KC is terrible for single young Indian men (Kansas City: schools, live)

[overhypedKC]

I know there are tons of families that live out here who are of an Indian origin so I am not talking about the family aspect, schools, but as a mid 20s single guy it's easy to figure out places where you are welcome and where you aren't.

Now I am not a creepy looking guy, or someone that smells like yesterday's chicken curry by any chance(all these wonderful stereotypes attributed to men of my ethnicity) but I guess if you aren't White you aren't welcome in this city. I have noticed this elitist, snobbish behavior in the Plaza part of town yesterday which my friend from KC claimed to be the most progressive part of town.

After speaking to a few ladies last night and noticing the repulsion and scornful tone of their tongue, I can't but ascribe this to the culture and the upbringing they have perhaps had here. Surprising to me because I thought most young people were progressive enough to look past someone's race for their persona, but I guess KC is a 100 years behind in time.

I was considering relocating here due to having family and some friends here, but thanks for the dose of good old racism KC. Stay classy in your good old America and it's values.

[WiseOwlSaysHoot]

I'm sorry you struck out with the ladies your one night in town, but your experience with a few people is not representative of the city as a whole. My neighbor and good friend is a single Indian man and he has no problem at all with ladies!

And by the way, the Plaza is FAR from the most progressive part of town. If you did experience racism, I'm truly sorry - that is terrible- but you can't judge an entire city from a "few ladies". Do you even know that they are from KC? The Plaza attracts a lot of tourists and people from small towns around KC.

[TabulaRasa]

I'm not sure that being snubbed by girls in bars = "being 100 years behind the times in race relations." Sorry you struck out though.

[kcmo]

Originally Posted by overhypedKC

I know there are tons of families that live out here who are of an Indian origin so I am not talking about the family aspect, schools, but as a mid 20s single guy it's easy to figure out places where you are welcome and where you aren't.

Now I am not a creepy looking guy, or someone that smells like yesterday's chicken curry by any chance(all these wonderful stereotypes attributed to men of my ethnicity) but I guess if you aren't White you aren't welcome in this city. I have noticed this elitist, snobbish behavior in the Plaza part of town yesterday which my friend from KC claimed to be the most progressive part of town.

After speaking to a few ladies last night and noticing the repulsion and scornful tone of their tongue, I can't but ascribe this to the culture and the upbringing they have perhaps had here. Surprising to me because I thought most young people were progressive enough to look past someone's race for their persona, but I guess KC is a 100 years behind in time.

I was considering relocating here due to having family and some friends here, but thanks for the dose of good old racism KC. Stay classy in your good old America and it's values.

You sound like somebody that has a chip on their shoulder and came to KC expecting it to be a racist place and so you saw what you wanted to see that you can blame a place on what is probably a personal interaction issue.

It doesn't sounds like you know much about KC either. KC is not even remotely southern and the plaza is a touristy area and where a lot of old money is (although its starting to get younger). So while it's a nicer part of the city and modestly growing, I wouldn't call it progressive.

I personally think all of your posts on this topic are ridiculous and you have some vendetta against the midwest and so you are taking it out on KC. You chose the wrong place. You are way off base with your thoughts on KC. It's a relatively normal big city when it comes to the topics you brought up and probably one of the more progressive cities in the midwest and especially south since you think it's in the South.

[nycrite]

I work with someone who was born and raised in a southern state and recently moved to KC. I asked him if KC was a southern or northern state culturally speaking, since geographically, it's in the middle. He said "definitely northern."

[luzianne]

Originally Posted by overhypedKC

I know there are tons of families that live out here who are of an Indian origin so I am not talking about the family aspect, schools, but as a mid 20s single guy it's easy to figure out places where you are welcome and where you aren't.

Now I am not a creepy looking guy, or someone that smells like yesterday's chicken curry by any chance(all these wonderful stereotypes attributed to men of my ethnicity) but I guess if you aren't White you aren't welcome in this city. I have noticed this elitist, snobbish behavior in the Plaza part of town yesterday which my friend from KC claimed to be the most progressive part of town.

After speaking to a few ladies last night and noticing the repulsion and scornful tone of their tongue, I can't but ascribe this to the culture and the upbringing they have perhaps had here. Surprising to me because I thought most young people were progressive enough to look past someone's race for their persona, but I guess KC is a 100 years behind in time.

I was considering relocating here due to having family and some friends here, but thanks for the dose of good old racism KC. Stay classy in your good old America and it's values.

Wow, really? I wouldn't assume it is your ethnicity that is the problem. There are plenty of Indian men in Kansas City who have no problem meeting women. My baby granddaughter is part Indian.

[pacificwhim]

Or maybe you're just a jerk.

[lepoisson]

I don't think this is a KC thing, it's just a more conservative thing. People complain about the same issues with dating here in Dallas. Some people just have to date/marry in the same race/ethnicity. You'll just have to find someone where race doesn't matter.

Actually, don't most Indians do the same thing? I had an Indian friend and his mom was OUTRAGED that he was dating someone from Bangladesh.

[TabulaRasa]

LOL, I dated an Indian guy ( in Kansas City, no less!), and we both were in agreement that it would be a short-term, casual thing only, because his parents were in the process of arranging his marriage. I was newly out of a relationship, and wasn't looking for anything serious, so it worked. But, yeah, if I HAD been looking for something serious, I'm sure it would have been a no-go.

[luzianne]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

LOL, I dated an Indian guy ( in Kansas City, no less!), and we both were in agreement that it would be a short-term, casual thing only, because his parents were in the process of arranging his marriage. I was newly out of a relationship, and wasn't looking for anything serious, so it worked. But, yeah, if I HAD been looking for something serious, I'm sure it would have been a no-go.

Wasn't a problem for my daughter, but maybe some Indian parents are more accepting of it than others. And maybe the length of time the parents have been US citizens makes a difference.