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Old 08-26-2008, 09:15 AM
 
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[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]My heart is bleeding[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I just stopped working today and it devastates me…..the reason is not because I had enough money and I wanted to have a little rest, not because I didn’t like the job, and even if I didn’t I would not afford leaving it. I loved the job and it was huge opportunity for me but I had to leave it because I wasn’t working legally. And I decided to confess myself to my employers and tell them the truth[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Some situations in life make you realize how bad it is t judge people easily without knowing what they are going through. When I was in my own country I used to judge people who were trying to work illegally in a foreign country and my answer was always ‘’ you do not have to stay like that! Just come back home’’ ….but it is not that simple. And in extreme situations you rather work illegally than steal…[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I came here as a F2 visa for love for my husband who works here legally but is not a citizen. Now the funniest of this story is that when you come here as a F2 it means you depend on the person who you are coming for, implying that you do not have the right to go to school, and do not have the right to WORK; you just have the right to stay as long as needed, meaning as long as your husband will be here in a legal situation.[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]When you do not expect such a situation, it is very hard to accept and you rapidly start endorsing the drawbacks in your daily life… After a few months it was just no longer possible to leave like that. Not only is it hard for an ambitious person, skilled, with degrees, and a strong will to succeed, finding herself forced to keep herself from working, but also it was clear that with my husband only salary we wouldn’t make it .There came the time when I started getting informed about my situation, my possible options and I realized I couldn’t really expect miracles with my type of visas[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I posted my resume on carrier builder, monster, h1bvisa jobs…. Nothings worked. What depressed me even more is the number of calls I was receiving everyday from companies willing to interview me and stepping back as soon as I was introducing my problem…’’we cannot provide you with a working permit. Call us back when you get one’’ HOW DO YOU WANT ME TO GET ONE WHEN YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO CAN HELP ME? …. It was very hard for me to admit that I cannot work in the USA, not because I am not qualified, not because I am lazy, oh no, not because I do not have the will to succeed, but just because I was not born in the right place at the right time…[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I still remember when me and my husband were going to the post office or any other service of the same type and were facing unskilled and impassionate people behind their desk, waiting for the day to end, the month to end and get their paycheck. I remember telling my husband that I want to tell them to be happy were they are, to thank God they are working and to take profit of it, because if I was in their shoes, with the same chances it would take me a year to become a manager and couple of years to be even better…[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]That’s how months were going by, no job, no change….the lawyers were all telling me the same things and some even proposed me to get divorced from my husband, get married to an American and marry my husband back in a few years when I get my papers….No I do not want that…I am in a legal situation in the USA, I can drive, I can have a bank account…I just can’t work….and that’s all I am asking for. Most of the lawyers I saw told me that the other option then would be to find THE Company that would want to sponsor me. It is not very hard for companies to sponsor foreigners but most of the time, why would they go through all this process just for YOU when they can have someone else right away, cheaper, who does not require all that, with the same skills or even better….I knew I wasn’t that exceptional to hope for it. But still I tried. I applied for the h1b visa through companies like DUPONT but I was not qualified because it is much easier for people with IT degrees or other sciences…my bachelors in business is nothing but exceptional….[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Then came the time when I decided to apply for a job at XXXX. This company has always been my dream job place since I was 15. I already knew my chances to be hired but it was my last try. I knew that I couldn’t go anywhere because of the inaccessible working permit and I knew that even more because me and my husband came to the point where I was ready to accept any type of job but even cleaning rooms require a working permit, I know because I tried that, but also babysitting, waitressing …..[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]So I decided that my last attempt would be the dream job I was talking about and my desperation was at the highest point, making me ready to anything to WORK. I used somebody else’s papers…. Yes I did….and a few years from now I was seeing this situation so far from mine, that I was judging, thinking that it only happens to others….I did… and it worked…I was hired…started working….started making money, starting loving the job, the brand I was working for, the people…..Then it started getting to heavy to bear…. a false name a false birth date….making you starting wondering how long it is going to last…I was feeling in myself that I was getting better and better and when I was the star selling associate of the week , my heart was broken to see a name printed in big characters at the employees door, a name that is not mine….anytime I was thinking too much about that, the following week my number were not as great. But I kept on working hard, never called out and always willing to do better.[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Too days ago it was my birthday and it devastated me to realize I couldn’t talk about it because it is not the same on the papers, since the papers are not mine…. I decided to talk…. I decided to admit everything and lose my dream job… lose the only job I was missing on my days of …the only place where I was seeing myself for the rest of my life….I had to quit….true that I took I big risk by saying the truth, I can still see their faces in chock…. I couldn’t ask for more than going home and thank God they didn’t call the police, because they were sympathetic even if they didn’t understand my I acted that way…because they don’t know what I have been through I know it was a very dangerous way of life, very risky... I have been in law school before going to business school. i know exactly what a regulation means but I didn’t have the choice….Now I feel like when you have just broken up with your boyfriend, and you sleep at night hoping that his call will wake you up in the morning…but he won’t call you and you are going to have to start over, get strong and think about the good things God offers you…you are alive, healthy, and the ones you love are alive and healthy as well, anything besides that, you can get over it.[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]This is my story….extreme situations get to extreme actions…and as a lovely wife and mother, you are ready to do anything to offer your children a descent life….Hope it was clear enough…my English is from school. My native language is French.[/FONT][/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Thanks for reading[/FONT][/SIZE]
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Old 08-26-2008, 09:22 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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No offense, but I won’t attempt to read your comments unless you edit and provide proper sentence structure, separation of paragraphs, etc.
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Old 08-26-2008, 09:33 AM
 
