1. Beauty? Here, you'll get far more on a daily basis.
2. KC is 96% White (2005 #s), although a fairly diverse group of Whites
3. Tolerance: Here the term is defined far differently. Your daughter will be different, exotic, and novel. In many parts of the US, this defintion is tantamount to racism...which is of course ludicrous. But the people here are very friendly. Zero nasty comments? Not only is that impossible to promise, it is not perhaps desired. The real world can get nasty. Expecting a Normal Rockwell world would not be how I would want my daughter to go through life.
BTW, not having any nasty comments in NorCal is very lucky. Stay longer and the ignorant will surface. All other cities I mention here have far more racism than CDA and NID. Why? They are major cities with institutionalized racism. Here in CDA, such issues simply do not exist. While there are racists out here, the racism we see here does not have the historical component that is so devastating elsewhere. Look at Boise, it is handling great increases in minorities quite well.
4. Room with View. Seattle? SF? NYC? Boston? Europe? College Towns? CDA has a bit of that and will get more with Riverstone. $275K-$300k? Surely you jest. You could not get that in any city named above, though CDA beings you close. West Seattle is nice. But need $450K+.
5. Flamenco? Go to Sevilla. You will not see it in California except at special fairs or restaurants. Why bother? Save up and go to Andalucia every now and then!
6. Good schools? Hmm...public schools in NYC are horrible, as they are in Boston and SF. Great public schools are in the affluent burbs where you need $800K to $1.5m depending on location. Schools here are not bad...though without the very high end stuff.
Bottom line, and take no offense, but I would start doing a lot of traveling to see the US. If you have such a background you will see that the world you seek does not exist...anywhere. In some places, you have to up the ante to $1m homes. In others, the culture does not exist. Still in others, they are devoid of natural beauty. In all honesty, the closest match you can find is...Europe, where racism is rife but closer to the vest.
CDA is a small city of 40K. The County is 131K. Ain;t very big. However, IMHO, very tolerant and independent. Not a place if you expect and demand allowances for yourself. Beautiful and with housing within your price range. Do not expect Sidewalk cafes, although the area's sophistication will surprise you.
Best of luck.
