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Old 02-10-2011, 10:24 AM
 
Location: San Marcos, TX
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I found there's a bar called King and Queens tap downtown. That would be a good sign that it is not tucked away in some corner. Waterloo/Cedar Falls is not as large as San Antonio, of course, but I think you will find similar people. Conservative, but not hostile. Each town has several natural food stores but I am not sure how large they are. That is always a good sign to me. I think the thing in most of Iowa is if you are not in people's face they do not really care what you are doing. We kind of want people to be just like us but if they're not we don't really want to talk about it. My friend from New Orleans is the whitest prettiest girl you could ever meet and she thinks it's hard to make friends here...so that should tell you a lot. People here are very family centered and even in metro areas they are self involved because they are very busy. Also there is a great waterpark in waterloo we are planning on going again this summer.

Thanks for the information. The water park is city-run, right? I always thought it was so awesome how other places have these sorts of city run water parks and I always thought it was kind of absurd how we don't have that here, where we have such miserably hot and long summers! We are always under water restrictions though.

My fiance and I are not very social. I mean, we are nice enough people but we tend to hang out at home, study, watch movies, and do things with our kids. We are past the party phase and we have a few select friends here in SA that we will get together with very occasionally for dinner or something. So while getting along and getting to know people is nice, it's not vital. We are very busy with kids, school, work, the house, and don't have time to pursue friendships that aren't already established.

When we moved in to our neighborhood, some of the older residents thought the world was ending. Now, we are very much accepted and we are the favorite of one elderly neighbor in particular who was really upset when we first moved in. We help her out and she shares homemade tortillas and tamales with us and hugs and kisses us every time we see her.

The kids are another story; we just don't want them to be made fun of or picked on for having 2 moms or any of that. Since that hasn't happened much here in San Antonio, we think it will be fine. Our kids are more outgoing / sociable / extroverted and we want them to be able to form friendships after the move.

Texas has this reputation for hospitality and friendliness and I have found that to be true mostly on a superficial level only. People are all about the howdy, how ya doing pleasantries, but in general not interested in taking it further and developing real friendships unless they've known you for their entire lives. Not all of course, but just my observations from having grown up here. And, despite being such a large city, most people I encounter have been born and raised here (or Mexico) and haven't been many places so my mom always called San Antonio "the biggest small town I've ever lived in".
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Old 02-11-2011, 03:28 PM
 
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thank you guys for all the info we will be moving to davenport soon and hope we will like it. anythings better then here. just hope we can get a job u know.
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Old 02-14-2011, 05:58 PM
 
Location: around the way
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My fiance and I are not very social. I mean, we are nice enough people but we tend to hang out at home, study, watch movies, and do things with our kids. We are past the party phase and we have a few select friends here in SA that we will get together with very occasionally for dinner or something. So while getting along and getting to know people is nice, it's not vital. We are very busy with kids, school, work, the house, and don't have time to pursue friendships that aren't already established.

If this is truly the case, then gay friendliness is actually not something that you need to be all that concerned about. Of course the cities will be more accepting than the small towns, but really Iowans tend to live and let live. Mostly concern yourself with finding a place where you and your fiancee could both see yourselves living happily, like anybody else. As long as you're not all in-your-face about your sexuality (e.g. intense, challenging hair and "MILITANT DYKE BENT ON DESTROYING PATRIARCHY" t-shirts), most people will glance, shrug, and get on with their day. Honestly coming from San Antonio, you probably need to be more concerned with finding good Mexican food

I would also say the same applies to garmanl, but it looks like you've already made your choice.

