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Old 11-19-2015, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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If I put check the box for DO NOT Contact, won't that look suspicious?
Why wouldn't you want them to be contacted if you just said they won't tell if you were fired vs. laid off?
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Old 11-19-2015, 04:23 PM
 
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I guess I have to risk it by putting a reason of being "laid off" and put "yes" to contact and see what happens. If they did I will be fired again if I get the job. I also have other interviews and I've been saying "laid off". I'm just so conflicted about this.
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:48 PM
 
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See what happens when you lie! Had you been honest from the start your chances were as good at remaining on that job as it was lying; just now you have opened a can of worms you are not able to close. I'll tell you this, as an employer we may or may not hire a person who was fired based on the circumstances of that firing, but if we ever find out a person is LYING or has LIED to us, you are finished. Once we can no longer trust your word, you are worthless to us.
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:57 PM
 
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See what happens when you lie! Had you been honest from the start your chances were as good at remaining on that job as it was lying; just now you have opened a can of worms you are not able to close. I'll tell you this, as an employer we may or may not hire a person who was fired based on the circumstances of that firing, but if we ever find out a person is LYING or has LIED to us, you are finished. Once we can no longer trust your word, you are worthless to us.
I didn't lie when i had the job, i was caught doing something that I shouldn't have done. Do you think if I had a job as a bank teller and that is all I ever did my entire life and got caught stealing money and wanted to get another job as a bank teller, telling the truth on a job app for another bank teller job makes sense?
I am finished no matter what if I tell the truth, plain and simple. Would it make you feel better about yourself If I told you I was thinking about taking myself out of the equation because this has me stressed out to the point I can't go on? I ruined my life for a dumb mistake and that is what it was, a mistake.
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Old 11-19-2015, 08:20 PM
 
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I ruined my life for a dumb mistake and that is what it was, a mistake.
And it was YOU who did the deed so act like an adult and own up to your mistake! You did something that was wrong and you got fired. Mistake or not, you were canned for doing something wrong. Now you are trying to LIE to get another job. What if an employer catches you in that LIE, are you going to start crying and call it just another "MISTAKE"?

You are compounding dishonestly upon dishonesty and that makes you an undesirable employee in many employer's book. You will find that your "mistake" may be overlooked once you accept the personal responsibility for doing a bone head thing and not add another undesirable trait of lying by trying to conceal your actions.
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Old 11-20-2015, 04:57 AM
 
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I didn't lie when i had the job, i was caught doing something that I shouldn't have done. Do you think if I had a job as a bank teller and that is all I ever did my entire life and got caught stealing money and wanted to get another job as a bank teller, telling the truth on a job app for another bank teller job makes sense?
I am finished no matter what if I tell the truth, plain and simple. Would it make you feel better about yourself If I told you I was thinking about taking myself out of the equation because this has me stressed out to the point I can't go on? I ruined my life for a dumb mistake and that is what it was, a mistake.
I see no point in advising the OP what should have been done. You should have checked the tire before we left on the trip. You should have checked to make sure we had enough gas. You should, should, should...well, what are you going to do about it now is the real question? Unless someone has a working time machine, let's take the should stuff out of this. It isn't helpful. The OP already admitted and regrets whatever the details of their action were.

It's just a job. It isn't you. You didn't ruin your life here. That's just the panic of the situation talking. It also isn't your job to confess and make yourself look as weak as possible to another hiring manager. Let them do their job to evaluate you and answer questions if needed about your skills and training. A friend of mine told me about a friend of his who was a medical doctor who lost his license, his job, and his wife and children within a couple of weeks. But you know what, he found another job in a related industry even with all that and got back on track. There are people who go to jail for a crime, come out and work again, so there is nothing ruined here.
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Old 11-20-2015, 07:36 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Two pages and we still don't know the actual crime? What kind of snooping? Were you reading people's emails?
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