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What is the purpose of your post, as it sounds like you have already decided how you are going to "handle" it"?
I'm curious as to what other people would say in this situation. It never occurred to me that other people would say nothing. That's just foolish imo. We have nothing to lose by talking to him about it, why would we not?
You didn't receive a job offer with an official letter. That is the point everyone is trying to tell you. It was a text message via a friend you received the offer.
You should have said great, can I have your cousin's information to get a firm offer letter? I would like to know the pay (not mentioned I am sure in the text), when I need to start. Not to mention before I shell out $XXX dollars for training, I want to know I have a job!".
Instead you got excited with a potential offer, took the training and now going to try and get the job by confronting the guy? Would you do this if you didn't know him? I doubt it.
Frankly I would never be in this situation. You handled it poorly and have no one to blame but yourself. So instead you are confronting the guy. smh
Yeah, a phone call would be a good start. Please don't make him uncomfortable at a family event, that is a great way not to get a job. Maybe you could say something like, "whenever you have some time, I'd love to talk about working at your company. Maybe tomorrow or Monday?" Then try to get a definite time and place from him...like a sales person would do. I would also butter him up about starting a business and being successful, or read something about his industry and say, "hey, I was reading about XYZ, is that going to affect your business?" Be smart.
You didn't receive a job offer with an official letter. That is the point everyone is trying to tell you. It was a text message via a friend you received the offer.
You should have said great, can I have your cousin's information to get a firm offer letter? I would like to know the pay (not mentioned I am sure in the text), when I need to start. Not to mention before I shell out $XXX dollars for training, I want to know I have a job!".
I did say this. Almost verbatim.
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Instead you got excited with a potential offer, took the training and now going
to try and get the job by confronting the guy? Would you do this if you didn't
know him? I doubt it.
I haven't actually registered for the training yet, because I was supposed to meet up with the guy and get the offer letter first. But the guy blew us off.
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Frankly I would never be in this situation. You handled it poorly and have no
one to blame but yourself. So instead you are confronting the guy. smh
I handled it exactly as you suggested. I didn't handle it poorly. Drop the self righteous nonsense.
Yeah, a phone call would be a good start. Please don't make him uncomfortable at a family event, that is a great way not to get a job. Maybe you could say something like, "whenever you have some time, I'd love to talk about working at your company. Maybe tomorrow or Monday?" Then try to get a definite time and place from him...like a sales person would do. I would also butter him up about starting a business and being successful, or read something about his industry and say, "hey, I was reading about XYZ, is that going to affect your business?" Be smart.
IMO, you never received an offer. Never in my LIFE have I heard of anyone saying "tell him he got the job." Things like that I kind of expect to have happen first party. What should you do? Get off of citydata and start looking for a job because I don't really care how close of a relationship we have now, a conversation where you decide to confront me about positions in my company would ruin it all on its own.
I'm curious as to what other people would say in this situation. It never occurred to me that other people would say nothing. That's just foolish imo. We have nothing to lose by talking to him about it, why would we not?
Why? You've already received responses from some of the best posters here.
Everyone knows there is no official offer until you get it in writing, and even then, it's contingent on things and can be rescinded.
IMO, you never received an offer. Never in my LIFE have I heard of anyone saying "tell him he got the job." Things like that I kind of expect to have happen first party. What should you do? Get off of citydata and start looking for a job because I don't really care how close of a relationship we have now, a conversation where you decide to confront me about positions in my company would ruin it all on its own.
Well, that's what he said- exactly. He said "tell your friend he's got the job." I saw the text myself. I'm not sure why you would have a problem in that situation with the person you offered the job asking you what is up....
call it a confrontation if you will, but I certainly feel like I have a right to know what's going on.
Just so you know, the guy does know of me even though I've never met him.
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