Dating scene/single women in Kansas City (Rea: high school, college)

[phases]

I agree with Thrillcekr and relate to kpatten. I'm a single female that relocated to KC about 6 months ago, and it is no different here than anywhere else. And I am also weary of the whole internet matchmaking services. I'm time crunched, being a grad student and working. I'm not really into the bar scene and meeting a guy outside of it, is rather difficult. Yet, I have tried the bars here in KC, and have still found that finding a quality guy in a bar is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It happens, but the chances are slim. I'm not interested in a guy thats only recreation is consuming alcohol every weekend and that is all that hits on me. You'll find a lot of singles at the bars in Westport/Plaza, but I think if you really want to meet and get to know someone, try approaching someone in these places during their "off" hours. KC really is a great city, that I have come to love in a short amount of time. There is a variety of cultures and people, and there is something for pretty much everyone in this city. It would be a great place to have a relationship and spend time with someone. I'm still hoping and I wish you all good luck.

[aragx6]

I suggest getting involved in activities. Join a softball team this spring or take an adult education class. Getting out there really helps.

[northbayeric]

Great advice. Just stick to FINISHING grad school (hopefully you're only a few semesters away from getting that master's diploma), and getting involved in the kinds of activities aragx6 mentions. Maybe find a good church as well. But the Internet dating stuff and going to bars--there's better stuff in store for you! I was 37 before I married my own better half, and it was totally worth the wait.

There are men out there who will respect you and put your needs ahead of their selfish wants. But they can be hard to find, just as I was nearly ready to give up finding a woman who respected herself who wasn't already married to someone else! Get done with grad school, and new doors are going to open.

[keepthefaith]

Single Women in KC...drop me a line.

ktf

[dsmwc843]

I have attended UMKC in Kansas City for the last four years and what I hear sounds pretty accurate in that Kansas City is a hard city to meet people. Many students commute to UMKC from Blue Springs, Lee's Summit, ect and do not live concentrated around the campus or city area. This is a problem. With that said I have grown to love things about KC (but the list is not huge) There seems to be a separation of people into distinct groups in KC which dont really seem to mix and I think the flow into and out of the city is very low. I for example have lived in Bloomington, IN where IU is located and Fort Collins, CO where CSU is located and the atmosphere is very different. If you live in KC and are single my advice is to Volunteer this is a good way to meet nice people who you are on the same page with you in life.

[BostonToKC]

Originally Posted by dsmwc843

There seems to be a separation of people into distinct groups in KC which don't really seem to mix ...

You are correct. Most people here are content, conservative, close-knit and are married by their early-mid twenties. So your options (if you are single) are as follows:

1) Marry someone who just graduated high school (if possible).
2) Network within the large and growing KC area divorcees' club.

They do get snatched up quickly and early around these parts...

[GraniteStater]

Originally Posted by BostonToKC

You are correct. Most people here are content, conservative, close-knit and are married by their early-mid twenties. So your options (if you are single) are as follows:

1) Marry someone who just graduated high school (if possible).
2) Network within the large and growing KC area divorcees' club.

They do get snatched up quickly and early around these parts...

The culture of the KC metro area- particularly suburbia is VERY strange. Many get married very early which is more of a rural trait compared with a metro of 2 million + trait. I didn't like it and knew that the key to leaving the area was being VERY career focused as well as driven. Those were the characteristics I needed in order to be able to move ro a more desirable part of the country. KC is also not a good place to be for a type A person like myself. Southern NH is a much better fit for me and I only go back to KC 1-2 times a year for family reasons.

[GraniteStater]

Originally Posted by BostonToKC

You are correct. Most people here are content, conservative, close-knit and are married by their early-mid twenties. So your options (if you are single) are as follows:

1) Marry someone who just graduated high school (if possible).
2) Network within the large and growing KC area divorcees' club.

They do get snatched up quickly and early around these parts...

People in general can get complacent in low COL areas IMO. They get married and have kids early. However, they really don't realize how much harder it is to move to a higher COL area if they get a job transfer to another part of the country. KC has an extraordinarily family-centric type of culture, and other areas of the country are definitely much less so along with expense differences...

[RadioSilence]

I must affirm most of the comments above. I'm a single male in my 30s, and I dread the bar pickup scene, particularly in Westport where there is always a DWI trap nearby. Most women I meet anywhere (work, bar, hiking, wherever) are already married/engaged/soon-to-be engaged.

[TabulaRasa]

I work with quite a few women in the 25-30 bracket who are single...but the majority of them are rebounding from recently failed "starter" marriages they entered into in their early to midtwenties, so they're not necessarily choice dating material, though smart and attractive...too much man-baggage.

I'm a big anomaly, as somebody who's in a stable long-term cohabiting relationship, but has not opted to tie the knot yet...but I'm a liberal who grew up on a farm near a town of 350. So I'm pretty used to being the anomaly.