go to AA, so then his parents asked him if he would let them find something else for him, he said yes. They found him an inpatient treatment center, but he doesn't want to go live somewhere either. He prefers a day outpatient program, and asked his parents to give him a couple days to find one on his own. He did find one and has started going, although it's only been a couple of weeks and thus not long enough to know if he's serious or if he's looking for an easy way to get people off his back. There are a few different ways to look at this scenario. Some would say it's good that he's looking at recovery options. However, others would say that someone who is ready to quit would jump at the chance to go to a quality inpatient. Would be willing to do whatever it takes, pay whatever it costs, and that this person would prefer not to be bothered.
I'm just curious to know other peoples' takes on this.

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Old 06-06-2012, 02:02 PM
 
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It doesn't sound to me like he is serious yet about recovery.
 
Old 06-06-2012, 02:47 PM
 
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If he doesn't like AA there are lots of alternatives: Rational Recovery, SMART, Save Our Selves, Lifering . . . The question is does HE want to stop? Because, frankly, if he doesn't nothing will work.
 
Old 06-06-2012, 04:43 PM
 
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It doesn't sound to me like he is serious yet about recovery.
Is that because of the being picky?
 
Old 06-06-2012, 05:14 PM
 
Location: Mississippi
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For me it's more the fact that it sounds like he feels pushed into it by his parents, so instead of going in-patient he says he will try the outpatient thing. I think you are correct in that if he was really serious then he would do whatever it took to get sober. I have never known anyone who did the outpatient thing and got sober unless they did it as after care after doing in-patient. I just think he is trying to placate his parents.
 
Old 06-06-2012, 06:00 PM
 
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He is not serious. He loves to drink end of story. Nothing else matters.
 
Old 06-06-2012, 06:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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When he is ready for recovery he will seek and follow a strong recovery program...until then, nothing will change.
 
Old 06-06-2012, 06:25 PM
 
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He is not serious. He loves to drink end of story. Nothing else matters.
I read in another post of yours that you volunteer at a hospital? Do you see a lot of alcoholics there?
 
Old 06-07-2012, 12:37 AM
 
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I read in another post of yours that you volunteer at a hospital? Do you see a lot of alcoholics there?

I have seen several that were there due to total health breakdowns after years and years of drinking.
 
Old 06-07-2012, 02:09 AM
 
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I have seen several that were there due to total health breakdowns after years and years of drinking.
And they loved to drink end of story?
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