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Tell these employers what is going on once offered the jobs officially or wait until after I start?
Seems it would be more moral to tell beforehand, but that's more likely for them to rescind the offer, as opposed to telling them after you start and once they've got to know you, have some understanding.
I'm very sorry about your parent - I went through that with both of mine. Is their situation so dire that at any moment you may be called away and need to be absent for an extended period of time, or are you thinking that several months down the road you will need to be more hands-on and be there for/with them? It is such a personal decision, but the bottom line IMHO is your regard for which is most important at this point in your life. Yes, we all need jobs...but, parents are wonderful to have and having the luxury of those last months with them are something that you will never regret - long into your own senior years. If you have an abundance of time with them (that you know of), I would proceed and not even mention it to the employer. You never know how things might pan out - and the less said the better sometimes. If you will be able to accept a job, do it and not be distracted by your home situation - that is what you should probably do. When the time comes, you would be eligible for FMLA if you needed to take time to take care of them. If it is an urgent situation, and it were myself, I would probably just tell them upfront and let the cards fall where they may. They may be understanding or not. They are looking for an employee to work, and while they may have all the compassion and understanding in the world - they would probably not view your situation to be in their best interests at this time. I think you are probably the best judge of where your priorities are right now, and how you deal with your choices later on. It will not be an easy choice either way - and I do wish you well. Good luck.
How badly do you need the job? Is it a job that you would love? Are you in a field that you hold the cards? Do you get a sense that they would be accommodating or will it be another "fast paced environment" a.k.a you have no life. I'm just trying to understand your situation and whether you have any power.
The ruthless side of me says to wait until after you accept the job but I could see that backfire as well. If you accept one of the jobs and then tell them, you could be starting off on a bad foot and the question would be "why didn't you say something?"
I wouldn't say ANYTHING. I was diagnosed with a chronic debilitating illness in January and I have no intention of saying anything until I'm there for 12 months.
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