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Old 01-17-2016, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Upper Darby, PA
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Come on. What do you have to get in order? Unemployed people aren't spending 8 hours a day looking for work, most have their houses in complete order including having the clothes in their closet color coded.

A better response would have been "as soon as you need me".

I really think the OP gave off a vibe between needing a week to start and the husband comment that employer picked up that she doesn't want the job, however there are two other people he interviewed who did.

I don't think he was professional, but he felt if he did give her the time it would have been a "no" from her anyway.

The only time you don't start a job right away is you have to give your current employer notice, which any decent new employer understands. When they know the person sitting across from them hasn't worked in months needs a week, they could question that.
I gave a start date two weeks in the future because I wanted to enjoy some time to myself before starting a new job since it would be a long time before I would get time off.
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Old 01-17-2016, 03:36 PM
 
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FYI. When you decide to post your personal business on CD you're going to get various views, not just what you want to hear.

You sound very immature for a 35 year old woman.

You also contradict yourself.

If you don't need the money or insurance benefits because your husband does well, than why were you stressing over it and making it such an issue?

Something doesn't quite add up.
That's your opinion. That's just fine. It doesn't matter to me what you think of me.
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Old 01-17-2016, 03:44 PM
 
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That's your opinion. That's just fine. It doesn't matter to me what you think of me.
Actually, sean did more than give her opinion. She asked some questions that you have yet to answer.

You said you went home and stressed over the job offer - your words. Why?
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Old 01-17-2016, 03:57 PM
 
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Actually, sean did more than give her opinion. She asked some questions that you have yet to answer.

You said you went home and stressed over the job offer - your words. Why?

He does not give raises, or paid vacation time. It was something to think about. I already said this.
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Old 01-17-2016, 03:59 PM
 
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I'm quite ok with how it turned out now anyway.
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Old 01-17-2016, 03:59 PM
 
Location: Upper Darby, PA
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He does not give raises, or paid vacation time. It was something to think about. I already said this.
Sounds to me it wasn't anything to think about because who wants to work at a job like that? You should be happy someone else was selected for the job.
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Old 01-17-2016, 04:01 PM
 
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Sounds to me it wasn't anything to think about because who wants to work at a job like that? You should be happy someone else was selected for the job.


Yes I'm good with that decision. I have an interview with an amazing company this week. Comes with all the bells and whistles.
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Old 01-17-2016, 05:24 PM
 
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He does not give raises, or paid vacation time. It was something to think about. I already said this.
There is a difference between "something to think about" and "stressed over this all night".

Yes, that sounds like an undesirable position - so why not say "no" on the spot?
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Old 01-17-2016, 05:26 PM
 
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I gave a start date two weeks in the future because I wanted to enjoy some time to myself before starting a new job since it would be a long time before I would get time off.
Apples and oranges. I did the same thing. I gave my two weeks notice and asked to start in three weeks so I had a week off in between jobs.

Someone who has been unemployed for months doesn't need a week delay, they have had months of time off already.

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He does not give raises, or paid vacation time. It was something to think about. I already said this.
Why would that matter to you? You said your husband does very well and you really don't need to work.

You wouldn't need insurance benefits either. In fact your husband's plan is probably better than most you would find anyway.

Something doesn't make sense.

Sounds more like you do need a certain amount of income as well as benefits, nothing wrong with that.
But if you really didn't need that, you wouldn't care so much.
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Old 01-17-2016, 05:29 PM
 
Location: Upper Darby, PA
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Apples and oranges. I did the same thing. I gave my two weeks notice and asked to start in three weeks so I had a week off in between jobs.

Someone who has been unemployed for months doesn't need a week delay, they have had months of time off already.



Why would that matter to you? You said your husband does very well and you really don't need to work.

You wouldn't need insurance benefits either. In fact your husband's plan is probably better than most you would find anyway.

Something doesn't make sense.

Sounds more like you do need a certain amount of income as well as benefits, nothing wrong with that.
But if you really didn't need that, you wouldn't care so much.
Yes the unemployed person has been off but that period was trying to find work. So I see nothing wrong with having some time to yourself before starting a new job.
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