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Old 08-16-2012, 02:39 PM
 
Location: Phoenix
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Recognizing a stock Getty Images photo from 2007 may or may not have Mexican "Paisas" pictured, and absolutely won't be the same inmates...

I'm kind of bummed today, the stepfather of my son's girlfriend called him a "wetb4ck"...
Yes, thats not cool but guess what. Have you ever heard of the term "cracker", "redneck", "hick", and a few spanish words, I forgot etc. I have never in my life said a racial slur but have been called all of the above, all from hispanics.
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Old 08-16-2012, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Jacurutu
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Calling a girl a put@ is acceptable because it's not personal? But someone using a derogatory word on your step-son is unacceptable because its personal? If a stranger said it would it be acceptable?

It's safe to assume that the girlfriend knew where he was born. Any chance the girlfriend may have mentioned it to her stepfather?
When I said "personal" it was for context. Many groups of guys, no matter the ethnicity (but thankfully less for the society you are in), are going to engage in sexual harassment, basement-boorish behavior. Even from a solitary stranger it is not as specific of slur.

The occasion was that the stepfather asked her why she was still hanging around "that wetb4ck" loud enough for my son to hear. He's hoping to provoke a confrontation on his terms. Or at least where he can rationalize his way out.

"Who knew why the boy would react like that, all I did was tell my stepdaughter I didn't want her hanging around him"...

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...I think you should be addressing that to IBM[M]useum who thinks personal carries more weight than non-personal name calling. You could see the intimidation and fear the girl had walking past a bunch of guys drinking, cat calling, making sucky noises and calling her a put@. In both instances, it's wrong...
Sure, I agree it is horrible behavior, with sexual harassment affecting more people than bigotry...

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...If a parent is parenting they should be able to sit down and discuss whatever issues THEY have with the girl's relationship. Obviously the step-father and the mother are idiots if they/he can't talk to the girl and have to resort to such tactics to break up the relationship. Those tactics can work against them.

There are plenty of parents who will break up a relationship because their child is seeing someone from a certain ethnic background or race that they, the parent(s), doesn't approve of, who think that their child should be in a relationship with "one of their own". And should the child (assuming over 18) continues with the relationship and it comes down to marriage, then all of a sudden those parents will sing a different tune. I've seen enough of that over my time.
Her mother is wonderful, being the one that has been in mixed race relationships, and having a gay son. I don't know how tolerant he has been with that. With the population of citizen Hispanics in my area, it might just be a resentment of Mexicans.

And at least I do have the experiences of this forum to help me in that regard...

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Sorry, you misunderstood. It was directed at IBM[Museum].

I was suprised at how easily the cat calls were dismissed but how easily he would believe the step father wanted to break them up for racial reasons considering they are a mixed race household. I guess cat calls aren't a big deal to some people. I know they can make for VERY uncomforatable feelings...
No, I identified it as bigotry from the stepfather, not as racism. I don't identify my marriage and family as "mixed race", it is just international. The girlfriend's family is also not a "mixed race household" at this point, as the mother and stepfather are both "White", the interracial sons (one being gay) are from an earlier relationship of the mother, and they have moved out to their own lives.

Maybe they have left because this guy is the way he is...

Sad really, because the rest of the family seems balanced and tolerant...
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Old 08-16-2012, 06:04 PM
 
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Cant be no worse than that chit they sell in those rusted taco trucks
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Old 08-16-2012, 08:08 PM
 
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Force them to eat taco bell.
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Old 08-17-2012, 03:57 PM
 
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Cant be no worse than that chit they sell in those rusted taco trucks
No kidding. Judging by their love handles it appears that none of them have missed a meal either.
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Old 08-19-2012, 03:24 AM
 
Location: Too far from home.
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Sorry, you misunderstood. It was directed at IBM.

I was suprised at how easily the cat calls were dismissed but how easily he would believe the step father wanted to break them up for racial reasons considering they are a mixed race household. I guess cat calls aren't a big deal to some people. I know they can make for VERY uncomforatable feelings.

Again, I'm sorry I didn't make that clearer in my original post.
We're good. I know that sometimes someone can "get in the way" of a discussion while posting.
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