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Old 07-31-2008, 09:18 AM
 
Location: The Lone Star State
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I've got an ex who, maybe every 4-6 months, sends me a rant email message.

Filters don't seem to work because she goes and gets a new free web email account each time.

I never reply. But I wish there was a way of not giving her the satisfaction that I even saw the message.

Rather than change my address for something that doesn't happen too often, is there a way I can make it look to her like the message was undeliverable? I was looking for some program out there that might do that. That way she would think I changed my email address.

Any other ideas?
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Old 07-31-2008, 09:35 AM
 
Location: North of the Cow Pasture and South of the Wind Turbines
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Change your email address?
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Old 07-31-2008, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Lemon Grove, CA USA
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Just put filters in place and you'll never even know they are sending them.
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Old 07-31-2008, 09:55 AM
 
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If filters don't work, how are you going to detect her incoming message?

You can set up an autoreply, as people do when they go on vacation, and change it to look like an error message. The problem is, the sender will probably keep trying to resend the message over and over again.

I'd change my email address, or respond and tell her you've moved on and you hope she can too.
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Old 07-31-2008, 10:19 AM
 
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Set up a filter with key phrases that she is likely to use, or names she uses repeatably (children, old friends, etc) instead of the email account name. If you have any of her old messages scan them and compare for oft-repeated phrases.

Forward all messages from her to the Homeland Security office. Perhaps they will consider it a terrorist threat and have a talk with her. (oops!)
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Old 07-31-2008, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Send her an email saying to quit sending you emails and that your email system has junked everyone of the previous ones, so they haven't even been read, and will continue to do so.
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Old 07-31-2008, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Happy wherever I am - Florida now
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I use hotmail and restrict all incoming emails to come from those on my contacts list which I keep very limited. This works great.

I also have a second email acct from elsewhere and give that one to others which bounces over to my main email acct.
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Old 07-31-2008, 12:39 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Maybe you could tell her your new email address is yourname@gmail. com, and forget about it.
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Old 07-31-2008, 06:13 PM
 
Location: HoCo, MD
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just respond to her with a bogus SMTP error message indicating that your account is not found (and change the reply address to mail-admin@domain. com). Of course, if she's savy, she can look at the SMTP headers and see that it didn't come from the server.

If it was me, I would join a bunch of mailing lists and newsletters on her behalf.

Seriously, I'd just start ignoring her messages. It takes 2 seconds....
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Old 08-01-2008, 08:50 PM
 
Location: WV
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Yep, there is a way. You can use a spam bouncer to make it look like your email address is invalid.

First, be aware that spam bouncers aren't the best way to deal with real spam. For all the reasons, see What is Wrong With Bouncing Spam - CastleCopsWiki (http://wiki.castlecops.com/What_is_Wrong_With_Bouncing_Spam - broken link)

For a specific email like this, a spam bouncer would be perfect. Try Bounce Bully

That is assuming you have a pop3 email account as opposed to web based mail. If you're using gmail, I think you can pop it but I'm not sure.
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