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No offense, but I won’t attempt to read your comments unless you edit and provide proper sentence structure, separation of paragraphs, etc.
I'll second that. Pass me the Excedrin and let's give it another 'go' after a little 'editorial cleanup'...
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Old 08-26-2008, 09:42 AM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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My heart is bleeding

I just stopped working today and it devastates me…..the reason is not because I had enough money and I wanted to have a little rest, not because I didn’t like the job, and even if I didn’t I would not afford leaving it. I loved the job and it was huge opportunity for me but I had to leave it because I wasn’t working legally. And I decided to confess myself to my employers and tell them the truth

Some situations in life make you realize how bad it is t judge people easily without knowing what they are going through. When I was in my own country I used to judge people who were trying to work illegally in a foreign country and my answer was always ‘’ you do not have to stay like that! Just come back home’’ ….but it is not that simple. And in extreme situations you rather work illegally than steal…

I came here as a F2 visa for love for my husband who works here legally but is not a citizen. Now the funniest of this story is that when you come here as a F2 it means you depend on the person who you are coming for, implying that you do not have the right to go to school, and do not have the right to WORK; you just have the right to stay as long as needed, meaning as long as your husband will be here in a legal situation.

When you do not expect such a situation, it is very hard to accept and you rapidly start endorsing the drawbacks in your daily life… After a few months it was just no longer possible to leave like that. Not only is it hard for an ambitious person, skilled, with degrees, and a strong will to succeed, finding herself forced to keep herself from working, but also it was clear that with my husband only salary we wouldn’t make it .There came the time when I started getting informed about my situation, my possible options and I realized I couldn’t really expect miracles with my type of visas

I posted my resume on carrier builder, monster, h1bvisa jobs…. Nothings worked. What depressed me even more is the number of calls I was receiving everyday from companies willing to interview me and stepping back as soon as I was introducing my problem…’’we cannot provide you with a working permit. Call us back when you get one’’ HOW DO YOU WANT ME TO GET ONE WHEN YOU ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO CAN HELP ME? …. It was very hard for me to admit that I cannot work in the USA, not because I am not qualified, not because I am lazy, oh no, not because I do not have the will to succeed, but just because I was not born in the right place at the right time…

I still remember when me and my husband were going to the post office or any other service of the same type and were facing unskilled and impassionate people behind their desk, waiting for the day to end, the month to end and get their paycheck. I remember telling my husband that I want to tell them to be happy were they are, to thank God they are working and to take profit of it, because if I was in their shoes, with the same chances it would take me a year to become a manager and couple of years to be even better…

That’s how months were going by, no job, no change….the lawyers were all telling me the same things and some even proposed me to get divorced from my husband, get married to an American and marry my husband back in a few years when I get my papers….No I do not want that…I am in a legal situation in the USA, I can drive, I can have a bank account…I just can’t work….and that’s all I am asking for. Most of the lawyers I saw told me that the other option then would be to find THE Company that would want to sponsor me. It is not very hard for companies to sponsor foreigners but most of the time, why would they go through all this process just for YOU when they can have someone else right away, cheaper, who does not require all that, with the same skills or even better….I knew I wasn’t that exceptional to hope for it. But still I tried. I applied for the h1b visa through companies like DUPONT but I was not qualified because it is much easier for people with IT degrees or other sciences…my bachelors in business is nothing but exceptional….

Then came the time when I decided to apply for a job at XXXX. This company has always been my dream job place since I was 15. I already knew my chances to be hired but it was my last try. I knew that I couldn’t go anywhere because of the inaccessible working permit and I knew that even more because me and my husband came to the point where I was ready to accept any type of job but even cleaning rooms require a working permit, I know because I tried that, but also babysitting, waitressing …..

