Perverted Brother (diet, eye, therapy, how to)

[Dietfamily]

I need a diet from my family.....I just recently moved back home after college, to find a job and save some money. In my home there is my parents and my older brother who has never moved away from home. I knew there would be privacy issuses but I never imagined this. About a month ago when I got out of the shower I was in my room changing and I felt like I was being watched, My windows were open because it was a nice night out and I could hear our dog outside. So after I got changed I went out back to get the dog and saw my brother walking around from the side of the house where my room is. I didn't say anything to him because I was so shocked. I mentioned it to my boyfriend who said that I should just pay attention more before I say anything. So I did and later that week when I got home late at night and was getting ready for bed I heard my brother go let the dog out back. I shut the lights off in my room to see if I could see anything outside but couldn't and then went out in the living room area to see if I could see my brother in the back yard and I couldn't. That's when I went to my mom and asked her to keep an eye on him to be sure it wasn't my mind playing tricks on me. The next day I went snopping on my brother's computer and I found a picture that I had taken of my self for my boyfriend and it was a "Private" picture on his desktop. My parents and I confronted him about it and it didn't seem to bother him. He didn't show any emotion and He couldn't explain why he had gone into my computer and taken the picture and then put it on his computer. and of course he won't admit to looking through my window. He says he did one day while I was wrapping presents never when I was changing. Which shows you his maturity but that's just another issue. His first answer to the picture being on his computer was "it's not like I took the photo with my camera" and now his defense is that nudity is art and that's why he took the picture from my computer. I'm working on moving out of the house and my brother has not been staying at the house. We both have been going to a therapist separately but I don't feel like she is helping me! I just don't know what to say to my brother or how to react around him during family gatherings. I want to scream and yell at him, and at the same time I want to cry and hide from him. I feel like he is always looking at me. and at night hear noises and have to get up to check the house because I'm afarid he is there. Does anyone have any advice?????? Please Help!

[christina0001]

You're been completely violated. Honestly, right now, I don't think you should be around him now, and no time in the future, until you've had some time to process this. I would hope your parents would respect that, and have your brother stay elsewhere. If not, perhaps you have a trusted friend or relative you can stay with. Do you have any family you can talk to about this? Be patient with the therapy, it may take a long time to move beyond what has happened.

[tao]

If you feel your therapist isn't helping you, get a new one. You need a therapist who's the right fit for you, one who you truly feel is helping you.

[Mattie Jo]

I agree with the both of you. I would make sure I had good curtains on my bedroom window and a lock on my door. And then I would move out as soon as possible.

How old is your brother? This is somewhat common with teenagers, but if he is an adult, then that is much more of a concern. I hope your mom scolded him just the same.