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Old 05-16-2010, 04:26 PM
 
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My S.O is currently fighting for custody of his son, which I am a large part of. I have been on multiple interview were I have disclosed I will need at least a week off for trial in the near future (next few months) and I have been met with "We can't hire someone that needs that much time off so soon." I wanted to be honest but after so many turn downs because of it I finally decided to stop disclosing the information because our lawyer plans to supenoa me after we discussed my issue. Some people still feel I should be honest but I feel if I am honest I won't get a job. Opinions please.
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Old 05-16-2010, 04:37 PM
 
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That should scare away most employers. Seeing as how fickle they already are.
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Old 05-16-2010, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Spokane via Sydney,Australia
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Don't tell them and worry about dealing with it when it happens. Quite often in legal matters something you think may happen soon instead takes forever to come up.

Hopefully by the time it comes up you will have been re-employed and settled yourself in as a valued employee.
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Old 05-16-2010, 04:43 PM
 
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I already know for sure 1 day is scheduled for sure. June 30th. As far as the trial our lawyer says it should be in August or September but we pushing for as soon as possible because my S.O's son is 5 and he wants to be able to start him in school here with us.
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Old 05-16-2010, 04:57 PM
 
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Never share sordid personal issues in an interview. Wait until you receive a job offer at least.

In this case, I would wait until you receive the actual subpoena after you've started work, because legally an employer (or any other entity) cannot prevent you from responding to it.
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Old 05-16-2010, 05:03 PM
 
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Never share sordid personal issues in an interview. Wait until you receive a job offer at least.

In this case, I would wait until you receive the actual subpoena, because legally an employer (or any other entity) cannot prevent you from responding to it.
Part of the reason I have shared it is because I am currently attending college for paralegal degree and have been asked why I chose paralegal. Well my experience over the past year with the case is what lead me to that desicion. Also I chose to advise them of the court dates because my worst nightmare is not disclosing the info and then when the trial comes they say NO. Believe me my last job would have done that.
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Old 05-16-2010, 05:46 PM
 
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Just withhold such personal information, get in and BE A KICKASS EMPLOYEE, then when the time comes you could act like you were unaware of when the court would be scheduling its trial. The first day in June you could just call in sick for that one. If you play your cards right, you'll be fine. Of course you would have dug yourself a hole with this, but it's not something you couldn't recover from.
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Old 05-16-2010, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Spokane via Sydney,Australia
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Never share sordid personal issues in an interview. Wait until you receive a job offer at least.

In this case, I would wait until you receive the actual subpoena after you've started work, because legally an employer (or any other entity) cannot prevent you from responding to it.
Are you quite okay there? Reading that makes me wonder about your frame of mind.

What about a custody issue is sordid? do you even KNOW the meaning of the word?

Shakes head in amazement.
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Old 05-16-2010, 06:35 PM
 
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Just withhold such personal information, get in and BE A KICKASS EMPLOYEE, then when the time comes you could act like you were unaware of when the court would be scheduling its trial. The first day in June you could just call in sick for that one. If you play your cards right, you'll be fine. Of course you would have dug yourself a hole with this, but it's not something you couldn't recover from.
Good advice. Or if there's flexibility in scheduling, like offering to cover an extra weekend, that would be another approach.
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Old 05-16-2010, 06:38 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Just like I wouldn't talk about upcoming vacation I wouldn't mention something like this. Those are things to be worked out after you have an offer or are hired.
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