Why do they say these things? (Hope: college, living in, moving)

[ME-Evergreen]

Originally Posted by domergurl

Scotland in da house! A place I want to visit ... is it true that if you can dip it in batter, you'll deep fry ANYTHING??? Haggis ... not sure if I want to try it, but when in Scotland. By far my favorite accent in the world.

I looked at it this way when I left for a little while. I never intended on returning, but once we had kids, we felt that being closer to family would be a good thing. Sometimes we wonder if we made the right decision because we love Chicago so much, but you do what you have to do right?

I remember when I found my job in Chicago while I was finishing up grad school. I went ahead and got an apartment secured and then announced where I was going upon completion of of grad school to my parents. That way they couldn't say much. I guess they lost some sleep the first week I was there on my own. So sweet isn't it? But then my Dad came for a visit and he thought it was the cooles thing ever. He realized why I wanted to live where I lived.

Very true indeed...the Scots can fry anything. As far as haggis, yes they do eat it here but since we are vegetarians like many Europeans, we have not tried haggis. My husband did once about ten years ago and was unimpressed. The accent is lovely but we do not notice it any longer--the American accent sounds very strange to us now! Scotland is a lovely country in many ways, but it is very different from the US. One thing they have here are Highland cows and we have fallen in love with these incredible animals! They are in the northeastern US and if we move there, we will definitely have a Highland cow or two! They are the most gentle animals with wonderful personalities and are beautiful!

The world is a large place and there are many places to live that are great. Children (we have 12 ad 13 old daughters) are generally very adaptable although they do not get too excited about moving far away.

I wish you all the best!

[domergurl]

How lovely ME!! Please come back and check in with us Hoosiers anytime ok?

[volubilis22]

Thanks to everyone for all the input on this leaving Indiana issue. When I first considered moving to Texas, and I started telling people in Indiana about it, I guess I assumed they'd think that was ok. I quickly found out that wasn't the case with many people, but who cares? I love having an adventurous spirit, lol! I don't find fault with them for wanting to stay here.

Someone mentioned something about people who are unmarried past a certain age. I have certainly dealt with that issue as well, since I have never been married and have no children. That does not mean I am anti-marriage or that I don't like kids. Some people think if you are not married by a certain age that there is just something wrong with you, but again, who cares?

Yes, I would agree it may be a good idea not to "advertise" wanting to move away. My finding has been there are a few zealous souls who truly believe I am planning something foolish and need to be corrected. It only ends up causing arguments and pushes people apart. I once had to ask to end a conversation because this kind of situation came up, and the person was so persistent in telling me I was wrong.

[Eddie Lightning Frog]

It's funny that you bring this up. I'm in the exact opposite position but experiencing the same thing. I've lived in Texas for 22 years now. Houston, Dallas/Richardson, and Austin. I'm moving to Bloomington, Indiana this fall for IU Law, and it's the same thing here.
Everyone's reaction is "Indiana?! Why??" People act like there's something horribly wrong with me for wanting to leave Texas. So I think this may not be limited to just Indiana, or even small towns for that matter. It's just cultive feelings, I guess. If you want to leave the tribe for another, people are going to question it.
It sounds like the only difference between here and there is that no one is inviting me back. Bleh. As much as I loved Dallas, I'll be glad to leave the crime and high temps behind. Going to be 101 here in Austin tomorrow!

[domergurl]

I used to work at IU Law School. You are going to have a great time! It's 3 years .. you can go anywhere after that.

Best of luck! You'll have to keep me posted on stuff going on there when you arrive!

[rogetsthesaurus]

I'm an Indiana native and I know where the OP is coming from. I grew up in a really small Indiana town and people actually wanted the young kids to leave - they knew there was nothing for them where I grew up. Come back and visit, sure...but don't end up staying in the same town where you grew up (we had one stoplight...yeah)

I moved to Bloomington for college and loved it. I spent some time teaching in Scotland and Italy and moved back to Bloomington. It hasn't been the same. I was going to move to Chicago, but now I am moving to Phoenix, AZ this summer. People think I am crazy for a multitude of reasons, some involving Phoenix in particular and others because - to them - Bloomington is a utopia. I remember talking to a cashier at a bookstore in Cleveland, OH last year and when she found out I was from Bloomington, she remarked, "Lucky you...you knew a good thing when you saw it." Well, yeah, I like Bloomington...but there is MORE! I don't have a family, a house, etc. I have a job I like, but I'm a teacher so I can teach anywhere.

Go to Dallas and don't worry about expalining anything to anyone. As another poster on here said, people don't have to accept that you are moving and you don't have to accept their reasons. If people like you, of course they'll want you to stay around them, unless they're uber enlightened and know well enough not meddle in your business.

I have found that a large number of Hoosiers don't like things "outside" Indiana. They choose not to discuss current events, have no desire to backpack around Europe, and would not think about eating at a Mongolian restaurant. And that's ok! To each his/her own.

[CountryGal05]

I was born and raised in Indiana. Actually muncie. I didnt like it there so my mom and I moved to Noblesville then now in Indianapolis. I like it, i mean i grew up here but I want to move south. I want to live in AL! Alot of my family are like you dont need to move there, there is nothing there for you. Well they dont know that. I dont even know that! haha I know i dont know anyone there. Its gonna be hard but I am gonna do it! Atleast for a year or maybe more. I would love to be there. I just want to sleep under a different piece of sky!
But I thought i would let you know you aren't the only ones who get told not to go and that you are crazy for wanting to leave Indiana?!?!? haha

[JRB73IN]

I moved to Alabama when I was in 8th grade, I quickly realized that the southern hospitality only is true if your just visiting, they seemed to be still hung up on the civil war. I would like to move away to Myrtle Beach, we vacation there yearly, but as with most people, my wife and I both have careers here that prevent us from moving. So we stay here and pay these outragous taxes. As for the person that started this post, my wife is from shelby county and we lived there in Waldron for 9 years and they are a little different there. It is the last county that adjoins marion county (Indianapolis) that has not allowed any growth. So I wish you the best in Texas and don't let the nay sayers get ya down, you do what is right for you!

[Jakehorror]

Your NOT crazy for wanting to get out of here. My wife & I just got back to Indiana after a few months in Los Angeles. I loved CA! I got along better with the people (more open minded it seemed), however my employer decided to file bankruptcy and it was too costly to try to stay there, so that landed us back in the affordable corn state.
Some people are just set in their ways, you can see this just by travelling to other states how much hoosiers think they are the only ones in this great country of ours.
The only thing really keeping us here is the cost of living here is cheap, but the pay is less here too so who knows, but I do know I was paying $1200. for a 1 bedromm apt in LA versus our $550. 2 bedroom here, so I think alot of hoosiers are just really used to living cheap (myself included) and that keeps them here. But things are going up here too so....
I saw things out west (Texas included) that made me feel alive, the scenery is so awesome compared to the flat null scenery in Indiana. Sorry but it's true. You get what you pay for I guess.
Either way, do what YOU want to do and take the negative opinions and dispose of them, works for me! Take care and good luck!!!!!

[domergurl]

Jake!!! I was wondering how you were doing out in Cali! I'm really sorry that it didn't work out ... seriously, I was really happy that you were jacked to go make a go of it out there and be happy. Maybe Texas will be a fit for you????

Virtual hug.