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Old 07-30-2013, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Boston
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Sorry everyone but I need to vent for 5 minutes
So I been unemployed since November ... and things are starting to worry and stress me out a bit.
I am IT field, I have 15 years of experience and my resume is pretty solid. Actually I been told by employers that my resume is very good and that I worked for some very good companies... blabla.
My resume is out there everywhere on all the boards, I apply for jobs daily.... I usually get numerous calls a day regarding my resume and employers do seem to be very interested in me.
I do my phone screens, some of them are better then others... and then I usually get asked to go to my interviews. I have lost count now, but I think I have been on at least 10 interviews or more the last couple of months. I dress and act professionally... usually the interview lasts 30 min to 1 hour. If I have to meet with several people it can last up to 2 hours. A few times things went so well that I was sure I get an offer - but then to my disappointment I get an email saying Sorry we picked another candidate.
It is really getting very frustrating to me and I wonder if I am doing something wrong.
One thing I don't do is follow ups and I have not sent out thank you emails.... properly because of frustration.
Any ideas or tips... ?
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Old 07-30-2013, 07:43 PM
 
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I don't care about follow-ups because I know if I'm hiring you 15-30 minutes into an interview.

Sending me a thank you is not needed. Thanking me for what? I didn't give you anything. I need a service, you're qualified. No need for a thank you- seems like brown nosing from a "yes-man," which I try to avoid.

However, lots of people like the praise and feeling in control. If your interviewer is that guy, by all means make them feel mighty and powerful.
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Old 07-30-2013, 07:58 PM
 
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Sorry everyone but I need to vent for 5 minutes

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I have lost count now, but I think I have been on at least 10 interviews or more the last couple of months. I dress and act professionally... usually the interview lasts 30 min to 1 hour. If I have to meet with several people it can last up to 2 hours. A few times things went so well that I was sure I get an offer - but then to my disappointment I get an email saying Sorry we picked another candidate.
It is really getting very frustrating to me and I wonder if I am doing something wrong.
One thing I don't do is follow ups and I have not sent out thank you emails.... properly because of frustration.
Any ideas or tips... ?
Another poster on c-d recommended a free ebook about interviewing. Not being one to turn down free advice, I downloaded it and read through it. It is very good! I would recommend it, in turn.

Here it is: the Ask a Manager guide to preparing for job interviews


Let's keep the chain of goodness going!

Best wishes to you.
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Old 07-30-2013, 07:59 PM
 
Location: Boston
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Ok. Well I was reading the book knock them dead.. and it says in there to do thank you emails and follow ups. That make you look like you are interested, and you get their attention and not get lost in the shuffle.
I usually also ask how many resumes they received and how many candidates they are interviewing. ... Some companies got like over 100 resumes.... so I guess I should be thankful I even land interviews.
I just don't know anymore. If my resume matches what they are looking for what am I doing wrong ?
I also wonder if its because I am a woman. I am just saying this... the last few times I went on interviews there were no woman in the group. ... and perhaps they would prefer a male over female.
I dunno - but something is just not going right
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Boston
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Another poster on c-d recommended a free ebook about interviewing. Not being one to turn down free advice, I downloaded it and read through it. It is very good! I would recommend it, in turn.

Here it is: the Ask a Manager guide to preparing for job interviews


Let's keep the chain of goodness going!

Best wishes to you.

Thank you Jane
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:05 PM
 
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Ok. Well I was reading the book knock them dead.. and it says in there to do thank you emails and follow ups. That make you look like you are interested, and you get their attention and not get lost in the shuffle.
I usually also ask how many resumes they received and how many candidates they are interviewing. ... Some companies got like over 100 resumes.... so I guess I should be thankful I even land interviews.
I just don't know anymore. If my resume matches what they are looking for what am I doing wrong ?
I also wonder if its because I am a woman. I am just saying this... the last few times I went on interviews there were no woman in the group. ... and perhaps they would prefer a male over female.
I dunno - but something is just not going right
They presumably knew you were a woman by the big name at the top of the resume, doubt that's the problem.

In your interview, do you come off as emotional? That's probably the biggest negative to a woman in the workplace. You need to be social/good personality obviously, but when discussing your job or duties, try to act more like a man- be cold, direct and calculating. Be more predatorial and less prey. That might help you.

Emotion is a weakness, and with women it's going to be a factor. Please do not take my coment as 'woman hating' because that's not my goal, I promise.

Just tighten the screws a little bit on your next interview- see how it goes. Maybe it'll help.

What industry are you in/the positions for? Perhaps I can help provide a 3rd dimension on selling yourself depending on industry.
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Make sure to study up on the company and incorporate it into the interview. Know what your talking about with the company and how you fit in.

Maybe get your resume reviewed see if you can make it better.

Make sure during the interview to speak directly and ask a lot of questions. Make yourself seems interested but not needy.
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:26 PM
 
Location: Boston
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They presumably knew you were a woman by the big name at the top of the resume, doubt that's the problem.

In your interview, do you come off as emotional? That's probably the biggest negative to a woman in the workplace. You need to be social/good personality obviously, but when discussing your job or duties, try to act more like a man- be cold, direct and calculating. Be more predatorial and less prey. That might help you.

Emotion is a weakness, and with women it's going to be a factor. Please do not take my coment as 'woman hating' because that's not my goal, I promise.

Just tighten the screws a little bit on your next interview- see how it goes. Maybe it'll help.

What industry are you in/the positions for? Perhaps I can help provide a 3rd dimension on selling yourself depending on industry.
By emotionally you are referring to: friendly, outgoing etc ... right ?
Well, I have to say when I go on job interviews I usually act friendly, try to be polite and cheery since I face customers a lot, I know they don't want to see someone crumpy and cold.
But maybe I need to be more serious like you said a man and be cold etc.

I am in the IT field, I pretty much do Technical Support, Application Support.. etc.
My last jobs where in the medical and pharmaceutical industry. I also worked in the manufacturing, telecommunications and software industry. I can pretty much do this job anywhere. I do have to say that my last few interviews were more for pharmaceutical and medical companies since that is were I have spent the most time in my career in.
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:31 PM
MJ7
 
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if you don't get the job, ask them what you can do better for future reference. no one in their right mind hires by what is written on paper, first impressions mean a lot. being professional and respectful is a given, but they also want to see friendly and works well with others. SMILE, be personable...and make them see you as a great fit. almost acting like you already work there or giving the impression that you would blend in well in a hurry is the best thing you can really do. you arent the only one with 15 years experience for good companies, many others probably do as well...it comes down to character and the judgement of your character. the longer you are unemployed the worse off you are, even if it isnt the greatest job in the world. with 15 years experience you should have some contacts that can put in a good place for a job
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Old 07-30-2013, 08:32 PM
 
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Don't ask about other applicants. That has no bearing on you.
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