A caveat: the above applies east of the I-35 corridor. Out west, things are... different.
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Old 02-14-2011, 09:16 PM
 
Location: San Marcos, TX
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If this is truly the case, then gay friendliness is actually not something that you need to be all that concerned about. Of course the cities will be more accepting than the small towns, but really Iowans tend to live and let live. Mostly concern yourself with finding a place where you and your fiancee could both see yourselves living happily, like anybody else. As long as you're not all in-your-face about your sexuality (e.g. intense, challenging hair and "MILITANT DYKE BENT ON DESTROYING PATRIARCHY" t-shirts), most people will glance, shrug, and get on with their day. Honestly coming from San Antonio, you probably need to be more concerned with finding good Mexican food

I would also say the same applies to garmanl, but it looks like you've already made your choice.

A caveat: the above applies east of the I-35 corridor. Out west, things are... different.
I know huh?! I am already worried about that! I can make a lot of Tex-Mex myself, pretty decent for a gringa, thanks to my Dad (who only had one Caucasian wife, ever, and that was my mom, and learned to cook from the others!)... but there are certain food-things I'm sure I will miss!!

Thanks for the input. Like I said, as long as no one messes with our kids just because of who their parents are, we're good.
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Old 02-17-2011, 07:06 PM
 
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well we have made are choice in a way we dont know what one to do... Des Moines or davenport. i like them both but in what jobs are hiring davenport seems to have more jobs. but i like Des Moines cuz of all the gays there
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Old 02-18-2011, 12:14 PM
 
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I know huh?! I am already worried about that! I can make a lot of Tex-Mex myself, pretty decent for a gringa, thanks to my Dad (who only had one Caucasian wife, ever, and that was my mom, and learned to cook from the others!)... but there are certain food-things I'm sure I will miss!!

Thanks for the input. Like I said, as long as no one messes with our kids just because of who their parents are, we're good.
Well I think that's changing fairly quickly as far as never being able to find ethnic foods. Hopefully at least!

Iowa's hispanic population:

1990: 32,647
2000: 82,473
2010: 151,544

Black Population:

1990: 48,090
2000: 61,853
2010: 89,148

Asian Popultion:

1990: 25,476
2000: 36,635
2010: 53,094

Total of the 3:

1990: 106,213
2000: 180,961
2010: 293,786
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Old 10-24-2011, 07:12 AM
 
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Default Questions about Cedar Falls IA

My partner and I are thinking of moving to Cedar Falls- we met there in the early 70s- have been together 35 years- have aging parents near there and some good friends. How gay friendly is Cedar Falls? And how do I find a gay friendly doctor? Thanks.
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Old 11-05-2011, 12:34 PM
 
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if you plan to move to cedar rapids I do not think it is gay friendly. No way. I went to a 4 year university in chicago downtown and had few "friends" from cedar rapids. One of them rubbed in my face, that he was pissed off when Iowa passed same-sex marriage legal. After hanging out in his dorm room with him and his friends for half year, when I came out, they stopped talking to me. Go figure. Even in Chicago area, most folks from suburbs do not seem to be too much accepting of gays, especially gay foreigners, even if they are tolerant but thats not the same. The exception are some folks who are from the city itself.
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Old 11-06-2011, 12:34 PM
 
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This thread started in January...I wonder how the OP is doing? Where did she choose to live?

I hope it wasn't Keokuk!
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Old 11-06-2011, 02:43 PM
 
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
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if you plan to move to cedar rapids I do not think it is gay friendly. No way. I went to a 4 year university in chicago downtown and had few "friends" from cedar rapids. One of them rubbed in my face, that he was pissed off when Iowa passed same-sex marriage legal. After hanging out in his dorm room with him and his friends for half year, when I came out, they stopped talking to me. Go figure. Even in Chicago area, most folks from suburbs do not seem to be too much accepting of gays, especially gay foreigners, even if they are tolerant but thats not the same. The exception are some folks who are from the city itself.
#1 Iowa did NOT "pass" same-sex marriage. Instead, the state legislature passed and signed into law a protection of marriage act. It was the State's Supreme Court that overruled that law and thus issued in same sex marriage into Iowa.

#2 just because you are not for same-sex marriage, does not mean you aren't gay friendly....unless of course, you're saying this is a one issue movement.
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