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Old 11-12-2015, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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When describing why you're leaving your current position, it is better for YOU to frame it in a positive way rather than a negative way.

Never say you're "in a dead-end role doing tasks you hate with no coverage."

Just say you feel like you've "achieved all that you can there and are ready for a new challenge."

If he tries to go down the wrong path, redirect. Oftentimes, if an interviewer seems to circle back to one particular thing, that's a sign of a problem in their own company too.
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Old 11-12-2015, 02:23 PM
 
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Op, you are right to be done with this. This person was lecturing you, making assumptions, and leading you on. He kept probing to get information that would give him the upper hand. You provided that, and now you don't look like a very good candidate. With what he found out, he likely decided before the interview was over that he wasn't going to hire you. Next time, don't let the interviewer trick you into revealing negative experiences at previous jobs. And yes, you were tricked.
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Old 11-13-2015, 12:07 AM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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The interviewer sounds like an idiot. Let's just say it and get it over with.
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Old 11-13-2015, 03:26 AM
 
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Many interviewers already have a mental picture of the person they want to hire and what happened to the OP is not that uncommon. The interviewer was definitely trying to discourage the OP and the OP is smart to recognize it.
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Old 11-13-2015, 10:11 AM
 
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Op, you are right to be done with this. This person was lecturing you, making assumptions, and leading you on. He kept probing to get information that would give him the upper hand. You provided that, and now you don't look like a very good candidate. With what he found out, he likely decided before the interview was over that he wasn't going to hire you. Next time, don't let the interviewer trick you into revealing negative experiences at previous jobs. And yes, you were tricked.
And let's face it, who wants to work for someone who's good at tricking people? The way I see it, if this guy could make me that uncomfortable in the interview, what would it be like working for him every day? I agree with you that I'm better off moving on.
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Old 11-13-2015, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Planet Telex
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And let's face it, who wants to work for someone who's good at tricking people? The way I see it, if this guy could make me that uncomfortable in the interview, what would it be like working for him every day? I agree with you that I'm better off moving on.
Don't think anyone else has mentioned this but he might have tried making you uncomfortable, on purpose, to see how you react to pressure, stress, doubts about your own abilities, etc. There are some interviewers out there who rely a bit too much on psychology, and I don't care for them either. He may have been looking for you to re-sell yourself to him.

If he was feeding off of your answers as a way of boosting his own ego, then I wouldn't want to work for him either!
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Old 11-13-2015, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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I think we may be reading this situation incorrectly.

I'd guess that one of the first questions to the OP was: Why are you looking to leave your current company? The OP said something about being stressed and it bringing him down etc. This triggered the interviewer to act the way they did. That's how I see things.
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Old 11-13-2015, 02:43 PM
 
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I didn't initially cite stress as my motivation for wanting to leave. I mostly spoke about wanting new challenges and professional growth, neither of which I'm going to find by staying where I am. It was later, while answering a question on what specific types of work I would not want to do, that the concept of stress came up. And once that topic was on the table, he wouldn't talk about anything else. As someone said upthread, it almost seems like he tricked me into talking about it.

Bottom line is, there's too much to dislike about the situation. I didn't like his personal approach, which is an indicator of how he might be as a boss. I also sensed a few things about the position itself that left me uneasy. And most importantly, this is far from my dream job. It's a case where I applied in the hopes of moving into a more positive workplace. Since I wasn't given any indication that it's a better workplace, I won't be missing out on anything by moving on. If the work was more suitable to my desires, I'd probably be giving it more thought.
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Old 11-13-2015, 02:51 PM
 
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I think we may be reading this situation incorrectly.

I'd guess that one of the first questions to the OP was: Why are you looking to leave your current company? The OP said something about being stressed and it bringing him down etc. This triggered the interviewer to act the way they did. That's how I see things.
This is why as an applicant you don't reveal negative things like this. It puts you at a distinct disadvantage.
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Old 11-18-2015, 10:19 AM
 
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I'd send a thank you note. But within it, I include a statement saying that you've decided to withdraw your interest.
I wouldn't work with a manager like that under no circumstances.
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