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Old 06-20-2011, 06:13 PM
 
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A woman I meet through a website a long time ago and I developed a friendship and eventually ended our friendship. We had a few fights (online) and recently (after like 5 years) she sent an anonymous email to my employer saying I post on a board on company's time. She also threaten with send the info to the government (we are contractors)

I am very scared, not for my job but my safety. Is this something that would be consider harassment? Or Stalking?
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:02 PM
 
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After reading your post I'm not clear. Are they telling you they're sending the information to your boss? Are you posting on company time? You work for the government as contract workers? I'm also not clear on the link between this person telling on you for posting on company time and your safety. Maybe you should tell us more.
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:15 PM
 
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After reading your post I'm not clear. Are they telling you they're sending the information to your boss? Are you posting on company time? You work for the government as contract workers? I'm also not clear on the link between this person telling on you for posting on company time and your safety. Maybe you should tell us more.
yes she send this to my boss.

I did post on company time.

i do work as a contractor for the gvmt.

I am just afraid this person is so fixated on me
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:35 PM
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I know of another message board where something like this happened. It was probably in another state from yours and it was about 10 years ago, so the laws may have changed, but anonymously contacting the employer wasn't illegal in that case.

You might want to talk to a lawyer to see if there's anything worth getting a court order over. If you've been threatened with bodily harm, skip the lawyer and go to the police.
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Old 06-20-2011, 07:49 PM
 
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Thanks Bo. Yes, Contacting my employer was not illegal. The email said she is in a watchdog group. I offered my resignation which was not accepted. I knowledge I posted on company time and my boss told me if we got a complaint from the gvmt. he will respond that I acknowledge it, obviously not to do it again and that counseling was provided.

This woman said a long time ago that I was a [bad word here], that she was going to destroy my career. I guess she is trying to get me fire. It is a personal vendetta
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Old 06-20-2011, 08:04 PM
 
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At some point communicating threats via the internet might come into play.
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Old 06-20-2011, 08:06 PM
 
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At some point communicating threats via the internet might come into play.
I never threatened this person. I posted my opinions on a boards.
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Old 06-21-2011, 02:09 AM
 
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. I offered my resignation which was not accepted. I knowledge I posted on company time and my boss told me if we got a complaint from the gvmt. he will respond that I acknowledge it, obviously not to do it again and that counseling was provided.
Sounds like you have already defused it. You've talked to your boss about it, which is what I would have advised you to do, and there was probably no need to offer to resign.

It would have been sufficient to just inform your boss that you are being threatened by a disgruntled person you once had a relationship with, who is now out to cause you harm. These kinds of threats occur very often when romances conclude, and even when they are carried out, are often seen for what they are.
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Old 06-21-2011, 01:27 PM
 
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I never threatened this person. I posted my opinions on a boards.
It sure sounds like she is threatening you, that was my point. I'm going to get you fire, etc.
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Old 06-21-2011, 04:44 PM
 
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Sounds like you have already defused it. You've talked to your boss about it, which is what I would have advised you to do, and there was probably no need to offer to resign.

It would have been sufficient to just inform your boss that you are being threatened by a disgruntled person you once had a relationship with, who is now out to cause you harm. These kinds of threats occur very often when romances conclude, and even when they are carried out, are often seen for what they are.
He said in the original post that his main concern wasn't his job, but his safety, he's looking for info regarding keeping this crazy person from destroying any other part of his life, be it financial or physical or otherwise.
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