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Old 03-23-2018, 05:20 AM
 
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As far as I remember being taught it is not acceptable in the Jewish Orthodox tradition to invite non-Jews to a seder. I would guess this comes from the tradition that a bottle of wine touched by a non-Jew is not considered kosher. (This would have helped prevent socialization between Jews and non-Jews from what I remember/understood.) So if one has an elderly relative who has live in help that is non-Jewish would it be acceptable or not to allow such a person to be part of the family's seder meal?
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Old 03-23-2018, 07:28 AM
 
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https://judaism.stackexchange.com/qu...at-seder-table

https://judaism.stackexchange.com/a/27095/1362
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Old 03-23-2018, 11:40 AM
 
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I understand the references in the link above. What would be the case for a Jewish relative bringing a non-Jewish spouse to a seder? Would the same rules apply like a non-Jewish live in household employee?
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Old 03-23-2018, 12:59 PM
 
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The first link seems to indicate that, since one would hold a spouse in higher esteem and would be more likely to make sure that there is enough (extra) food, it is a bigger problem.
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Old 03-26-2018, 04:55 AM
 
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Also I thought it is against tradition to share a bottle of wine between a Jew and a non-Jew. So wouldn't that be a problem with having a non-Jew at a seder?
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:05 AM
 
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Only if the wine isn't mevushal.
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Old 03-26-2018, 09:04 AM
 
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here is a Pesach question. in sephardic minhag rice is permitted to be eaten, in ashkenazic it is not. what about a person who is thoroughly secular and so did not grow up with any traditions whatsoever. at age 50 they find out they are Jewish and start becoming observant, and they have a rabbi. the rabbi and this person's family lineage are not the same, one is ashkenaz, the other is sephardic.

which do they follow in terms of rice on pesach, the customs of their rabbi or the lineage of their ancestors, which they never experienced or practiced because they grew up in a secular home of thoroughly assimilated Jews.
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Old 03-26-2018, 09:55 AM
 
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https://judaism.stackexchange.com/qu...teshuva-minhag
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Old 03-26-2018, 04:30 PM
 
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I recommend clicking on this link. It won't really provide an answer, I don't think, but the discussion IS interesting.

I am a BT, from a nearly secular Ashkenazic background. I wear Chabad tefillin, because that's who taught me to put on tefillin. Same with tallis. Yet I make kiddush with a distinctly misnagdische tune (widely popular in the US of A) because that is actually a tradition (one of the very few) from my father.

I don't yet have a position on what is proper - I don't know enough yet.
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Old 03-26-2018, 05:43 PM
 
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it is a good link and I enjoyed reading the comments and learning. it sounds like I get to pick. ??? I live in an area with both Ashkenaz and Sephardim. I identify as chassidus with a rebbe who has Ashkenaz geographic origins, but davens nusach sephard, and has followers both Sephardic and Ashkenaz.

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