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Old 02-03-2015, 01:34 PM
 
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I am not part of the Orthodox Jewish community in Brooklyn but would like to know what the customary wedding gift amount (in dollars) would be for a young couple? I am an aunt of the groom and would be attending with my two children.
You're insight would be greatly appreciated!
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Old 02-03-2015, 02:43 PM
 
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Any amount commensurate with your own personal wealth is appropriate, just so it in increments of $18 (which is a symbol for "life" in Jewish culture). If you are not well-off, give $18 or $36. If you are wealthy, an amount in the $90-180 range would be appropriate. Mazel tov on the wedding of your nephew.
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Old 02-03-2015, 02:56 PM
 
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Thank you so much for responding! Are your suggested amounts based on each person that I bring? (meaning two young adults coming with me = x 3? Are you from Brooklyn as well (as I'm sure that every community around the country probably has a varying gift amount)?
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Old 02-04-2015, 12:17 AM
 
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Having been married in Brooklyn, I can say honestly that anything everything is appreciated. I would not expect a family with teens or unmarried to have to give more than one gift, they are looked at as one family. Mazel Tov!
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Old 02-06-2015, 08:07 AM
 
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From an ex-NYrs point of view its not multiples of people attending, it's pluses. So its depends on what you can afford. Are doing driving in and back out or are you staying for a somewhere for a few days? Without more info then I'd say a basis of $300 (200+50+50) and work from there.
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Old 02-07-2015, 08:55 PM
 
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From an ex-NYrs point of view its not multiples of people attending, it's pluses. So its depends on what you can afford. Are doing driving in and back out or are you staying for a somewhere for a few days? Without more info then I'd say a basis of $300 (200+50+50) and work from there.
Do you not typically give gifts in denominations of 18? That's not just a frum thing, is it?
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Old 02-07-2015, 09:53 PM
 
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Multiples of 18 seems pretty common universally. I used to work in fundraising and from frum to secular - $90 or $108 was more common than $100.

But by no means is that required.

As far as amounts, keep in mind how high the COL in the NYC area is. Of course, do not give more than you are able, but for 3 people I would think at least $198. As a young adult right in the prime age of all of my friends getting married, I expect to give at LEAST $90 if I am giving cash or contributing to a honeymoon fund if they are friends at home in Georgia. Here in Boston or NYC, I'd expect to give more. That's why I tend to make more creative gifts.
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Old 02-08-2015, 02:08 AM
 
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Do you not typically give gifts in denominations of 18? That's not just a frum thing, is it?
It's was a basis. I think the OP can multiply by 18 by themselves. I don't think putting singles in an envelope looks right. But for you I'll type 198+54+54=306. There you go, a six dollar gain.
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Old 05-06-2015, 05:34 AM
 
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Do you not typically give gifts in denominations of 18? That's not just a frum thing, is it?
I agree with this guy. Its not a frum thing.
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Old 05-06-2015, 01:00 PM
 
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Any amount commensurate with your own personal wealth is appropriate, just so it in increments of $18 (which is a symbol for "life" in Jewish culture). If you are not well-off, give $18 or $36. If you are wealthy, an amount in the $90-180 range would be appropriate. Mazel tov on the wedding of your nephew.
Sounds pretty cool, never heard that one about the 18's, and now I am curious to why it is a symbol of life, but don't tell me, I will see 18's all day now and I wouldn't want you to ruin my euphoria.
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