So I decided that my last attempt would be the dream job I was talking about and my desperation was at the highest point, making me ready to anything to WORK. I used somebody else’s papers…. Yes I did….and a few years from now I was seeing this situation so far from mine, that I was judging, thinking that it only happens to others….I did… and it worked…I was hired…started working….started making money, starting loving the job, the brand I was working for, the people…..Then it started getting to heavy to bear…. a false name a false birth date….making you starting wondering how long it is going to last…I was feeling in myself that I was getting better and better and when I was the star selling associate of the week , my heart was broken to see a name printed in big characters at the employees door, a name that is not mine….anytime I was thinking too much about that, the following week my number were not as great. But I kept on working hard, never called out and always willing to do better.

Too days ago it was my birthday and it devastated me to realize I couldn’t talk about it because it is not the same on the papers, since the papers are not mine…. I decided to talk…. I decided to admit everything and lose my dream job… lose the only job I was missing on my days of …the only place where I was seeing myself for the rest of my life….I had to quit….true that I took I big risk by saying the truth, I can still see their faces in chock…. I couldn’t ask for more than going home and thank God they didn’t call the police, because they were sympathetic even if they didn’t understand my I acted that way…because they don’t know what I have been through I know it was a very dangerous way of life, very risky... I have been in law school before going to business school. i know exactly what a regulation means but I didn’t have the choice….Now I feel like when you have just broken up with your boyfriend, and you sleep at night hoping that his call will wake you up in the morning…but he won’t call you and you are going to have to start over, get strong and think about the good things God offers you…you are alive, healthy, and the ones you love are alive and healthy as well, anything besides that, you can get over it.

This is my story….extreme situations get to extreme actions…and as a lovely wife and mother, you are ready to do anything to offer your children a descent life….Hope it was clear enough…my English is from school. My native language is French.


Thanks for reading
Here I cleaned it up a bit (I'm feeling a little generous this morning). I didn't edit for grammar, punctuation, etc. and I left all the drama (I told you, I was feeling a little generous...)
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Old 08-26-2008, 10:21 AM
 
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You know, I had always wanted to live in the UK and work for the BBC. I am not married to a british citizen, and I am not eligible for a work visa there.

We all have dreams...and we all have to follow the laws. I cannot feel badly for her.
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Old 08-26-2008, 10:21 AM
 
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Thanks, DontH8Me! Obviously, the OP has disappeared.

To the OP: I appreciate your honesty, and the fact that you could no longer live a lie. However, you stole an identity, and that person may have to answer to the IRS for unreported earnings. Furthermore, that individual may have been collecting unemployment benefits during the period you worked. If so, that would be an additional nightmare caused by your decision to commit a crime. Did you ever think of how your actions may have adversely impacted the life of your victim?

There are millions of legal citizens in this country who are unemployed or underemployed; they too have families to support. Has your husband considered working a part-time job? Is he as concerned about your financial status as you?

I’m sorry, but I do not condone identity theft. Perhaps you and your husband should return to your country of origin, where you both can legally work.
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Old 08-26-2008, 10:22 AM
 
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I came here as a F2 visa for love for my husband who works here legally but is not a citizen. Now the funniest of this story is that when you come here as a F2 it means you depend on the person who you are coming for, implying that you do not have the right to go to school, and do not have the right to WORK; you just have the right to stay as long as needed, meaning as long as your husband will be here in a legal situation.

When you do not expect such a situation, it is very hard to accept and you rapidly start endorsing the drawbacks in your daily life… After a few months it was just no longer possible to leave like that. Not only is it hard for an ambitious person, skilled, with degrees, and a strong will to succeed, finding herself forced to keep herself from working, but also it was clear that with my husband only salary we wouldn’t make it .There came the time when I started getting informed about my situation, my possible options and I realized I couldn’t really expect miracles with my type of visas

Woman, you knew exactly what the deal was when you came here. All the cards were on the table, everything was spelled out very clearly. Let me help you out.

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F2 it means you depend on the person who you are coming for, implying that you do not have the right to go to school, and do not have the right to WORK;
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Can F-2 Dependents Be Employed?
The F-2 visa does not permit the holder to take a job for pay.
https://www.visanow.com/US_IMMIGRATION_VISA/visadirectory/visas/f2.asp (broken link)

What does this say? It says you cannot take a paying job if you are here under an F2 visa, right? Surely you understood that when you came here. If this was not acceptable to you, why did you come to the US?
Now there is the expectation that our laws should be changed to accommodate you. It does not matter if you are the next Einstein, you cannot legally work here without a work permit. These are the terms for an F2 visa. Either follow the rules or go home.

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So I decided that my last attempt would be the dream job I was talking about and my desperation was at the highest point, making me ready to anything to WORK. I used somebody else’s papers…. Yes I did….
If you used someone else's SS#, that's called a felony. There is nothing remotely amusing about committing ID theft in order to make your life easier. Have you ever stopped to consider all the problems you may have caused for the person whose ID you stole?

If you are looking for sympathy, you will get none from me because you deserve none. You knew you could not legally work when you came here. Grow up.
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