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Old 12-09-2015, 06:40 PM
 
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So I am going on an interview soon and my wife is expecting in May of next year. I know employers may be hesitant to hire a woman who's pregnant, but do they care much about hiring a prospective father?
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Old 12-09-2015, 06:44 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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No. Why would you mention it? It doesn't pertain to the job.
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Old 12-09-2015, 06:45 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Quoting myself from another thread:

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That is a huge risk. I hope it works out for you.

The reason that it is a risk is not necessarily because of your sexual orientation, but because you bring up such a personal thing in an interview setting. You run the risk of being viewed as inappropriate.

Whenever I have interviewed I have always taken pains to keep my personal life out of the discussion. I don't refer to my hobbies, spouse (or lack thereof), pets, kid (or ack thereof) religion, etc.

I have occasionally been mistaken as gay as a result of my caution, but the distance seems to work for me. I don't keep such a cautious distance once I am hired.
I wouldn't even mention the fact that I had a wife, much less that she is pregnant.
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Old 12-09-2015, 06:52 PM
 
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Wow, that was quick, haha. Yeah, that's certainly something I thought of too. My other concern (which, Fishbrains, you actually kinda of addressed in another post) is this interview is a multiple-day academia interview with 3 interview meals with the same people throughout the day. As someone that's not a person who typically drives the conversation, any bit of material I can get helps. I guess maybe don't bring it up unless asked?

Either way, thank you!
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Old 12-09-2015, 08:22 PM
 
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It is not something you need to bring up, nor is it a subject HR wants them asking you questions about.
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Old 12-09-2015, 08:34 PM
 
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yeah, family status is a protected status i believe, so interviewers really don't (or at least shouldn't) want to know about that stuff - discussing those subjects in an interview brings in the possibility of you claiming that you were discriminated against if you don't get the job. not that you're necessarily likely to do that, but a lot of companies are very risk averse with those matters

i'd stay away from it. i doubt anyone will ask.
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Old 12-09-2015, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Western Washington
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Nova,

Is this an out of state interview for you? Have you done academic interviews before?

You want to connect with the educational mission of the institution. Talk about working with students, and your interest in helping people achieve personal success through duration. You can also talk about why the area is a good fit for you. I wouldn't be quite that blatant though. As an example, if your interview is in Utah, talk about how you like the outdoors and skiing, as long as this is true. If the interview is in NY, talk about your love of big cities and museums.
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Old 12-10-2015, 09:25 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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In order to avoid the appearance of discrimination, some interviewers will ask a perfectly legal and legitimate question such as: "If hired, is there anything that would prevent you from being here on time every day in the future?" which is more or less fishing for things like pregnancy, upcoming surgery, long vacation plans etc., but if they don't never volunteer anything like that.
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