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Old 02-18-2024, 05:54 AM
 
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I worked very hard to be promoted as soon as posible because my salary was very low and I could not provide enough for my family. Currently financial situation improved but I I end months very tight in budget.

Because of my proactivity and can do attitude managers started giving me more and more tasks. In regular meetings some people have 2 or 3 topics and I usually have around 10 per week. I try to cover topics extending working hours I now work from 6 am to 5 pm sometimes 7 pm and then go home and take care of son and shopping/dinner and cover basic needs.

I have anxiety and I usually sleep around 4 to 6 hours best scenario monday to friday and weekends 7 hours to do all tasks at home and working to cover some topics of work. I usually have back pain and severe headaches, and pain in my legs I also breath very fast. Which medicine can I take to be awake or have more energy to deal with all of these?
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Old 02-18-2024, 07:59 AM
 
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Sorry, don't have any recommendations other than natural ones from Germany. But honestly, getting rid of the stress is the best option.

If it's any comfort to you, I was stressed for YEARS during my thirties and early forties. I had four kids and worked full time at a very demanding job. I think I went years only getting 5 or 6 hours of sleep a night. I was also very stressed, probably the most stressed, for about at least a year after my husband dropped dead suddenly and unexpectedly of a massive heart attack. This happened when I was 58. That stress has lessened but not a day goes by that I don't miss that man terribly. But during that extremely stressful time (when I was 58) I think I just had to wait for the stress levels to go down.

I took something short term to help me sleep but it made me feel groggy the next day - I don't even remember what it was but by golly I had to get some sleep. I took it for just a few weeks. The most effective thing was some sort of natural something or other from Germany - I don't even remember what it was but I know it didn't have melatonin in it, which doesn't work for me. Benadryl also doesn't work for me but it might for you. It doesn't work for 10 percent of people, but that means it DOES work for 90 percent of people.

Good luck.
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Old 02-18-2024, 08:16 AM
 
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Why does your wife not handle your small household and child? Have you seen a doctor?
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Old 02-18-2024, 02:05 PM
 
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I worked very hard to be promoted as soon as posible because my salary was very low and I could not provide enough for my family. Currently financial situation improved but I I end months very tight in budget.

Because of my proactivity and can do attitude managers started giving me more and more tasks. In regular meetings some people have 2 or 3 topics and I usually have around 10 per week. I try to cover topics extending working hours I now work from 6 am to 5 pm sometimes 7 pm and then go home and take care of son and shopping/dinner and cover basic needs.

I have anxiety and I usually sleep around 4 to 6 hours best scenario monday to friday and weekends 7 hours to do all tasks at home and working to cover some topics of work. I usually have back pain and severe headaches, and pain in my legs I also breath very fast. Which medicine can I take to be awake or have more energy to deal with all of these?
You don't need medicines to be more awake.

You need boundaries.

You work too many hours. If you're salaried, 40, maybe 45 hours a week should be it. If you are being overworked, it's up to you to stop that by telling your manager that something needs to come off your plate. If you are a manager, start delegating to other people. You can also look for a job with better pay and more reasonable hours. Don't buy into hustle culture. All it ever gets people is sick and dead. If you keeled over at your desk, they'd have it cleaned out and your job posted within 48 hours. Never sacrifice your health and wellbeing for a job. You're no good to your son if you're falling apart.

If you're married or living with your son's other parent, it's time for your partner to step up in taking care of him and doing more around the house.
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Old 02-18-2024, 03:31 PM
 
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Agree that you need to learn how to separate the "absolutely required" from the "not absolutely required but things I assume must be done" activities in your life. You also need to learn how to delegate to others. People convince themselves they're indispensable or that they must do everything themselves. They aren't and they don't.

Look at it this way: if you undermine your health to the point you disable yourself, you will be in no position to support anyone else. If you step back and remove some things from your plate you will be able to support those others longer. If you keep ignoring the problem by putting more and more band aids on it (drugs or forcing yourself to work more and more, getting no rest week after week, day in, day out), it will only get worse. Then where will you be?

Remember the saying about burning the candle at both ends? What happens to the candle? It just melts into nothing that much faster and isn't useful for anything at all.

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