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Old 09-27-2011, 01:42 PM
 
Location: Kansas City
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Or a nice balance of the two?

What are the people like is what I'm asking? I grew up in neighboring Illinois just south of the Chicago area and that was always too reserved for me. Do people go out of their way to help out neighbors, friends, and fellow churchgoers? I've read accounts in the Dallas, Texas forums about the expressways, when several cars will pull over if they see somebody in need of help. In Chicago they'd fly on by and here in Seattle their too absorbed with the latest techy gadget to even look up and notice, what would they do in KC?
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Old 09-27-2011, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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My opinion will be probably not much use to you, because I, too, grew up in Illinois (rural north central, west of Chicago), but never found it to be especially reserved. I did go to college in Minnesota, though, with the particular reserve of the fairly icily stoic Scandinavians up there..."Minnesota nice" on the surface, rather private and distant under that polite-for-appearances veneer.

But I've found KC to be friendly and open...it depends, as with everywhere, on specifics...neighborhood, the character of it. When I first lived in KC, we lived in an apartment in the Plaza neighborhood, which is more retail than residential, and didn't have an especially neighborhood-y feel. There were many reasons that living there was cool, fun, etc., but having close, friendly neighbors wasn't really among them. Later, when we moved to more residential neighborhoods, we found that it was totally different...our neighbors were friendly, neighborhoods had neighborly character where people know one another, etc. It's a fairly welcoming city, in my estimation.

To me, as a city, it feels more Midwestern than southern (although more church culture than I am accustomed to...don't really have a problem with it, though).
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Old 09-27-2011, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Washington, DC area
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I wouldn't call KC southern at all, but it's friendly.

Then again, I think most places are friendly and think people are about the same everywhere when you drill down to the people.
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Old 09-27-2011, 07:48 PM
 
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Or a nice balance of the two?

What are the people like is what I'm asking? I grew up in neighboring Illinois just south of the Chicago area and that was always too reserved for me. Do people go out of their way to help out neighbors, friends, and fellow churchgoers? I've read accounts in the Dallas, Texas forums about the expressways, when several cars will pull over if they see somebody in need of help. In Chicago they'd fly on by and here in Seattle their too absorbed with the latest techy gadget to even look up and notice, what would they do in KC?
I never thought KC to be overly friendly, but more polite than the parts of the south that I grew up in. I don't think the south has the market cornered on friendliness and hospitality.
Like KCMO said, when you really get down to it, people are kind of the same anywhere. Sort of.
Seems to me that what is considered good manners changes from place to place, however.
I don't know.
Kansas City does have a mixture of midwestern and southern cultures.
You might have somebody pull over to help someone, but they won't fall over themselves to do it. A lot of them would be too busy flying by playing with their techy gadget.
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Old 09-28-2011, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Tower Grove East, St. Louis, MO
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I never heard of multiple cars pulling over to help someone on the side of the road in Dallas. Though an old coworker, when living down there, was chased down a state highway by a truck full of hooligans with guns because he had an Obama sticker on his car. Gotta love that southern hospitality, right?
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Old 09-28-2011, 11:49 AM
 
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I never heard of multiple cars pulling over to help someone on the side of the road in Dallas. Though an old coworker, when living down there, was chased down a state highway by a truck full of hooligans with guns because he had an Obama sticker on his car. Gotta love that southern hospitality, right?
You hardly see that anymore. People have been robbed, murdered over pulling over.

Right before my dad was born here in Stl he saw a guy who was "broke down" he pulled over, and the guy attacked him as he was about to get out of his car. Luckily my dad was having a beer and whacked the guy on the side of the head with it. Neighbor told my dad to leave and that he would call the police.

Guess drinking and driving does pay off sometimes!
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Old 09-28-2011, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Tower Grove East, St. Louis, MO
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You hardly see that anymore. People have been robbed, murdered over pulling over.

Right before my dad was born here in Stl he saw a guy who was "broke down" he pulled over, and the guy attacked him as he was about to get out of his car. Luckily my dad was having a beer and whacked the guy on the side of the head with it. Neighbor told my dad to leave and that he would call the police.

Guess drinking and driving does pay off sometimes!
Wow he was drinking and driving as a fetus? Now that's badass. I think that might be a typo lol!
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Old 09-28-2011, 03:18 PM
 
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Wow he was drinking and driving as a fetus? Now that's badass. I think that might be a typo lol!
Yea a typo. I mean before I was born.

I think the DUI thing is overrated. Even had a speed trap specialist cop tell me .008 men can still operate a vehical just fine.
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Old 09-28-2011, 11:03 PM
 
Location: Kansas City, MO
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Or a nice balance of the two?

What are the people like is what I'm asking? I grew up in neighboring Illinois just south of the Chicago area and that was always too reserved for me. Do people go out of their way to help out neighbors, friends, and fellow churchgoers? I've read accounts in the Dallas, Texas forums about the expressways, when several cars will pull over if they see somebody in need of help. In Chicago they'd fly on by and here in Seattle their too absorbed with the latest techy gadget to even look up and notice, what would they do in KC?
I wonder about this too. Even though I live in Kansas City, I don't have a lot of experience to go by.

I've often heard Kansas City called friendly and that very well may be a bit of the minor southern influence here. If those people who are recognizing KC as particularly friendly are from further north or east, I can see how their perspective could really make friendliness (or southerness) stand out. On the other hand, from what experience I do have, Kansas City is not friendly or hospitable by southern or rural standards - which those 2 virtues seem to overlap more in the south where the cities are better connected socially to their surrounding area and the people are more state-centric.

Generally, I think people in day-to-day life are friendlier in the outter suburbs of KC. I've said this before, but there is a certain humanity that exists in some areas and it's hard to put my finger on but I think a couple things that cause it are:

A) Southern and rural cities and towns are more culturally homogeneous, there's more familiarity, less divide, a more unified culture, which could be what breeds friendliness.

B) When people are in a city where crime is high and there are a lot of bad people, they are more onguard and suspicious of others intentions. Concious or subconcious.
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Old 09-28-2011, 11:27 PM
 
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Or a nice balance of the two?

What are the people like is what I'm asking? I grew up in neighboring Illinois just south of the Chicago area and that was always too reserved for me. Do people go out of their way to help out neighbors, friends, and fellow churchgoers? I've read accounts in the Dallas, Texas forums about the expressways, when several cars will pull over if they see somebody in need of help. In Chicago they'd fly on by and here in Seattle their too absorbed with the latest techy gadget to even look up and notice, what would they do in KC?
I grew up in Birmingham and lived 7 years in Kansas City. I remember the second day after I moved to Kansas City being in a diner and someone passing through from California remarking, " So, what is it like living in the South ? " ( Californian was referring to Kansas City when he said "South" ). I just laughed and said, " This is NOT the South ". Not that there is anything wrong with that, as I learned to love Midwest people and culture after 7 years in KC. Kansas Citians may be a bit more reserved than Southerners, but once a connection is made I find Midwesterners to be very engaging, and, overall, maybe friendlier than Southerners. More no-nonsense and frank, which I appreciate, but not to the point of being rude. I personally found Kansans in the area, and Iowans to be especially friendly, and Missourians friendly, but more reserved.

I always thought of Kansas City as the melting pot of the Midwest and South ( with many folks from Oklahoma and Arkansas in the area ), and also many Iowans, Nebraskans, and Illini in the area. Great people and great culture.

Carpe
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