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Old 05-29-2016, 12:18 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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My 34 year old son was circumcised shortly after birth. His father and I talked to doctors about what would be best and decided it was best if he looks like his father and most other males he would come in contact with in locker rooms, military, etc.

He has spent the last 6 years in Singapore and Kazakstan and he tells me his girlfriends think it is weird to see a circumcised man. He says he wishes he wasn't.

A year ago he had a son with his SO, a young Filipino woman who didn't want the baby circumcised at birth but will wait until he is 10 years old! Apparently this is common practice in The Philippines where the child will most likely spend most of his growing up years.

We are quite concerned about how this will affect this little boy. My son is hoping he can convince his SO to just let it stay like it is.

Has anybody here been through such an experience and can tell me how this will impact this boy?
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Old 05-29-2016, 12:31 PM
 
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As the mother of boys, I can't imagine doing this to a 10 year old little boy. It just seem cruel and makes no sense. None of the other boys would be going through it at that age, at least not in the US.
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Old 05-30-2016, 11:48 PM
 
Location: Sector 001
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Silly cultural customs which we don't understand but other people find normal...
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Old 05-31-2016, 05:02 PM
 
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got circumcised at age 10. it is a rite of passage for boys in the Philippines, especially in the countryside. in fact, our parents were not involved. you just tell them after the fact. its something like, you just talk about it among your peers and when its time, just ask the village "surgeon" to administer the procedure.


some cries, some just laugh but once its done, everybody is happy and proud. then you go and look for the younger ones and brag that your are now a "man" and that its really not painful etc etc


never heard of any complication even if the procedure is crude and barbaric
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Old 05-31-2016, 07:30 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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I dated a guy from the Philippines and he said it was traumatic, but it had to be done so that he was considered a man and would be able to have sex with women in his country. He said no one would have sex with someone who wasn't circumcised. He made it sound like a big ceremony in his village.

I think if your grandson is going to be raised in the Philippines and spend his teen and adult years there, he should probably have it done. Otherwise, why mess with nature's design?
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Old 06-01-2016, 06:31 AM
 
Location: Elysium
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My 34 year old son was circumcised shortly after birth. His father and I talked to doctors about what would be best and decided it was best if he looks like his father and most other males he would come in contact with in locker rooms, military, etc.

He has spent the last 6 years in Singapore and Kazakstan and he tells me his girlfriends think it is weird to see a circumcised man. He says he wishes he wasn't.

A year ago he had a son with his SO, a young Filipino woman who didn't want the baby circumcised at birth but will wait until he is 10 years old! Apparently this is common practice in The Philippines where the child will most likely spend most of his growing up years.

We are quite concerned about how this will affect this little boy. My son is hoping he can convince his SO to just let it stay like it is.

Has anybody here been through such an experience and can tell me how this will impact this boy?
That is odd since Kazakstan is an Islamic society. I guess the Soviets did a job on their culture.

I have heard it said that Filipino mothers don't want their babies to cry so that it is why circumcisions are not done near birth that you would expect since many claim the "medical" or "cleanliness" reasons. My theory it becomes a cleanliness and hygiene issue when the boy is about to become responsible for bathing himself as he might start getting erections should a big sister, mother or nanny continue the care.

Now in the Philippines a boy will be teased as a "supot" if around 10 he is not circumcised. It is often a plot line in popular entertainment that if a, normally single mother, can't afford a doctor and no medical mission comes around that the boy will get it done himself with the attendant drama of his becoming infected.

Just last month was a show where the grandmother set up a medical mission, taking up a lot of screen time proclaiming the medical benefits for her community but refused to allow her 6 year old great grandson to participate, He ended up in the hospital as normally happens on films telenovelas.
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