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Old 08-17-2018, 06:45 AM
 
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Hi all:

Question: Suppose you apply for a p/t job. While waiting for a callback to learn if you got the job or not, you go on another interview for a different job. Time passes. You are contacted by the p/t employer to offer you the job. You accept the position. Before you start the p/t job, or soon after, you are contacted by the other job you applied for. They offer you a higher salary, etc. What is proper? Give 2 weeks notice? Don't accept the better job? Just stop showing up at the p/t job? What is proper? I have heard about "ghosting" where I guess you simply stop showing up or do not even show up for an interview, or the first day of work, etc.

I am a bit torn. While I understand the importance of having a good work ethic and being bound by your word, isn't your top priority to provide for your family by securing the best job? Not to say that we should operate like many employers, who treat you like a number and promise many things and often fail to follow through with those promises, etc.

Appreciate your comments.

Thanks..

Beans and Rice Bob
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Old 08-17-2018, 07:22 AM
 
Location: Dallas TX
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If you haven't started, don't start, let them know you received another offer that is a better fit for you. If you have started, offer to work the two weeks if needed.

You do what is best for you, just like the company would do for themselves.
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Old 08-17-2018, 03:25 PM
 
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Hi all:

Question: Suppose you apply for a p/t job. While waiting for a callback to learn if you got the job or not, you go on another interview for a different job. Time passes. You are contacted by the p/t employer to offer you the job. You accept the position. Before you start the p/t job, or soon after, you are contacted by the other job you applied for. They offer you a higher salary, etc. What is proper? Give 2 weeks notice? Don't accept the better job? Just stop showing up at the p/t job? What is proper? I have heard about "ghosting" where I guess you simply stop showing up or do not even show up for an interview, or the first day of work, etc.

I am a bit torn. While I understand the importance of having a good work ethic and being bound by your word, isn't your top priority to provide for your family by securing the best job? Not to say that we should operate like many employers, who treat you like a number and promise many things and often fail to follow through with those promises, etc.

Appreciate your comments.

Thanks..

Beans and Rice Bob
This happens all the time. If you search this forum you'll see many posts about it. It's one of those things. Inform the first employer as soon as possible so they don't continue preparations to get you on board. Be honest. Don't need to go into details, just politely tell them a "better fit" opportunity came up and thank them for considering you for their position. I prefer doing it in person by phone instead of a text or email. Gives it a professional touch and interpersonal relationships within your field are worth maintaining. Not showing up/vanishing is incredibly disrespectful and frankly, a little cowardly. It might feel a bit awkward for about 2 minutes, but you'll learn more about how to handle less than perfect situations by doing them courteously.

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Old 08-20-2018, 08:23 AM
 
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Two weeks notice is really not needed in this case as you just started or will start shortly. There's really nothing to wrap up or transition to another person even if you have started.

I agree with previous posters, don't ghost or use email. Call them and explain the situation and thank them for the opportunity. Yes, it's uncomfortable but it's a skill every employee needs to have. Happens all the time.

Remember, as Martin Yate (author of the Knock'em Dead books). It's MeInc. versus ThemInc. You need to always do what's best for you. Trust me, the company will always do what's best for them with little regard for your needs.
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Old 08-20-2018, 08:57 PM
 
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Two weeks notice is really not needed in this case as you just started or will start shortly. There's really nothing to wrap up or transition to another person even if you have started.

I agree with previous posters, don't ghost or use email. Call them and explain the situation and thank them for the opportunity. Yes, it's uncomfortable but it's a skill every employee needs to have. Happens all the time.

Remember, as Martin Yate (author of the Knock'em Dead books). It's MeInc. versus ThemInc. You need to always do what's best for you. Trust me, the company will always do what's best for them with little regard for your needs.
Absolutely agree.
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