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Old 09-05-2019, 11:06 AM
 
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I know, that’s why I hate going by reading something alone, things in print sometimes sound differently in person.
It’s easy to read things or interpret it differently than what the person intended.
I thought being Jewish, they were already welcomed and didn’t need an official invite, so I automatically thought it meant the non Jewish partner,my bad.
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Old 09-05-2019, 11:23 AM
 
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What about the non-Jewish spouses? Are they also invited to these events, or are they going to be politely asked to stay home?
Hi Rachel,

Of course the non-Jewish spouse would be invited, the only exception that I can think of is participation in a religious service.

You seem to have a lot of good ideas what would you invite people to?
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Old 09-05-2019, 11:29 AM
 
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I know, that’s why I hate going by reading something alone, things in print sometimes sound differently in person.
It’s easy to read things or interpret it differently than what the person intended.
I thought being Jewish, they were already welcomed and didn’t need an official invite, so I automatically thought it meant the non Jewish partner,my bad.
Hi PM,

It is not so much that people need an invite to go to Jewish events, the point of the study is that although people are already welcome they are not coming. So the idea is trying to get people to go by asking (inviting) them. Perhaps I did not make that completely clear, sorry about that.

Besides communal events, we are trying to come up with things we can do on an individual basis to get people more involved in Judaism. Can you think of any good ideas?

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Old 09-05-2019, 11:31 AM
 
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Hi Rachel,

Of course the non-Jewish spouse would be invited, the only exception that I can think of is participation in a religious service.
Glad to hear that, Mac. I also know of synagogues where non-Jewish spouses attend services with their Jewish spouses -- the men respectfully put on the kippah that is offered to them at the door before entering the sanctuary. The families pay their membership dues to the synagogue like everyone else, but the non-Jewish members may not vote on matters that pertain to the administration of the synagogue, nor may they serve on the synagogue's board of directors. I don't think that this is an unfair arrangement. And, of course, non-Jews cannot be counted in a minyan.


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You seem to have a lot of good ideas what would you invite people to?
I'm really more interested in hearing your ideas. I mistook what you were trying to say before. Sorry.
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Old 09-05-2019, 02:01 PM
 
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So the question is how do we as individuals and the community actively reach out. One of the findings of the study was that one may want to start by inviting Jews from intermarried families to non-Religious events as a first step because there are many(not all) that are not very religious. Afterwards one may start inviting Jews from these families to more religious events liket Shabbat dinners. Are there any other ideas out there on how we can get them more engaged?
The community I belonged to in NC was the only one for a large area. It also had a huge military population, with all types of people.

As a result, it had to be a home for all Jewish families, including those where one spouse may not be Jewish. It is a Conservative synagogue, and the rabbi will not perform an interfaith marriage, but interfaith families are always welcomed. The only things the non-Jewish spouse cannot do are religious functions restricted to Jews and be elected to the board of trustees for the synagogue.

As far non-religious events, there were yearly Back to School, Back to Shul barbecues, trips to the local theater, group trips to the museum anytime a Jewish-centric exhibit was there, and other assorted things. We tried to have at least one non-religious event each month to get people together and forming friendships.
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Old 09-05-2019, 02:19 PM
 
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The community I belonged to in NC was the only one for a large area. It also had a huge military population, with all types of people.

As a result, it had to be a home for all Jewish families, including those where one spouse may not be Jewish. It is a Conservative synagogue, and the rabbi will not perform an interfaith marriage, but interfaith families are always welcomed. The only things the non-Jewish spouse cannot do are religious functions restricted to Jews and be elected to the board of trustees for the synagogue.

As far non-religious events, there were yearly Back to School, Back to Shul barbecues, trips to the local theater, group trips to the museum anytime a Jewish-centric exhibit was there, and other assorted things. We tried to have at least one non-religious event each month to get people together and forming friendships.
Was that shul over on Raynor road?...
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Old 09-05-2019, 02:33 PM
 
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Was that shul over on Raynor road?...
It's on Morganton Rd. towards downtown.
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Old 09-06-2019, 02:28 AM
 
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It's on Morganton Rd. towards downtown.
Ah, ok, I donít think I ever noticed it or I had and donít remember it...
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Old 09-06-2019, 11:35 AM
 
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Morganton Rd? Is that the one with the Rabbi who loves Hockey? I think her name is Eve or Eva? That might be closer to Ft Bragg though, I think. They built up the area so much, that when we visited it last year, it was so built up. I remember the pre- “ All American Expressway “ days with pleasure.
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Old Yesterday, 08:04 PM
 
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Hi PM,

It is not so much that people need an invite to go to Jewish events, the point of the study is that although people are already welcome they are not coming. So the idea is trying to get people to go by asking (inviting) them. Perhaps I did not make that completely clear, sorry about that.

Besides communal events, we are trying to come up with things we can do on an individual basis to get people more involved in Judaism. Can you think of any good ideas?
Individual, like a mentor program, or big brother/ sister ,to explain customs or prayers, or inviting them to seders, or Chanukah , or family activities with a family in the congregation? Showing Jewish movies , question and answer sessions,will probably be considered communal though.
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