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Old 06-18-2012, 10:52 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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I live with a smoker who refuses to smoke outside or to another room. In the winter, I suffer from bronchitis, swelled nasal passages and have trouble breathing sometimes. He is my companion. I love him, but I can't stand another winter of being sick all the time. What can I do? He won't listen to me.
probably not much; I know how hard it is living with a smoker, my husband lived with one for about 20 years after he quit. At least the smoker was considerate and never smoked in the house. yes, it was me, of course. I smoked very little, luckily so the winters I survived and so did he. In fact I quit when I decided it was just too frickin cold and really stupid sititng outside in the freezing winter just to have a cigarette.

Even though iI have known many people who have smoked thier entire lives and lived to be in their 80s and 90s, I know many who have had their lives cut short by smoking or spent many years dragging the oxygen around with them.

Obviously you seem to care a great deal about him, but does he really care about you or himself for that matter?

Now, I will add one more little thing and I know many will disagree with me: I doubt all your bronchitis etc is caused by second hand smoke; some of it yes, but not all.

Nita
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Old 06-18-2012, 10:55 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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5 months tomorrow without a cigarette!!I never realized how much ashtrays STINK!
isn't it a good feeling. I never realized how much cigarettes stunk: almost 4 years for me.
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Old 06-18-2012, 11:22 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Some of the replies make me wonder if I've understood you correctly.
Are you looking for advice how how to get him/her to quit or just not smoke inside?
My earlier reply only referred to not making you live with it inside your house.
Sharing usually is a good thing in a relationship......but not this kind.
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Old 06-18-2012, 04:18 PM
 
Location: Magnolia, DE
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Ok, I get what everyone is saying, but you obviously care about him and don't WANT to leave him. Have you asked him to maybe limit smoking to one room of the house? Like maybe the bathroom with the vent on? Or have you tried getting air purifiers? Or maybe get him e-cigarettes and ask him to smoke those in the house? As an ex smoker, I can guarantee that no matter what anyone says he isn't going to quit unless he really wants to and no amount of pressure or coaxing will help and may even do more harm than good. It's a terrible addiction. Instead of trying to force him to stop, maybe talking about some compromises will at least make the habit more bearable for you.
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Old 06-18-2012, 10:26 PM
 
Location: Cartersville, GA
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If this individual is unwilling to take steps to insure your health and safety, it may be time to consider whether or not he is a good companion for you.
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Old 06-18-2012, 10:33 PM
 
Location: Brawndo-Thirst-Mutilator-Nation
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I live with a smoker who refuses to smoke outside or to another room. In the winter, I suffer from bronchitis, swelled nasal passages and have trouble breathing sometimes. He is my companion. I love him, but I can't stand another winter of being sick all the time. What can I do? He won't listen to me.

Forget it, dump him.........a Filtha****e smoker will never put you over their stinky addiction.
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Old 06-18-2012, 10:44 PM
 
Location: earth?
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It doesn't **** you off that he is so selfish and has no concern for YOUR health?

Does he "love" you?

If so, how does he show it?

Will he quit smoking in the house when you have to have an oxygen tank hooked up to you 24/7?
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Old 06-18-2012, 11:08 PM
 
Location: Cartersville, GA
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It doesn't **** you off that he is so selfish and has no concern for YOUR health?

Does he "love" you?

If so, how does he show it?

Will he quit smoking in the house when you have to have an oxygen tank hooked up to you 24/7?
^^ Yeah...what she said. ^^
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Old 06-19-2012, 06:21 AM
 
Location: Bella Vista, Ark
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As much as I can't understand why he will not reach a compromise somehow and somewhere I will add: for those of you who have never smoked you have no idea how addicting cigarettes can be..Yes, many of us have quit, yes, it can be done, but studies have shown it is the most addicting drug there is because it is both physically and mentally addictive. Many drugs are just one of these. What the OP has not told us is, what reason does he give for not be willing to at least compromise? Has he explained to her his reasoning? Is he just selfish and controlling or has he explained he just can't quit? OP, fill us in, will ya?


Nit
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Old 06-19-2012, 09:50 AM
 
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We're talking about taking his addictive habit outside so she can breathe.
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