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Old 05-05-2014, 09:51 AM
 
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So how do you inculcate the importance of islam in our lives to your kids? How do you ensure that they can become a better american muslim?
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Old 05-05-2014, 11:52 AM
 
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I am a big believer in leading by example.
be what you want your kids to be
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Old 05-05-2014, 12:22 PM
 
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I am a big believer in leading by example.
be what you want your kids to be
Kids are very long in my past. I now have Grandchildren that are adults.

But, I agree with you. Just be what you want your kids to be. That will be better than any "Training"
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Old 05-06-2014, 05:52 AM
 
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There are two things that you should know about child psychology.

1. Kids at a young age naturally tend to do things that makes their parents happy. This is child's pasychology, he wants to make his parents happy. So generously and genuinely praise and appreciate your kid when he/she does something good. The kid will keep on doing that thing as he will learn that this makes my parents happy.
Stay away from yelling and screaming - NEVER HELPS.
Learn to praise and appreciate - MAGICAL EFFECTS.

2. Kids learn by stories. Tell a story to a kid and see how curiously he/she listens. So tell them stories with good moral lessons. Also make sure that stories should have the mention of God so they believe. Definitely stay away from too much advising and too much restrictions.


Now,

The best examples are already set by our prophet (saw). And one of the biggest lessons of his life, that we tend to ignore is, TOLERANCE!

Teach your kids to be tolerant and be respectful to all other faiths (by becoming yourself as an example) and make sure that there focus remains on education. Education is super important. This will keep them away from many pitfalls.

Dont expect too much from kids - they are not as grown up as you are. Raising kids require a lot of patience, so to teach them tolerance you should be tolerant yourself
Don't give them long lectures. Talk in short sentences. Kids brain cannot process lengthy lectures and long sentences.

It's important that you physically take care of them as well, so enroll them into sporting activities such as soccer, swimming etc, this way they will stay healthy and easily get social to merge into the society as a positive contributor.

And VERY IMPORTANTLY, do not limit the Islamic environment and education only within your home. Regularly take them to masjid for prayers, attend Islamic lectures, Eid functions, masjid fundraising programs, Sunday Islamic school etc. This will give them condifence in their faith and strengthen their ties with Muslim community, most importantly, a sense of identity.

And then obviously don't forget to seek protection from Allah for your kids from all ill. Ameen.

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Old 05-07-2014, 08:04 AM
 
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Give your children some room to accept the religion on their own. I was fairly young man during 9/11 and I saw plenty of young Muslims leave Islam because they had a poor understanding of Islam. They grew to dislike it because their parents pushed it on them and they didn't bother to do their own research.

I was different because my parents allowed me complete freedom to choose any religion, sect, or even become atheist/agnostic if I wanted. They didn't pressure me or nudge me in any direction and this helped me choose Islam for myself instead of being born into it. I strongly believe that this is the proper way for people to embrace Islam instead of being pushed into it with little interest or knowledge.

I did all my own research independently, and while I am not deeply religious I do identify as a Muslim because Islam is the religion I have chosen. I love studying Islamic history in particular and studying the great Sufi's of South Asia. There is a weird peace you feel at the dargah's of the Sufis. Many Muslims see it as idolization but honestly I view it as if I am paying respects to great people who believed in humanity. And I honestly believe it has helped people become closer to god.

Humanity is the greatest religion!
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Old 05-09-2014, 05:48 PM
 
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Give your children some room to accept the religion on their own. I was fairly young man during 9/11 and I saw plenty of young Muslims leave Islam because they had a poor understanding of Islam. They grew to dislike it because their parents pushed it on them and they didn't bother to do their own research.

I was different because my parents allowed me complete freedom to choose any religion, sect, or even become atheist/agnostic if I wanted. They didn't pressure me or nudge me in any direction and this helped me choose Islam for myself instead of being born into it. I strongly believe that this is the proper way for people to embrace Islam instead of being pushed into it with little interest or knowledge.

I did all my own research independently, and while I am not deeply religious I do identify as a Muslim because Islam is the religion I have chosen. I love studying Islamic history in particular and studying the great Sufi's of South Asia. There is a weird peace you feel at the dargah's of the Sufis. Many Muslims see it as idolization but honestly I view it as if I am paying respects to great people who believed in humanity. And I honestly believe it has helped people become closer to god.

Humanity is the greatest religion!
hmmm ... not sure if I fully agree with your logic and philosophy. Yeah there may be a few exceptional cases here and there but generally speaking? I don't think you make much sense.


Being parents, it's natural that we give the best we can to our kids. And whether you agree with it or not but Deen of Islam and emaan on Allah is THE BEST thing we can EVER give to our kids.

If we go by your logic to let the kids figure it out on their own then why limit this philosophy ONLY to religion?

Why don't you let your kids figure it out whether they want to get educated? Why you send your kids to school without getting their permission or even consulting with them? Why would you take your kid to a swimming class or enroll him into soccer or bodybuilding club with the intention that he becomes physically healthy and stronger? Why you give your kids a shower? Why even feed them? Let them figure it out by themselves. Yes, they may eventually figure out many of these things by themselves but guess what? It will be too late by then. Half of their lives will be over, so it's better to help them now with the best we can.

See the problem here? All our logic and philosophy starts and ends with deen, but when it comes to Duniya we KNOW what is right for kids so we enforce it upon them. Don't we?
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