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Old 08-28-2010, 08:40 PM
 
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"...one guy that I really want to tell to stop asking me. But I need to figure out a nice way to tell him

It's bad enough that I am looking for work but when folks keep asking you every darn day, it gets annoying."




Tell him to mind his own beeswax, and shut his piehole, or you'll rip his lips off and paste 'em to his eyelids so he can see what he's saying...

but maybe you could say it in a nice way
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:55 PM
 
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I had a neighbor who would ask constantly "are you working yet" and she was British so it sounded so formal...LOL.

Now she would see me in the yard on a Tuesday afternoon at 2pm( do you think I'm working) in a t-shirt and shorts pulling weeds.

I finally told her thank you for your concern but unless you have some job leads( she was retired) could you please not ask. I could be having a great day and focusing on something else and it brings me down. I also said if you see me home on a weekday doing yard work chances are I am not working.

She may have been a little put out, but it beat trying to avoid her and run in the house every time she appeared.

You find out soon enough who is really concerned and who is just being nosy.
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Old 08-28-2010, 09:04 PM
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I had a neighbor who would ask constantly "are you working yet" and she was British so it sounded so formal...LOL.

Now she would see me in the yard on a Tuesday afternoon at 2pm( do you think I'm working) in a t-shirt and shorts pulling weeds.

I finally told her thank you for your concern but unless you have some job leads( she was retired) could you please not ask. I could be having a great day and focusing on something else and it brings me down. I also said if you see me home on a weekday doing yard work chances are I am not working.

She may have been a little put out, but it beat trying to avoid her and run in the house every time she appeared.

You find out soon enough who is really concerned and who is just being nosy.

You should have asked her-"are you slightly retarded?"-lol
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Old 08-28-2010, 09:21 PM
 
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Ugh - I know!!! I graduated nursing school in May and moved away to a new state 4 days later. Well, the economy is still ****, and the market is full, and you know what - they like hiring locals here!!! I can't tell you how many times I cried after being asked, "So where are you working??" then when I say no where yet, I get "Oh my gosh! You're a registered - there is a nursing shortage. What have you been doing?"
So right there it becomes 1) you are not trying hard enough, and if you have been really trying (which I was) it's 2) well, there must be something wrong with you (which there isn't!).
I JUST got hired on at the local hospital in a highly skilled unit, thankyouverymuch. I would sincerely like to tell every single person who gave me crap and the side-eye to stick it where the sun doesn't shine.
I hope that everyone of you that is looking for employment finds it very, very soon!!!!
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Old 08-28-2010, 09:27 PM
 
Location: Syracuse IS Central New York.
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I've gone through this with people saying "Did you find a job yet? Are you working?, etc". My impression of their comments/facial expressions is that they are thinking that I'm about to become homeless, destitute, and hungry that very minute. None of which was the case.
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Old 08-28-2010, 09:31 PM
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I've gone through this with people saying "Did you find a job yet? Are you working?, etc". My impression of their comments/facial expressions is that they are thinking that I'm about to become homeless, destitute, and hungry that very minute. None of which was the case.
I think I would have SLAP THE SH*T out of someone if they asked-"Did you find a job yet? That's a very ignorant question. It's big difference between "how is the job search going? and did you find a job yet?
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Old 08-28-2010, 09:34 PM
 
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I've gone through this with people saying "Did you find a job yet? Are you working?, etc". My impression of their comments/facial expressions is that they are thinking that I'm about to become homeless, destitute, and hungry that very minute. None of which was the case.
A lot of people get off on other peoples troubles.

One of the good things about being unemployed is you find out who really has your back and your best interests at heart.

And it isn't always the people you think it is going to be.

You may end up doing a little "house cleaning" with some of your so called friends and becoming closer with others.
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Old 08-29-2010, 03:33 AM
 
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I've told unemployed friends that I'm not going to ask them about the job search, as I'm sure they will tell me when they get a job- so I can take them out for a congratulations dinner.
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Old 08-29-2010, 06:54 AM
 
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I had a neighbor who would ask constantly "are you working yet" and she was British so it sounded so formal...LOL.

Now she would see me in the yard on a Tuesday afternoon at 2pm( do you think I'm working) in a t-shirt and shorts pulling weeds.

I finally told her thank you for your concern but unless you have some job leads( she was retired) could you please not ask. I could be having a great day and focusing on something else and it brings me down. I also said if you see me home on a weekday doing yard work chances are I am not working.

She may have been a little put out, but it beat trying to avoid her and run in the house every time she appeared.

You find out soon enough who is really concerned and who is just being nosy.
Most of the time it is the latter.
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Old 08-29-2010, 06:56 AM
 
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I think I would have SLAP THE SH*T out of someone if they asked-"Did you find a job yet? That's a very ignorant question. It's big difference between "how is the job search going? and did you find a job yet?
I agree.
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