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05-13-2009, 08:56 PM
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Rhinestone In The Rough
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Location: Sweet Home Alabama
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Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948
the entire intent of most southern manners are to diffuse and disarm conflict and confrontation.
the nature of manners. you have repeated in your OP that you were insulted.
did you take offense or was it given. please explain.
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Very well said, Huck. You captured the essence of "southern manners" completely! |
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08-13-2009, 06:08 AM
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I agree with most on "bless your heart", sometimes we really mean "bless your heart" and sometimes we say it when there's nothing else to say...
Southern vocabulary...
lovely--highest praise
precious--high compliment
darling--also high compliment(can be used with precious) "your children are precious and they wear the most darlin' clothes"
cute--not exactly a high compliment, but not a complete put down either
sweet--The kiss of death
nice--the kiss of death with the coffin sealed
from "A Southern Belle Primer or Why Princess Margaret will never be a Kappa Kappa Gamma" by Marylin Schwartz
then...there's tacky!
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08-13-2009, 07:07 AM
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Real Estate Agent
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I'll never remember that list, which is fine.
If someone says that I am or my clothes are nice, I'll assume they mean it.
I don't have time for passive-aggressiveness and this Yankee refuses to be rude.  |
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08-13-2009, 08:30 AM
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Chance favors the prepared mind.
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee
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Originally Posted by hiknapster
I'll never remember that list, which is fine.
If someone says that I am or my clothes are nice, I'll assume they mean it.
I don't have time for passive-aggressiveness and this Yankee refuses to be rude. |
I agree with you. And my very Southern, steel magnolia of a mother apparently agrees with you, too. When my mom calls someone "sweet" or "nice" she really means it. |
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08-13-2009, 09:01 AM
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Originally Posted by JMT
I agree with you. And my very Southern, steel magnolia of a mother apparently agrees with you, too. When my mom calls someone "sweet" or "nice" she really means it.
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Well, thank goodness. I'm pretty sure she called me at least one of those adjectives! 
Your mother embodies the spirit of the true Southern woman. Enough said. |
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08-13-2009, 10:24 AM
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It's from a book y'all! LOL...
I guess because I dared post such nonsense I am somehow less southern or ungracious...but at the risk of sounding trite...y'all brought it up...or someone did on this thread so I thought I'd provide something that I'd read in reference to those posts...anyhow...something that is precious, would be better than something that is nice...not that nice isn't nice...it's just not precious 
Last edited by tnprincess; 08-13-2009 at 11:32 AM..
Reason: 2morecents...
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08-13-2009, 11:02 AM
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Sometimes, "bless your heart" can have different meanings. When I had surgery last year, I was in alot of pain. One of the nurses said to me "bless your heart". Perhaps it was her way of empathizing with me, seeing that I was in alot of pain. I have friends who tell me "bless your heart" is just a nice way of insulting someone. The only time it was ever said to me was when I was in the hospital, in intense pain. I could tell it came from a genuine place. Actually, this was one of my fonder moments of being in Rome,GA.
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08-13-2009, 11:13 AM
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Originally Posted by pirate_lafitte
Sometimes, "bless your heart" can have different meanings. When I had surgery last year, I was in alot of pain. One of the nurses said to me "bless your heart". Perhaps it was her way of empathizing with me, seeing that I was in alot of pain. I have friends who tell me "bless your heart" is just a nice way of insulting someone. The only time it was ever said to me was when I was in the hospital, in intense pain. I could tell it came from a genuine place. Actually, this was one of my fonder moments of being in Rome,GA.
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Yes, it is a way of empathizing! Showing empathy and mercy...
A few years ago, I'm not sure about the name of the book, but it was stated in that book that "bless your heart" was a way of insulting someone  ...I had never even thought that until I read that...I guess it depends on the person...when I say "bless your heart" it's because I'm showing sympathy... |
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08-13-2009, 11:20 AM
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The worst is when someone calls you "honey." So condescending.
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08-13-2009, 11:28 AM
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Originally Posted by VolDude
The worst is when someone calls you "honey." So condescending.
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I'm sorry that you find endearments condescending...
I've always thought it was better than to call someone "hey you" but that's just me |
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