Back home again in Indiana and ready to give up (Indianapolis: find a job, school district) - City-Data Forum

bluebelt1234 · 09-14-2009, 12:17 PM

I moved back to Indiana last week and I am absolutely miserable. I actually feel worse here than I did in Yuma. I am unemployed due to a wrongful termination in AZ. I can't find a job that pays halfway decent. I am stuck living with my parents who live out in the middle of nowhere. They live in Greene County which is pure hell for me. I am a total city slicker. I love big cities so I am now stuck pay huge transportation costs to Indianapolis everyday to maintain sanity. I do actually enjoy Indianapolis. In AZ, I enjoyed Phoenix and San Diego as well and thought that Yuma was much too small. I hate small towns and rural areas and don't know how people maintain sanity living in one.

I really want to go back to school but my family isn't supportive of the idea. They think I should stay in teaching which I hate or go work in a factory. I have exercise induced asthma so working in a fast paced physical job would be a problem for me. I would also have problems working in an environment where smoking is allowed.

I would just LOVE to be in a large city with lots of single people in my age group. I am 29. For me any town with less than 200,000 people is much too small.

I am just so depressed right now I feel like I can't go on.

I just find myself asking this question a lot lately. I can't find a job that pays half way decent. The only job I could find when I graduated from IU 5 years ago was in a bordertown where I was later wrongfully terminated.

Now I can't find a job anywhere and am stuck being a 29 year old loser who lives with their parents.

grmasterb · 09-14-2009, 12:32 PM

If you really want to go to school, and do so in a large city, then why not just do it? Who cares if your parents are supportive? You're 29.

mbuszu · 09-14-2009, 12:56 PM

Wake up and realize that the world is yours... stop freaking out, stop seeking excuses, start acting rational, and believe in yourself. Right now living with your parents is a good thing... many people cannot do that but really need to as the economy has gone down the toilet and a lot of people are jobless. You need to get skills employers need or skills you can use to start your own business. Psychological help might be a good idea too, if not just finding people you can speak with or relate to in person.

All that said, I feel for you and wish you the best. The economy will get better as will your employment situation.

Toxic Toast · 09-14-2009, 12:59 PM

My lady friend's sister and bro-in-law live with her parents; she has no job, and they have three kids; plus 2 giant dogs and a cat. Talk about a loser.......

*last part is in jest, sort of

domergurl · 09-14-2009, 02:31 PM

you're not alone! My advice is to be willing to relocate to wherever the job is. And not be picky if something comes your way locally. There are a lot of people marking time right now. I remember after I graduated from IU without a job, I was freaking out and then a job came to fruition within a week and I was outa there. This was during the early 90's recession. I took a job that I knew I wouldn't like, but it got me in the door and then I was able to work my way into a position that I loved ...

ditto what grmasterb says ... you're 29. Are you on the substitute teaching rolls in your local school district? It's a foot in the door, even though it's not ideal, it's $. You're living with your folks, save up that cash and then next summer, get out of dodge and go back to school if you want ...

Chin up.

ShadowCaver · 09-14-2009, 08:12 PM

No offense, but IMHO someone is only a loser or stupid if they whine and believe that they are such. As mbuszu wisely stated above, as elsewhere also mentioned, take stock of what you have, realize that you have much yet to live for, know that at least for now you have a sturdy protective roof [literally and figuratively] over you noggin - now, go use that noggin, the same one that acquire a degree. BTW, sorry if missed it, but what is the degree in? One of my recommendations, as I do this, is to make a list - as said, take stock in what you have currently, make another list of what you'd like to have, where'd ya like to be,,, and then draw various plans and options on how to get from point A to B, even if it might include sinking some more resources and time into more or different course, another field of study that interests you, or at least helps get you employment.

Regret, in that it sours your memories is not positive... Regret, in using it to teach, to learn from, to improve next steps, that is worthwhile.

analog_kid86 · 09-14-2009, 08:33 PM

Don't be a victim of your own circumstance.

Mollym313 · 09-16-2009, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by bluebelt1234

I moved back to Indiana last week and I am absolutely miserable. I actually feel worse here than I did in Yuma. I am unemployed due to a wrongful termination in AZ. I can't find a job that pays halfway decent. I am stuck living with my parents who live out in the middle of nowhere. They live in Greene County which is pure hell for me. I am a total city slicker. I love big cities so I am now stuck pay huge transportation costs to Indianapolis everyday to maintain sanity. I do actually enjoy Indianapolis. In AZ, I enjoyed Phoenix and San Diego as well and thought that Yuma was much too small. I hate small towns and rural areas and don't know how people maintain sanity living in one.

I really want to go back to school but my family isn't supportive of the idea. They think I should stay in teaching which I hate or go work in a factory. I have exercise induced asthma so working in a fast paced physical job would be a problem for me. I would also have problems working in an environment where smoking is allowed.

I would just LOVE to be in a large city with lots of single people in my age group. I am 29. For me any town with less than 200,000 people is much too small.

I am just so depressed right now I feel like I can't go on.

I just find myself asking this question a lot lately. I can't find a job that pays half way decent. The only job I could find when I graduated from IU 5 years ago was in a bordertown where I was later wrongfully terminated.

Now I can't find a job anywhere and am stuck being a 29 year old loser who lives with their parents.

Ok...here is my Psych education coming out so I beg your pardon. You are depressed and obviously reaching out on this forum. However, by saying "I can't go on" is rather disturbing. You might need some professional help, there are agencies that offer services according to income and sometimes if your income is 0 than you pay 0.

I will be quite honest...if I lived at home with my parents I would be miserable too. But at least you have a place to go, some are not so fortunate. You are going to have to stand your ground with your parents. ok...now I don't want to sound like your mommy but you need to get your attitude in check because your making things worse.

Hunker down, pull yourself out of that pit your in and believe in yourself. There are career centers that will help you jazz up your resume. Chalk this up as an opportunity to learn and better yourself.

bethnh09 · 09-20-2009, 08:50 PM

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Someone somewhere always has it worse.

bluebelt1234 · 09-24-2009, 01:22 PM

I am doing better now except for the fact the state of AZ has decided to suddenly stop paying my unemployment. I just hope I find a job before I get it straightened out. I am tired of worrying about unemployment anyway. I would much rather be earning a paycheck.