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Old 07-15-2016, 06:08 AM
Location: southwestern PA
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Originally Posted by HappyFarm34 View Post

Exactly how I feel
Then you need to tell her that.
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Old 07-15-2016, 09:09 AM
Location: Portland, OR
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Post #9. Go to the wedding o.p. Start making small steps to re-connect with your extended family. You may need them someday. You don't have to live in their laps. A wedding wont be the death of you. Take a deaf friend along so you will have someone from your world with you. The world is the way it is because everyone only wants to be around people exactly like them. You can see what a mess that creates right?
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Old 07-15-2016, 10:01 AM
Location: Upstate NY
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mom thinks I use my disability as an excuse not to do something...

Only you know whether or not that's true.
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Old 07-15-2016, 10:08 AM
Location: Georgia
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How about turning off your hearing aid at the wedding so the ambient noise doesn't bother you? If they are your relatives, I'm sure they know by now that you have a hearing problem, and won't be surprised if you aren't immediately responsive. The attention will be on the bride and groom, not you and your hearing.

I guess I'm curious -- why is it that lip-reading is difficult for you? I have a deaf friend who easily reads lips -- I know a smidgen of ASL, enough to spell difficult words I'm trying to convey -- but she astonishes me with how well she picks up what is being said around her with lip-reading. My dad was also 90% deaf, and struggled with hearing aids for years and years -- he was adept at lip reading, but like you, found ambient noise to be distracting and annoying. He refused to learn to sign, though -- a lot of our communication was his lip-reading and us writing on a "magic slate" kind of board when he couldn't understand.
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Old 07-15-2016, 01:10 PM
Location: Loudon, TN
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There are also programs now that can help you communicate with the hearing on a smallish tablet. If it makes you that uncomfortable don't go to the wedding, but you are at risk to become so very isolated. I hope that doesn't happen. Do you have hearing friends that also know sign language? Do you have friends in the deaf community? Please reach out and be a part of the greater world. I wouldn't want anyone to be lonely.
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