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Who are these husbands/boyfriends who care about decorating? I sure have never met one. I would LOVE to. Every time I show my significant other ideas about the place he will say "oh, that is nice." If I ask him to choose one thing or another he will just say "I have no clue. I don't care about that stuff that much. Just pick something not too frilly." When I have been successful at dragging him to furniture stores, flea markets, antique stores or art galleries he loses interest very quickly.
If he had an opinion on anything I would be thrilled. I often wish he did. I am trying to find a nice desk for him and I have gotten him as far as "I like wood." If I gave him a man cave I would have to decorate it. If he wants time away from me he goes out just like I do when I want time to myself. So no reason for any sort of cave.
And DH stands for Dear Husband.
Ummm. Why do you think he would want you anywhere near it to "decorate?" Before he met you, he had a place. It was decorated well enough for him. I am sure most men wouldn't care one way or the other about improving that decoration - except in the context of keeping the wife happy.
It's just a place in the house (usually basement) where a man can decorate how he wants (sports posters, memoribelia...) have a huge tv with surround sound, and a comfy couch. That's all.
I really don't understand this at all. Our home is "Our" home and neither of us has "control" over all of it, part of it or none of it alone.
My husband and I share a home and we make the decisions together about our home.
There is no his room, her room, our room, it is simply our home, together, equally.
Exactly like the chores in our home, there are chores that need to be done and we do them equally.
The "my man cave" "she has the rest of the house" mentality is beyond my grasp.
Maybe the difference is we live in a Home not a house.
I would be willing to bet that in most homes, the wife decorated and the man "went along."
Who are these husbands/boyfriends who care about decorating? I sure have never met one. I would LOVE to. Every time I show my significant other ideas about the place he will say "oh, that is nice." If I ask him to choose one thing or another he will just say "I have no clue.
LOL... uh huh. I put some small shelves on the wall next to the pool table, me and the fellas decorate it with beer bottles.
If a guy can't be "a man" should his wife chance to walk through the room when he is watching TV, he's not much of a man in my book.
The "man cave" thing is a fad. It was funny when Tim Taylor did various themes on it because it was clearly so ridiculous (remember the "man's kitchen"?). Apparently some people latched onto it as A Good Idea.
Seriously. Adults don't need special rooms to "be a man" or "be a woman". If you want a game room for your ping-pong or foosball table or pool table that's one thing. But the idea that men have to segregate the women out of their lives or they can't be "men" OUGHT to be outdated.
I really don't understand this at all. Our home is "Our" home and neither of us has "control" over all of it, part of it or none of it alone.
My husband and I share a home and we make the decisions together about our home.
There is no his room, her room, our room, it is simply our home, together, equally.
Exactly like the chores in our home, there are chores that need to be done and we do them equally.
The "my man cave" "she has the rest of the house" mentality is beyond my grasp.
Maybe the difference is we live in a Home not a house.
Of course it's "our" home.
We have a fairly large house by most standards, over 3600 sqft. Now, that's a lot of house that needs furniture, decorating, etc. I'm a car guy, so the 3 car garage is mine by default. Our house has a dedicated tiered media room and a game room. When we moved in, the first thing I did was work on "my" rooms. I painted the media room walls and ceiling a very dark gray, so there would be less light reflected from the projector, which I also installed. These are things my wife couldn't care less about.
For her part, my wife went out and bought new furniture for the formal living room. She showed me a few pieces she liked, asked what I liked, but I didn't really care. However she wants to decorate it is fine with me, because we're never in that room anyway. I've sat on the couch and chair in that room about 3 times in four years. Decorating that room is something I couldn't care less about.
We did go shopping together for a new sofa for the family room. I wanted leather, she didn't. Eventually we got a large L shaped leather sectional.
I think some of the posters are making this out to be a much bigger deal than it is. When I was growing up, the "man cave" was the garage, or the home office for my dad. It was a place he could go to relax, get away from kids, etc. Now some newer homes have just added a room inside the house for that, instead of the garage. No big deal.
Ummm. Why do you think he would want you anywhere near it to "decorate?" Before he met you, he had a place. It was decorated well enough for him. I am sure most men wouldn't care one way or the other about improving that decoration - except in the context of keeping the wife happy.
But many in this thread have claimed that the whole man cave idea came across when men really wanted one room they could decorate and make however they wanted. In my situation this would mean that the room would sit empty until I bought some furniture and appliances. He might pick out a tv, but he can do that in any other room in the house. So I don't buy this whole idea.
Really this concept seems to reduce men to the level of little kids. It seems really patronizing.
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