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A little of my situation. I interviewed with a company, rocked both interviews and was given a verbal offer about a week ago. He went over pay comp plan and benefits. He told me not to quit my job until the background check is complete. After about a week going by of when the formal offer was to be extended I began to feel a little nervous. The recruiter told me to relax as I am their guy and it will take some time to complete the background check. Yesterday l got a call from the recruiter informing me that my verbal offer was recalled because at the last minute an internal candidate threw their name in the hat and was extended the formal offer. Never in my life have I heard of something happening like this. I have worked with some large companies and have seen interanl candidates try to throw their name in the hat for a position at the last minute but were denied as they were down to their final 2-3 candidates with out any offer being extended. In advice on what to do here. Although I haven't quit my old job, mentally I have checked out and I am devastated and feeling a little depressed.
Happens all the time and most of the time it is done just because the internal person can do it.
They purposely wait until the very last moment to apply for that position.
In my opinion it is a control thing but I could be wrong.
I had a similar situation when, at the time the President of the institution was supposed to have me sign the contract, I found out he had given the position to his nephew (no experience and 23 years old).
Ask to be considered for the position the internal candidate just vacated.
Nice one!
Honestly I would do exactly that, indicate how disappointed you are and what a great company they are, blah, blah blah...even if it doesn't work it may cause your resume to float at the top for the next 6 months.
Although I haven't quit my old job, mentally I have checked out and I am devastated and feeling a little depressed.
I know how you feel. I have had this happen to me before. I went to three job interviews, was offered the job, and at the last minute they pulled out of the final paperwork. This was at a restaurant when I used to wait tables. Who got the job? A young woman with good looks and some work done. Usually in the service industry they'll take that over and average looking man anyday. That's just how it goes.
I remember feeling really depressed at the time to. My ego was really bruised . . . but that's one of the things we have to remember here. It's YOUR ego, and only you can control how you'll bounce back from this.
Two biggest things to remember.
This is not your first, and will not be your last job offer. Looking back on my situation . . . I was 19 years old . . . and never thought I would end up making a salary of almost 100k a year later in life. Who knows, maybe that girl is still waiting tables. Maybe she never landed that acting gig. Oh well. Life goes on. 5 years from now. This offer will probably mean almost nothing to you (that is, if you keep moving forward in your life).
Second thing to remember, is what you already have. You're ahead of the game. You have a job. I'm assuming you have a home . . . a roof . . . I'm assuming you have food and warmth. Shelter. You have not LOST anything. Although right now it feels like you have.
Now. I went through a situation recently (that I posted about here) where I was feeling really down on myself too. I was focusing on the one negative of the situation, but I took the time to chill out. Take a nap. And come back to my senses. This sounds REALLY corny, but I actually took a pen to paper and wrote a list of the things that I'm happy about, and the positives of what I considered to be a negative situation.
Chill out, and maybe write your own list. What are the positives of this job offer being denied to you? It may not be apparent now, but in the future I think it will be. One door closes . . . . 2 more open.
Best of luck and feel free to be in a funk for a while, but DONT STAY THERE!
much love
Last edited by Lsquallhart; 03-06-2014 at 10:52 AM..
Lsquallhart, very good post and something I need to keep in mind, even at 70 years old...<s> There are many good posts on this thread and I hope the OP takes heart..this too shall pass....
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