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Old 07-10-2013, 04:18 PM
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Long story short, my ex and I have a 1 year old together. We have been split since December. In between December and February we were working on our relationship. I was not ready to jump back into our relationship so my ex went behind my back and filed for custody. While we were "working things out" he told me to forget the papers he had filed and the request for mediation. I only actually received one set of papers and didn't think much of it because we were trying to reconcile. Anyway, when I didn't want to jump back into things he showed up at the custody hearing and I was not informed until I received papers that said I had a default judgment against me and that he now had sole custody with us both have legal custody. I have been granted a hearing for Motion to Set Aside Default judgment in three weeks. My lawyer and I have the proof that I need to win the case. My question is, if they decide my case is valid and wipe the slate clean and let us start over, how soon is an actual custody hearing after the Motion to Set Aside hearing? Won't they want to get custody established quickly? Will he still have sole custody until our actual custody hearing? Some side information: This man was convicted of domestic abuse two weeks after the default custody hearing. (He had pushed me and left red marks on me back in December which was our reason for splitting.) Another side note: At this hearing in three weeks it is also a contempt hearing. He has tried to take away my time with my daughter. He has basically tried to alienate me away from her withholding her medical and daycare information even though we have joint legal custody of her. Given this information, what do you think will be the outcome and how soon? Please do not judge. There is no reason I should not be taking care of my daughter. I have a Bachelor's degree,and I make a pretty decent salary working for an insurance agency. I also have a 2 year old daughter who is her half sister who have been together since my ex and I's child was born. Advice? This is in IOWA
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Old 07-10-2013, 05:39 PM
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Go on the Jerry Springer show and let "The Ringmaster" sort it all out.
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Old 07-11-2013, 03:20 PM
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
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Can't help you and not sure this is the correct forum for such a question. All I can offer is that my heart breaks for these two small, innocent children who have done nothing to create this circumstances they find themselves in.
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