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Old 01-14-2016, 03:58 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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I did tell him I was excited about the offer and was very gracious. Yes I do hold it against him. Very rude and unprofessional in my opinion.
But would you have taken it as it was offered? You may not have actually lost anything, unless he was willing to negotiate (though YOU were not).

You can be pissed all you want, but go on to the next opportunity a little smarter.
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:11 PM
 
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He took your "Have to think about it" as you did not really want the job so he made the offer to someone who accepted immediately.

Well at least he thought he might be in for exactly what the OP had planned, a negotiation of some sort.


I am certainly not excusing his offer of 24 hours only to renege on his word. Sadly few too many people honor their word or even consider it a stain on their integrity.


Ultimately if I were that employer and gave 24 hours, and the person tried to negotiate a different deal, I would then have no problem politely saying that I was going to choose another candidate. However to have done that prior, showed his lack of integrity.


As an FYI to the OP, this is a employers market with so many people out of work. So unless you have specialized skills that few other have, you will have to assume that "beggars cannot be choosers".


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Old 01-14-2016, 04:20 PM
 
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Not necessarily less pay but perhaps the 2nd candidate didn't ask any questions.

No raises + few benefits = dead end anyway.



Maybe so, but when bills need to be paid, you take what you can get until something better comes along.


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Old 01-14-2016, 04:25 PM
 
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He should have expressed that when I asked for 1 day. He didn't. I was very serious, otherwise I would have turned it down on the spot. Unprofessional.
What was he supposed to say, no you cannot have 24 hours, accept right this second or the offer is off the table? Why would he do that if he wasn't sure their plan B would accept? He knew when you needed time to think that you were likely going to turn it down or ask for more than what was offered.
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:32 PM
 
Location: So. of Rosarito, Baja, Mexico
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Lets see now...."Administrative Assistant Position" must be a highly valued job...oh wait, it's a filing clerks job and they also have seven employees.
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:47 PM
 
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But would you have taken it as it was offered? You may not have actually lost anything, unless he was willing to negotiate (though YOU were not).

You can be pissed all you want, but go on to the next opportunity a little smarter.

I'm not pissed. He was unprofessional. I had to think it over.
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:51 PM
 
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LOL ok... I will agree to disagree.
The truth is that you need him much more than he needs you, he knows it, he offered, you declined in his mind, end of discussion, he moved on, made an offer, got an acceptance, his day is done and he has what he needs which is a warm body and you have what? More interviews.
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Old 01-14-2016, 04:53 PM
 
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The truth is that you need him much more than he needs you, he knows it, he offered, you declined in his mind, end of discussion, he moved on, made an offer, got an acceptance, his day is done and he has what he needs which is a warm body and you have what? More interviews.
No. I don't need him as I'm not desperate. I'm married and fortunate to have a successful husband. But thanks for your opinion.
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Old 01-14-2016, 05:44 PM
 
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I'm not pissed. He was unprofessional. I had to think it over.
You had to think it over, and you had decided you would negotiate for a better deal. He probably read you right, and knew yo were going to pull his.

He also thought it over, and decided to hire someone who wanted the job, not someone that had to think it over and was only a maybe to take the job for the money he offered.

He was professional, and while you were thinking it over, he decided to do what was best for his needs, and hired someone that really wanted the job.

You played games, and lost.
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Old 01-14-2016, 06:13 PM
 
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You had to think it over, and you had decided you would negotiate for a better deal. He probably read you right, and knew yo were going to pull his.

He also thought it over, and decided to hire someone who wanted the job, not someone that had to think it over and was only a maybe to take the job for the money he offered.

He was professional, and while you were thinking it over, he decided to do what was best for his needs, and hired someone that really wanted the job.

You played games, and lost.
I disagree but thank you for your perspective.
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