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Old 04-25-2015, 04:13 PM
 
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To all Muslim women who wear them - doesn't it drive you crazy having something on your head/shoulders all the time? I feel so sorry for little girls who are trying to act like a normal child (running, jumping, etc.) and having that cloth on their head and shoulders all the time. Isn't it hot in the summer? Just curious....would like to hear from people who actually wear one.
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Old 04-25-2015, 05:31 PM
 
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To all Muslim women who wear them - doesn't it drive you crazy having something on your head/shoulders all the time? I feel so sorry for little girls who are trying to act like a normal child (running, jumping, etc.) and having that cloth on their head and shoulders all the time. Isn't it hot in the summer? Just curious....would like to hear from people who actually wear one.
Just to clear something up, I don't believe girls generally wear the hijab until puberty.

I imagine it is simply what one is used to. Amish women women wear caps or bonnets as headcoverings, Orthodox Jewish women wear tichels, Muslim women wear the hijab (or other head covering). A century ago, many Irish Catholic women wore headcoverings (and this one one of the points made by anti-catholic groups, just as people make a big deal of the hijab today).

I, being a male atheist, have no experience with religious head covering

However, my wife works with a lot of students from the Middle East, and she notices a wide range of feelings. Some women are ecstatic to be in a culture where they do not have to wear them, some wear them because their husbands or fathers want them to, and some feel very uncomfortable without one. These variations in attitude hold not just for the hijab, but the abaya and niquab as well.

I imagine that women who are born or raised in western culture are much more likely to wear these things from a sense of personal religious faith, or symbolism. Their culture does not force it upon them, and in most cases it is a conscious decision to place their own faith above the dominant culture.

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Old 04-25-2015, 05:39 PM
 
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To all Muslim women who wear them - doesn't it drive you crazy having something on your head/shoulders all the time? I feel so sorry for little girls who are trying to act like a normal child (running, jumping, etc.) and having that cloth on their head and shoulders all the time. Isn't it hot in the summer? Just curious....would like to hear from people who actually wear one.
My wife and mother aren't bothered by it at all and both came to wearing it of their own accord. My mother researched the issue after converting from Christianity and found that it was obligatory for her to wear it... My father at the time in a sense almost discouraged her because he thought people might look at her strange.

My wife had a similar story but whereby her father thought the kids at school would make fun of her, but she put it on anyway and is happy with her decision.
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Old 04-25-2015, 09:35 PM
 
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My wife is well beyond the age for which wearing a Hijab is obligated. but, it I were to ever tell her not to wear it, she would do considerable physical harm to my poor old body, before she divorced me.
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Old 04-26-2015, 05:57 AM
 
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There are many ignorant, immature people who think "their way" is the only way/only right way to be. Others think so out of prejudice, malice, or conceit. The people who suffer are those who are "different"---not because of the difference itself....but because of the attitudes of the ignorant and conceited. As a young person, I shared a classroom with a Sikh boy. For religious reasons he had a particular "style" which made him different from others and some kids were not tolerant of this difference.

In order to become compassionate human beings we need to learn acceptance and tolerance of others differences.

by the way, some sports such as American football (?) and Ice hockey also use "head covering" (helmets)....would one say that such sports are not "normal" because of that?
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Old 04-26-2015, 06:32 AM
 
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There are many ignorant, immature people who think "their way" is the only way/only right way to be. Others think so out of prejudice, malice, or conceit. The people who suffer are those who are "different"---not because of the difference itself....but because of the attitudes of the ignorant and conceited. As a young person, I shared a classroom with a Sikh boy. For religious reasons he had a particular "style" which made him different from others and some kids were not tolerant of this difference.

In order to become compassionate human beings we need to learn acceptance and tolerance of others differences.

by the way, some sports such as American football (?) and Ice hockey also use "head covering" (helmets)....would one say that such sports are not "normal" because of that?
I don't know of any football player or hockey player who wears his helmet when not playing.

My comment about the child wearing the hijab is because I recently saw an Iranian movie that was subtitled in English. In it, the 4 year old girl had the hijab on at all times, as did her mother and all the women in the movie. Most of the women wore the chador as well. I just couldn't help but think it has to be incredibly cumbersome and hot, especially in that climate. That was my only question.

Labeling people who are curious about a cultural/religious aspect as ignorant, immature, conceited, or prejudiced is a sure way to foster those emotions. Thanks to all who replied civilly.
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Old 04-26-2015, 07:12 AM
 
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I don't know of any football player or hockey player who wears his helmet when not playing.

My comment about the child wearing the hijab is because I recently saw an Iranian movie that was subtitled in English. In it, the 4 year old girl had the hijab on at all times, as did her mother and all the women in the movie. Most of the women wore the chador as well. I just couldn't help but think it has to be incredibly cumbersome and hot, especially in that climate. That was my only question.

Labeling people who are curious about a cultural/religious aspect as ignorant, immature, conceited, or prejudiced is a sure way to foster those emotions. Thanks to all who replied civilly.

Just speaking for my own experiences of when I was living in Morocco.

I was not Muslim at the time,

However because of the heat I found it more tolerable to where a full Moroccan hooded
Djellaba very similar to this



Although the temerature was extremely hot this helped keep me comfortable.

just giving a personal experience
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Old 04-26-2015, 10:39 AM
 
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Interesting.
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Old 04-26-2015, 10:59 AM
 
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Interesting.

In hot climates men even non-Muslim men will cover just as much as the Muslim women. It actually helps keep one cool if they are outdoors.

A good example are the Taureg men of the Sahara

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Old 04-26-2015, 10:50 PM
 
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I apologize if my comment caused hurt. It was not my intention to be unkind....only to make us more aware that there is prejudice......

Curiosity is good...but perhaps pity is misplaced?....("I feel sorry for little girls...")
....here is a story of a mom whose young Muslim daughter chose to wear a headscarf---and her reactions.....ranging from pity to acceptance......
[vimeo]32243676[/vimeo]
https://vimeo.com/32243676
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