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Old 05-19-2016, 07:07 PM
 
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Excuse me, but I see it the exact opposite. I'm not the one reacting/overacting to the disability, I'm just being disabled. Its the "dancers" who are making an issue, therefore, they are the ones who are being "sensitive" to the disability, because they are making the issue.


Its something one might expect---but certainly not accept---from school kids. Its called "poking fun" at a disabled person. Or is that ok?


What's the big deal about just acting like an adult? All I asked is to here, hold this a second, while I juggle stuff---something we all might do if juggling several items and need a hand for a few seconds---why should a cane, or other handicapped device---be turned into an item of mockery? If, indeed, I was holding a bunch of bananas, along with other items, and needed someone to hold it for a second while I fished out my keys, would it be considered acceptable to break out into a Chiquita Banana dance?
I thought I was sensitive.

What was their reaction when you told them to stop? I assume that since it bothers you so much, you did that, right?

I honestly don't think that the intent was to 'poke fun' at you.

Things are magnified when they bother us - it is all that we see. That makes it seem as if it is much more prevalent than it may actually be in reality. If this is actually occurring every time with everyone that you know with the intent to poke fun at the disabled, one would want to examine why they hang around douchebags.
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Old 05-22-2016, 02:44 PM
 
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[quote=MaryleeII;44097027]I guess I'll have to spell it out for you.

Most disabled people are at last somewhat self-conscious of their condition. Adjusting to being "different" is part of living with a disability. Its just plan manners and politeness NOT to go calling one out on a disability all the time. I guess its different, being on the giving end of a "joke" and the receiving end. What I find difficult to understand is otherwise well-bred, educated, dignified people who somehow think its appropriate behavior to make a$$es of themselves dancing with a handicapped assistive device in public. I guess they just don't know any better

Ok, so, folks, its NOT polite to turn a disability into a public joke! It might be "fun" for you, but not for the disabled person! Or did you ever think of that?[/quote]


^^^^ This is what you should be saying to the miscreants who use your cane as a dance prop. The end.
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Old 05-23-2016, 08:39 PM
 
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I thought I was sensitive.

What was their reaction when you told them to stop? I assume that since it bothers you so much, you did that, right?

I honestly don't think that the intent was to 'poke fun' at you.

Things are magnified when they bother us - it is all that we see. That makes it seem as if it is much more prevalent than it may actually be in reality. If this is actually occurring every time with everyone that you know with the intent to poke fun at the disabled, one would want to examine why they hang around douchebags.

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Old 05-23-2016, 09:03 PM
 
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I've never made fun of someone with a disability.

I've never assumed someone dancing with a cane is making fun of someone with a disability.

I don't see the correlation between dancing with a cane and making fun of someone.

I don't think anyone is quite getting your vent.
Yeah, i agree with blueherons^^

OP, I can tell this upsets you, but from what you described, I don't think it has anything to do with you or your disability. I think it's simply that most people haven't held a cane very often and there are some really fun songs and dances involving them...so I think they're probably just having fun with the cane, not making fun of you.

I would try not to take it so personally. I know people who can't hold an umbrella without singing "I'm siiiiingin' in the rain, just siiiiingin' in the rain..." Nor hold a banana without singing "ring ring ring ring ring ring...BANANA PHONE!" Yes, these people are being silly, but they mean no harm.
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