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Old 11-11-2013, 12:17 PM
 
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The environment at my current company has become unbearable and frankly even though I have done nothing wrong, I fear for my job security. I'm the only male on a team of 7 females and have never felt so ostracized in the workplace and made to feel shunned. I got a good review just last month but the two girls who I supervise are just rude and abrasive toward me...and my supervisor has their back. They have their own little clique of which I'm not part of. I sense that the managing director will ultimately let me go because of this.

I have several interviews lined up and money saved up, so should I just give my 2 weeks notice to beat them to the punch to not have to face the humiliation of being terminated and having that on my record?

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Old 11-11-2013, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Hampton Roads
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I'd get a job offer first and then resign.
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Old 11-11-2013, 12:44 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I'd get a job offer first and then resign.

Unless you are relocating, it is easier to get a job when you have a job. It's psychological--companies think if someone else employs you, you are more valuable. The tricky part is explaining why you are looking for a new job, but there are a lot of reasons other employers feel are perfectly acceptable - no opportunity for growth, need more of a challenge, etc. And because you are looking "confidentially" they will not call your current employer for a reference. But, you should probably have other references lined up.
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Old 11-11-2013, 01:21 PM
 
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Don't do it. An interview isn't even a 'soft' offer....you've got a long way to go until you've got a new job lined up. Stick it out at the job while you're looking and interviewing.
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Old 11-11-2013, 02:55 PM
 
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If you have enough money saved up to live off for 1 year or more and have a way to obtain/pay for health insurance, then maybe resigning is OK. But before you resign, you must think of a valid reason for resigning when this is discussed at interviews.

If you cannot think of a reasonable explanation when asked by future employers, then keep working and search for a new job while still working. You will be asked why you are leaving your current employer. Have a good answer that doesn't talk about being the only guy and that doesn't mentioned the cliques at work. Even if this is true, you don't want to bring it up in any interviews EVER. Not even a mention of it.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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I've worked in bad environments. You'd be stupid to quit without a job offer lined up. Note, I didn't say interview, I said job offer. Even if you have money saved up, you could easily use it all up. Having money saved up doesn't mean the jobs will just magically appear.

If you do get terminated use your evidence of the recent good review when you interview. You did make a copy of any review paperwork and took it home, right?
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:21 PM
 
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Please think about it.

Quitting is what they really want you to do. Firing you can be messy even in an at will employment situation just because you can make things difficult for them with the threat of litigation. You just received a good review (I assume it is documented) so they probably can't let you go for cause unless they have been documenting causes that you haven't opened up about here. If the company is just the eight of you, then you never know, but if you work for a company with any scruples or sense, they aren't going to let you go just because a subset doesn't like you.

Do your interviews and hang in there as best as you can, but you have to stay to be eligible for unemployment in case they do get rid of you. Believe me, quitting immediately without having a job lined up gives them exactly what they want (assuming you're reading the situation correctly) and gives you the worst outcome for your side of the equation.

Quitting without a job is the worst solution, IMHO.
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Old 11-11-2013, 03:24 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Unless you are being physically abused or are independently wealthy I would always answer no.
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:31 PM
 
Location: North Adams, MA
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Please think about it.

Quitting is what they really want you to do. Firing you can be messy even in an at will employment situation just because you can make things difficult for them with the threat of litigation. You just received a good review (I assume it is documented) so they probably can't let you go for cause unless they have been documenting causes that you haven't opened up about here. If the company is just the eight of you, then you never know, but if you work for a company with any scruples or sense, they aren't going to let you go just because a subset doesn't like you.

Do your interviews and hang in there as best as you can, but you have to stay to be eligible for unemployment in case they do get rid of you. Believe me, quitting immediately without having a job lined up gives them exactly what they want (assuming you're reading the situation correctly) and gives you the worst outcome for your side of the equation.

Quitting without a job is the worst solution, IMHO.
Absolutely spot on!!!

I've been laid off 3 times, from major companies, and the last 2 times I saw the writing on the wall because of the first layoff. (Beware when an employer starts wanting to document what you do and how you do it!) I went on interviews during my spare time and continued to work, though it was unbearable. I didn't get jobs right away, but I had my unemployment and healthcare until I did have another job.

Never leave a job voluntarily unless you have accepted another offer.
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Old 11-11-2013, 04:33 PM
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bills dont pay themselves, never leave without having a job lined up first...it could really hurt you financially
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