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Old 10-15-2015, 08:14 PM
 
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I've been spending a lot of time on Facebook and I've noticed a few things... mainly that people tend to post the most meaningless drivel I've ever seen. Memes, videos, updates about sports games, you name it. Extremely few people actually talk about their own lives, and really, if I'm going to have interpersonal relationships with people, I have to know what's really on their minds - not what stupid cat pictures they've found. (And don't get on me about that. I have a cat, and a dog. I'm not anti-animal. I'm just anti-vacuous crap, and that's what "meme" posting is, when compared to posting an actual clip from the thought processes going through your mind.)

It seems like my posts don't get seen anywhere near as much as I would like, and I always end up feeling worse after a Facebook session than I did before I started. I'm wondering if there are other social networks out there that fit the following criteria:

1) Nowhere near as polluted with vacuous crap as Facebook

2) People actually care about one another and evince such

3) It's more like a round table discussion among human beings, rather than an endless low-quality amateur comedy exposition where every person in the boundless legion is trying to out-shout the others, turning it into a cacophony of unintelligible noise.

I know there are tons of social networks out there and I really don't have the time nor the desire to try each one. I'd rather find one or two that seem to fit what I seek, and invest significant time into trying out just those. Any suggestions?
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Old 10-15-2015, 08:43 PM
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Are you looking for a non-anonymous place that's more like City-Data or an anonymous place with better discussions than City-Data?
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Old 10-15-2015, 09:36 PM
 
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Are you looking for a non-anonymous place that's more like City-Data or an anonymous place with better discussions than City-Data?
I guess I'd be going for "non-anonymous". In all honesty, to be blunt, I feel like people don't give enough of a damn about me on Facebook to make it worth the time and effort. I want to develop some notoriety, some name recognition, etc. Seems like everyone wants that to an extent, but struggles to find a way to get it... even among one's "friends".

For example, I've been tempted to create a Facebook group where the rules are simple.

1) Every week you must post at least one thing about your own life, whether that be a thought you have which is relevant to you personally, or a detail about something that happened to you, etc.

2) Every week you must reply to at least three posts made by people other than you, so as to develop conversation.

3) Absolutely no memes.

4) Videos and pictures are only permitted if they show you, if you personally took them, or if they were already posted in the group by another member of the group.

5) Songs are only permitted if you, or another member of the group, wrote or performed the song. Copyright infringement is strictly forbidden and will result in disciplinary action.

It would all be geared toward "care about the other people here".
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Old 10-16-2015, 09:45 AM
 
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I'll be watching for replies myself. I'm not much of a fan of Facebook for the same reasons you give - which is why I don't "follow" the handful of Facebook friends I have so that I don't get the drivel. I've found I use Facebook as a general place to get news and information about things/organizations that interest me rather than going to my bookmarks and clicking the various individual website links.

I spend more time on city-data than anywhere else. However, as great as conversations might be, they don't seem to last long, or if they do, they lose the umph because threads are supposed to stay on topic. Discussions about, say, the internet could branch off to many other things such as a particular website that sells crazy and unique Halloween decorations which could easily branch to how someone decorates for Halloween which could lead to holiday celebration traditions and then move toward recipes that bombed and the funny story that went with it to suggestions of a great website about cooking. Throughout there could be spin-offs on all sorts of topics from having a hard time dealing with the holiday crazies or soliciting help to buy a gift for a 15-year-old.

I like the rules you propose. They're very similar to an online class I took in which we had to write essays on a discussion board and classmates had to respond. I had to read and respond to at least three other classmates' writings and I had to respond back to those who had commented on mine. Conversations and discussions were "forced" in that way, and on occasion we would get off-topic, but that was fine.

We all have so many life events that we would like to share and chat with others about just like we'd do if we were sitting around a kitchen table with a cup of coffee or glass of wine. I don't find that Facebook is anything like a kitchen table. There are just too many boasts or woe-is-me-feel-sorry-for-me ... I find it impossible to reply to these things.

Have you investigated General Forums>Other Topics>Community Chat to see if that comes close to what you're hoping to find? http://www.city-data.com/forum/community-chat/
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