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Old 01-08-2015, 03:08 PM
 
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i meet this wonderful kind hearted and beautiful women and ive been reading the Quran as she asked me to i want to know and understand her religion and do right by her but ive been told two different things on what i need to do to marry a muslim women and one said i have to convert to her religion then another said that if her parents accept me its ok please let me know what i must do to do right by her
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Old 01-08-2015, 04:14 PM
 
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i meet this wonderful kind hearted and beautiful women and ive been reading the Quran as she asked me to i want to know and understand her religion and do right by her but ive been told two different things on what i need to do to marry a muslim women and one said i have to convert to her religion then another said that if her parents accept me its ok please let me know what i must do to do right by her
On a thread I started here someone posted this:
Koran said that:
A muslim man can marry a non muslim woman.
But a muslim woman must marry a muslim man. So the man must made a conversion.
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Old 01-31-2015, 05:49 AM
 
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Just offer her and the family a dowry and show them you will take care of her and that she can worship even raise the children in Islam and they will let her go....

Last edited by Codane; 01-31-2015 at 05:51 AM.. Reason: Sentence didn't make sense
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Old 01-31-2015, 09:20 AM
 
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i meet this wonderful kind hearted and beautiful women and ive been reading the Quran as she asked me to i want to know and understand her religion and do right by her but ive been told two different things on what i need to do to marry a muslim women and one said i have to convert to her religion then another said that if her parents accept me its ok please let me know what i must do to do right by her
Who cares what her family thinks or what her religion says?

Ask her to marry you just as you are. If she accepts, fine.

If she turns you down for whatever reason, then find someone else.

After you are married, you should definitely "do right by her". That is, treat her with love and respect, and she should do the same for you.
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Old 01-31-2015, 09:46 AM
 
Location: Logan Township, Minnesota
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i meet this wonderful kind hearted and beautiful women and ive been reading the Quran as she asked me to i want to know and understand her religion and do right by her but ive been told two different things on what i need to do to marry a muslim women and one said i have to convert to her religion then another said that if her parents accept me its ok please let me know what i must do to do right by her
The concept of marriage in Islam is a bit different than what is considered marriage in western religions.
It is not a "Church Sacrament" it is a civil contract negotiated between the man and woman. In the event it is the woman's first marriage the contract (Nikkah) must also be approved by her wali.
there are conditions as to who may enter into a Nikkah Some of the conditions:
Both parties must be physically, financially and mentaly mature. The man must be Muslim, the woman can be Muslim or "One of the People of the book"
these are not negotiable. If they are not met There is no nikkah and the 2 can not engage in sexual relations. If there is no Nikkah, they are committing the crime of Zina which is a Hadud crime.
For more information see:

What does Nikkah mean?

What's The Matter? What Is Permissible Post-Nikkah and Pre-Marriage? - MuslimMatters.org
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Old 01-31-2015, 10:48 AM
 
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there are conditions as to who may enter into a Nikkah
Wow, this reminds me of discussions my fiancé and I had almost 44 years ago.

Being Catholic, she thought we should talk with a Priest. The first priest refused to marry us. The second priest was more liberal and said he would marry us but we had to promise to raise our kids Catholic. Of course, I refused to promise that.

So we got married in her parents back yard a few months later. Yep, 44 years ago.
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Old 01-31-2015, 11:03 AM
 
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Wow, this reminds me of discussions my fiancé and I had almost 44 years ago.

Being Catholic, she thought we should talk with a Priest. The first priest refused to marry us. The second priest was more liberal and said he would marry us but we had to promise to raise our kids Catholic. Of course, I refused to promise that.

So we got married in her parents back yard a few months later. Yep, 44 years ago.

Congratulations on the 44 years, may you have many more

It eventually comes down to what we each place as our priorities.

Us humans can be and usually are quite individualistic as to what we consider valuable.
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Old 02-01-2015, 10:59 AM
 
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It eventually comes down to what we each place as our priorities.
Yes, you are absolutely right. It is amazing how smart we old guys are!

Like Polonius told his son Laertes, "This above all- to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man."

Or as Jesus said, "For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?"

The OP can certainly decide for himself how he wants to live his own life. You and I have managed to do that, but, to be honest, I guess it has taken us awhile, hasn't it?
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Old 02-01-2015, 07:48 PM
 
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Yes, you are absolutely right. It is amazing how smart we old guys are!

Like Polonius told his son Laertes, "This above all- to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man."

Or as Jesus said, "For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?"

The OP can certainly decide for himself how he wants to live his own life. You and I have managed to do that, but, to be honest, I guess it has taken us awhile, hasn't it?
Been a long road--old man.



It comes down to discovering what our choices are, the consequences of each choice and if we can face the consequences. We alone have to face the results of our choices and accept responsibility for them.
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