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Old 06-15-2016, 08:07 PM
 
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As I spend more time reconnecting with old friends and relatives, and making new contacts in Iowa, I'm not finding much detectable sense humor or attempt to have fun with life. Maybe I've lost touch with the Iowa sense of what's funny, but I'm not so sure, everyone seems to take themselves awfully serious. Written jokes elicit a totally straight answer and phone conversations aren't much better. This may be a deal breaker for my retirement plan.

Any thoughts?
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Old 06-16-2016, 05:33 PM
 
Location: Sun City West, AZ
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I never noticed that when I lived in Cedar Rapids... Not sure where you are experiencing this. Probably just the wrong crowd you are hanging out with. Although, I do find that I am a lot happier now that I don't live in Iowa anymore!
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Old 06-16-2016, 06:30 PM
 
Location: Jonesboro
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Default Why so serious?

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As I spend more time reconnecting with old friends and relatives, and making new contacts in Iowa, I'm not finding much detectable sense humor or attempt to have fun with life. Maybe I've lost touch with the Iowa sense of what's funny, but I'm not so sure, everyone seems to take themselves awfully serious. Written jokes elicit a totally straight answer and phone conversations aren't much better. This may be a deal breaker for my retirement plan.

Any thoughts?
I was just back in Iowa, specifically to Des Moines in late Jan/early Feb (i.e. in the middle of winter) & found people generally to be in a pretty upbeat & very friendly mood. I live in the south, a region which prides itself on hospitality & friendliness, but they have nothing on what I have repeatedly experienced back in Iowa. The warmth, & speedy competence & communication skills I repeatedly found in various businesses I patronized impressed me. I wish that I could have brought all of those speedy & competent folks back home with me to improve things for when I returned back to Georgia.
If you are serious about a possible return to Iowa for your retirement, I'd suggest that you plan to make a few visits in which you will be getting on-the-ground & face-to-face experience & can formulate opinions in that way rather than by way of written letters or phone conversations. Letters & phone calls can give erroneous impressions even though we can do a fine job of messing up face-to-face communication too. LOL!
I'd suggest to anyone that they do plenty of research & planning & make visits before an out-of-state move from anywhere to anywhere frankly, and not just in regards to a possible move to Iowa.
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Old 06-17-2016, 07:05 AM
 
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Thanks for responding alter8
"Letters & phone calls can give erroneous impressions"--absolutely and a very good point, thanks.

The majority, upbeat and friendly, never at question to me. Witty and quick, now I'm wondering, maybe less common?
Everyone of my relatives (other than my sons) are Iowans, I grew up there, still have a couple of 65 yo friends that have never left Iowa for more than a vacation. Everyone, a sincerely pleasant human being.

One thing I inherited from my mother (who lived her first 45 years in Iowa) was her wicked cynical, sense of humor, but I've realized now thinking about it that her and I may not have shared that with the rest of our own family, let alone the majority of Iowa. I do feel my sense of humor is crucial to my survival of the day to day.

I wouldn't change my retirement plans over my sense of humor not playing well to Iowans.
I will adapt. The advice, on-the-ground/f to f, is very good as well. In my case I do feel quite certain it's where I want to spend my final years. If that turns out to not be the case I will move on when the project I will be doing is completed. So much changes when you retire and the need for gainful employment is no longer part of the equation. I am over the West Coast, I've loved it here, but it's time for a change and there is so much in the central and southern US I want to do and see.
The real estate agents in Iowa laugh at my jokes, I guess money plays anywhere.

I'm glad you had such a positive experience in Iowa, I've always been very proud to have grown up there and wouldn't change that for anything.
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Old 06-17-2016, 07:07 AM
 
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[quote=Dewey59;44442884]I never noticed that when I lived in Cedar Rapids...

Thanks, that's good to hear Dewey59
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Old 06-17-2016, 09:43 AM
 
Location: Bel Air, California
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As I spend more time reconnecting with old friends and relatives, and making new contacts in Iowa, I'm not finding much detectable sense humor or attempt to have fun with life. Maybe I've lost touch with the Iowa sense of what's funny, but I'm not so sure, everyone seems to take themselves awfully serious. Written jokes elicit a totally straight answer and phone conversations aren't much better. This may be a deal breaker for my retirement plan.

Any thoughts?

they probably all got together and are pulling a practical joke on you
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Old 06-17-2016, 10:46 AM
 
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
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Sometimes we play tricks on ourselves with our minds.

If you start to conclude too soon that something is true, you'll make it a self-fulfilling prophesy by over focusing on indicators that support your conclusion while ignoring indicators that might contradict it.

A simple example is when you buy a new car. Suddenly it seems that same or similar model of the car you just bought is everywhere you go. You might conclude: a lot of people are now buying the same model car as me..much more then previously. But reality is, they're really not anymore around than before you bought yours, but you just didn't notice them because you weren't focused on them like you are now.

Just something to think about.

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Old 06-17-2016, 01:15 PM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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Interesting thread!

I moved out here from Central Ohio (three years ago in August!)

None of my adult friends in Ohio would describe me as witty. I imagine that if I had gone to open mike at the Funny Bone, my best jokes would've been met with the sound of crickets. However, out here, I can be chatting with a stranger in line at the HyVee and they will be laughing in no time. Sometimes I'm not even trying to be funny, but my audience will be chuckling away.

It's entirely possible that they are laughing at me! But since I've always harbored a secret desire to do stand up comedy, I take it in stride.
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Old 06-17-2016, 10:05 PM
 
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Thanks to everyone, all good thoughts here. I have it in perspective now. There was actually one conversation that caused me to start collecting evidence to support my misguided theory. As capitalcityguy said we sometimes fool ourselves.

Or it could be I have surrounded my self with fools that laugh at my jokes here in Washington. If that's the case it really is time for a change. I'm actually excited about the change.
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Old 06-20-2016, 09:02 AM
 
Location: MetroWest Boston
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A lot of this probably depends on which part of Iowa you are referring to. There's probably a drastic difference in the general mindset of Des Moines versus a small town that is hours away from any bigger city.


There will be culture shock coming to the heartland from either coast, both of the good and bad variety.
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