Secluded Areas (credit, hotels, health)

[Origin-of-Love]

I just came back home from school to help my mother take care of her mother and I've reconnected with someone from my past. My mother doesn't like the idea that I've even spoken with this person and refuses to let us see each other. I need a secluded spot in town to meet my friend. Preferably not a hotel or restaurant (unless it's an inexpensive one), but an outdoors location (a park or a place like the area under the Atlantic Blvd. bridge, but less populated) with a calm ambience. any ideas?

[jbm32206]

How old are you? Are you telling us that you're old enough to come back from school, which suggests that you're in college, and have met someone your mom doesn't like and you can't figure out how to date someone or where to take her....come on now...a responsible adult wouldn't be asking this on a forum....if you're not an adult, then you need to listen to your mother.

[Sum1Else]

Yup, I agree with jbm.

If you feel that you need to meet this person in secret to circumvent your mother's realm of knowldedge, perhaps this is a red flag. Take a good look at the reasons your mother has reservations and try to look at them without the bias of "mom said no".

Sometimes we know things aren't right and we try to do them anyway. When you have that feeling, think twice (or more) before doing something.

[Origin-of-Love]

To jbm32206 and Sum1Else:
Several points to make... 1) I am an adult. I go to college, but unfortunately we can't pay for school AND a nursemaid for my Abuelita, so I've returned to this sadsack and boring city for this semester (probably longer, until my grandmother dies) to help my mother dress my grandmother and change her ****-filled diapers. It's not fun and I don't get to go do many things.
2) I'm a girl. I don't have girls who are friends. My friend is a he (like most all of my friends because girls are bitchy), and I specifically said no hotels for a reason. I don't want to date him or screw him, I just want a quiet place where we can talk and not be interrupted. When you live with an old lady who doesn't understand what's going on and has no idea why she has to use her walker you hear a lot of yelling, and it gets old, fast.
3) Most of my friends from high school are gone. One of the few people I am still close with is this guy. My mother doesn't like me to hang out with him not because of who he is, but because of his family, which is another reason why I'm searching for a place, because his home is not where my mother wants me to be, and I certainly don't want to bring him to our humble abode.
4) I can't go back to school right now, and I need interaction with someone that is not within my family. Seeing as friends are in short supply I don't have many options. I posted this looking for help. I was completely truthful about who I am and what I was looking for. I really didn't feel like divulging my entire life and make it seem like i was vying for your pity, but I hope you enjoyed this hearing my woes. Next time I know not to be so forthright and sincere when I post here. Thank you for teaching me a valuable lesson, and next time I post on this forum I'll be sure to lie extensively. I do like to think that people are on the whole good, but you have restored my faith in all that is terribly suspicious.

Thank you so much for all your help and concern.

[Ectorcab]

ok, now that this tread is all awkward. Hopefully one of you has a car, if you do the whole world is yours. i just moved here so i dont know many places but how about the movies, mall, coffee shops, just walking around town center, zoo, and my all time fav the beach.

[Sum1Else]

Origin -

Your original post made it seem like you were looking to find a secluded area... even your title. Usually someone is looking for a secluded area for private matters... ahem. You are right, we jumped to conclusions. Given the info you posted, how were we to know any different. It truly sounded like you were looking for a tryst.

I'm sorry for your situation. I realize that it is difficult to care for someone you love in those intimate ways and see their physical and mental health deteriorate. BTDT I agree it isn't fun and you do need a break.

I am fairly new to this city so I don't know the specifics on private-ish places. Perhaps you can find a coffee house or even a pizza place that doesn't cost much but a soda or a cup of coffee to sit for hours and chat? This is a big city (landmass) but has a small town attitude when it comes to privacy!

Good luck.

[jbm32206]

Originally Posted by Origin-of-Love

I just came back home from school to help my mother take care of her mother and I've reconnected with someone from my past. My mother doesn't like the idea that I've even spoken with this person and refuses to let us see each other. I need a secluded spot in town to meet my friend. Preferably not a hotel or restaurant (unless it's an inexpensive one), but an outdoors location (a park or a place like the area under the Atlantic Blvd. bridge, but less populated) with a calm ambience. any ideas?

I do not apologize for the suspicions that arose from your post, to substantiate why I posted what I had, I've quoted your original post to show just how and why I came to the suspicions I had.

• you're telling us that you want a secluded place to meet with someone your mother doesn't want you seeing.
• although you say "preferably not a hotel or restaurant, unless is and inexpensive one" which is not excluding either unless they're inexpensive.
• saying that something secluded such as under a bridge, but less populated

One can see that from the criteria in which you listed, it's quite easy to have suspicions.

Now, given that you have better clarified your situation, (and yes, I do feel for you) one can better understand what you want and are seeking. I would suggest, and of course, this all depends on what area you live and what time of day/evening you and your friend are getting together...but there's always the parks...Huguenot, the beach...of which I know offer quiet locations, there's also the malls, even local places such as the fast food spots, where you can sit and talk. There's also the Landing, where you have businesses to sit, eat, drink, and talk...or stroll along the riverwalk.

I hope these, as well as any other suggestions offered are of some help.

[titaniummd]

Originally Posted by Origin-of-Love

I just came back home from school to help my mother take care of her mother and I've reconnected with someone from my past. My mother doesn't like the idea that I've even spoken with this person and refuses to let us see each other. I need a secluded spot in town to meet my friend. Preferably not a hotel or restaurant (unless it's an inexpensive one), but an outdoors location (a park or a place like the area under the Atlantic Blvd. bridge, but less populated) with a calm ambience. any ideas?

The Walmart Parking Lot in Blanding Blvd?

Safe places for teenagers to socialize in Orange Park ?

Huddle House, IHOP and Waffle House are open 24 hours. No ambience but cheap.

I don't know about secluded and SAFE places except for just sitting on the beach.

[radioclown]

A) Get a credit card.

B) Find a hotel that charges by the hour.

C) Bring a candle.

D) Have fun.

PS: Why do you have to make it so easy for me? Challenge me!!!!!!