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Old 12-27-2015, 09:43 PM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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Wow, really take a deep breath and several steps back. You are overthinking everything.
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Old 12-27-2015, 09:44 PM
 
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Default Lol, lol, I am laughing b/c I call my niece that...

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Just learn from it, grasshopper.
I am laughing because I call my niece that.

Here's the problem: I had to put a lot of work in (filling out detailed background, etc. Plus, I had to take an exam..) and they also had to put a lot of work in, even before the interview.

I didn't want to get rejected from a job that I thought *I should totally get* I mean, you didn't even need a college degree
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Old 12-27-2015, 09:46 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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So ... sounds like your holiday was totally carefree!
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Old 12-27-2015, 09:52 PM
 
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Default Having a thick skin is not my forte..I'm a sensitive person

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Yes, I think you burned that bridge. If an applicant withdraws their application after the interview, it means that they don't want to work for the company, or they are a flake. Either way I would not bother to interview then again in the future.

You need to grow a thicker skin.
Yeah, I think that's probably what the administrative assistant thought (that I didn't want to work for them/was too good for them), which wasn't true because I totally liked the people that I interviewed with - they were like *my people* , which hasn't happened in a really long time...

Next time I should ONLY DO THAT (withdrawal my application) if I really don't want to work with those people...
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Old 12-27-2015, 10:01 PM
 
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There is one simple answer to my question: withdrew app because I didn't want to get rejected on Dec. 23 -did I do the right thing? No.
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Old 12-27-2015, 10:07 PM
 
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Is there anything I can do to salvage the relationship : Dec 22nd, I withdrawal the application (*after we both put in tons of work, to get to the interview..)

Dec 28th: Psyche!!
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Old 12-27-2015, 10:08 PM
 
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As an employer, I have had candidates who we have invested time and resources in who have asked to be removed from consideration, yet they are still eligible to apply for open positions. As I said before, the reason you gave as to why you wanted to be remove from consideration is a key element in how they will treat you going forwards. If you gave them some whacked out loonie reason like not wanting to be rejected before Christmas, you have zero chance of that company or any of their subsidiaries or divisions ever considering you. But, if you gave a rational mature explanation related to the position and requirements, you still may have a chance.

So, nobody can say for sure you are out of the running until we know what you told them as the reasons.
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Old 12-27-2015, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Is there anything I can do to salvage the relationship...
No.
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Old 12-27-2015, 11:18 PM
 
Location: San Jose, CA
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There is one simple answer to my question: withdrew app because I didn't want to get rejected on Dec. 23 -did I do the right thing? No.
I can't understand why you avoided rejection by making sure you were rejected. They probably think they dodged a bullet.
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Old 12-28-2015, 05:02 AM
 
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I just didn't want it to ruin my holiday!! I mean, mark my holiday...like the entire time I would be thinking, "I can't believe I didn't get that job..." Of course, now I will not know what they thought of me.

Is there anything else I can do at this point, or is it just too late?
You shouldn't have done that. They would have considered you for other positions if you were a good candidate.

I agree, you set the bridge on fire.
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