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Old 01-23-2012, 12:17 PM
 
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ok so here's my story:
i currently live with my boyfriend, our roomate and my boyfriends sister. My roomate pays rent, doesn't bother me at all, and for the most part isn't a huge slob...now my boyfriends sister on the other hand is the total opposite. She has no job, no car, trashes her room that she doesn't pay rent for, and comes home drunk constantly. Her "friend" which also happens to be one of my boyfriends friends, is in the same boat as her, and he chooses to spend most of his time hanging out here, using our utilities, eating our food and camping out on our couch even though he also does not pay any rent here. BUT i can't say anything because this guy is my roomate's friend too and his excuse will be, well he is here to hang out with me

Here's my problem:
Our lease is up in late march, and i have made it very clear that i cannot handle the unemployed slobs anymore. I would like to move out with my boyfriend alone, into our own cheap place. I brought up the point that our roomates are not only NOT saving us any money because only one of them pays us rent (and he doesn't even pay a third) BUT they are also costing me my sanity!!! I am constantly cleaning up after them and making sure to hide the food i buy because they smoke weed and will eat all of it!!!

His recent idea:
He wants one of our other friends to move into the room his sister is currently inhabiting and start paying rent in order to make it cheaper for everyone, and kick his sister out.

I do not think this solution will work because the guy he wants to move in here is ALSO friends with his sister and the other job-less guy!! hence, they will be here "hanging out" and making even more messes because there will be technically 5 people living in a THREE SMALL BEDROOM DUPLEX-- and they are all slobs!!! i can't take it anymore! how can i convince him that living alone will actually save us MORE money than taking care of a bunch of grown ass people!?!?!
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Old 01-23-2012, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Tower Grove East, St. Louis, MO
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ok so here's my story:
i currently live with my boyfriend, our roomate and my boyfriends sister. My roomate pays rent, doesn't bother me at all, and for the most part isn't a huge slob...now my boyfriends sister on the other hand is the total opposite. She has no job, no car, trashes her room that she doesn't pay rent for, and comes home drunk constantly. Her "friend" which also happens to be one of my boyfriends friends, is in the same boat as her, and he chooses to spend most of his time hanging out here, using our utilities, eating our food and camping out on our couch even though he also does not pay any rent here. BUT i can't say anything because this guy is my roomate's friend too and his excuse will be, well he is here to hang out with me

Here's my problem:
Our lease is up in late march, and i have made it very clear that i cannot handle the unemployed slobs anymore. I would like to move out with my boyfriend alone, into our own cheap place. I brought up the point that our roomates are not only NOT saving us any money because only one of them pays us rent (and he doesn't even pay a third) BUT they are also costing me my sanity!!! I am constantly cleaning up after them and making sure to hide the food i buy because they smoke weed and will eat all of it!!!

His recent idea:
He wants one of our other friends to move into the room his sister is currently inhabiting and start paying rent in order to make it cheaper for everyone, and kick his sister out.

I do not think this solution will work because the guy he wants to move in here is ALSO friends with his sister and the other job-less guy!! hence, they will be here "hanging out" and making even more messes because there will be technically 5 people living in a THREE SMALL BEDROOM DUPLEX-- and they are all slobs!!! i can't take it anymore! how can i convince him that living alone will actually save us MORE money than taking care of a bunch of grown ass people!?!?!
Sorry, this sounds like a relationship problem, not a relocation problem. You and the boyfriend need to work out your issues -- you sound ready to grow up and he doesn't. You might consider getting your own place entirely.
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Old 01-23-2012, 01:43 PM
 
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ok so here's my story:
i currently live with my boyfriend, our roomate and my boyfriends sister. My roomate pays rent, doesn't bother me at all, and for the most part isn't a huge slob...now my boyfriends sister on the other hand is the total opposite. She has no job, no car, trashes her room that she doesn't pay rent for, and comes home drunk constantly. Her "friend" which also happens to be one of my boyfriends friends, is in the same boat as her, and he chooses to spend most of his time hanging out here, using our utilities, eating our food and camping out on our couch even though he also does not pay any rent here. BUT i can't say anything because this guy is my roomate's friend too and his excuse will be, well he is here to hang out with me

Here's my problem:
Our lease is up in late march, and i have made it very clear that i cannot handle the unemployed slobs anymore. I would like to move out with my boyfriend alone, into our own cheap place. I brought up the point that our roomates are not only NOT saving us any money because only one of them pays us rent (and he doesn't even pay a third) BUT they are also costing me my sanity!!! I am constantly cleaning up after them and making sure to hide the food i buy because they smoke weed and will eat all of it!!!

His recent idea:
He wants one of our other friends to move into the room his sister is currently inhabiting and start paying rent in order to make it cheaper for everyone, and kick his sister out.

I do not think this solution will work because the guy he wants to move in here is ALSO friends with his sister and the other job-less guy!! hence, they will be here "hanging out" and making even more messes because there will be technically 5 people living in a THREE SMALL BEDROOM DUPLEX-- and they are all slobs!!! i can't take it anymore! how can i convince him that living alone will actually save us MORE money than taking care of a bunch of grown ass people!?!?!
Does your boyfriend work? Do you? No kids? Did any of you go to college? Have plans for the future? A way to realistically achieve them?

If you're interested in getting advice for what to do about relationship problems, there's a relationships forum here on City-Data: http://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/
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Old 01-23-2012, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Atlanta, GA
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Sorry, this sounds like a relationship problem, not a relocation problem. You and the boyfriend need to work out your issues -- you sound ready to grow up and he doesn't. You might consider getting your own place entirely.
I tend to agree here. I mean the lady is your BF's sister so what's to stop her from "moving in" with you once you're at a new place?
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