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Old 09-20-2010, 02:51 PM
 
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The problem is myself and my inability to be satisfied with what I do have. I always feel inferior to others and like I dont have enough (ie material things) or that Im just not good enough (life in general)
Thats not the same spirit you had as you were making your first plans to move here.

You have to take action now. Forget about the material stuff, that will come with time. You're not treading water. You're establishing residency, eeking by and building character.

I sure hope you will look back on this and laugh. Look at the opportunities people have introduced you to. Not everyone has the ability to take advantage of them. You have youth on your side.

We all have self-defeating doubts from time to time. I've seen you rise above problems and navigate challenges with a whole lot more testicular fortitude than most people.

Hang in there.
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Old 09-20-2010, 02:55 PM
 
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The problem is myself and my inability to be satisfied with what I do have. I always feel inferior to others and like I dont have enough (ie material things) or that Im just not good enough (life in general)
Material things mean nothing and will not make you happy. The other thing you need to realize is most people with material things don't even own them, rather they can't afford them since they are bought on credit.
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Old 09-20-2010, 03:31 PM
 
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Material things mean nothing and will not make you happy. The other thing you need to realize is most people with material things don't even own them, rather they can't afford them since they are bought on credit.
Material things also own you even if you buy them with cash or have paid them off. It takes time to take care of them, store them, secure them. I honestly miss the days when I could move all my belongings in a small truck.
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Old 09-20-2010, 03:32 PM
 
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And then there are the material things you acquire over time, like tons of junk you end up with in your garage overwhelming you and then you wish you were 20 again with less stuff!
Davie you are so young and when you are that age things are much more serious and intense. But when you get older, you will look back on this and have a good laugh or two. Right now you cannot even fathom that happening, but it will. Trust us. We know.
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Old 09-20-2010, 03:46 PM
 
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Defining and measuring your life by the quantity and quality of your material possessions is the source of your misery. When you meet the end of your life it will be completely meaningless how fancy your car was or how big your house was. There is a reason we are the wealthiest nation but certainly not the happiest or the most content.
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Old 09-20-2010, 04:03 PM
 
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Material things are you kidding? Wait till your 21 more doors could possibly open up (casinos etc.) Go into a tipped position. Here's the gist of Las Vegas 5-10 years ago there was opportunity everywhere. Average people came because of the great availability of jobs. Now in the last few years all the casino companies have either laid off or cut hours back so now it is very very difficult to find the same opportunity. You can make it work but you will probably have to find two part time jobs because that is all that is available. It used to be work at a place 90 days then full time, not anymore.
I'll give you the best example I can go to the strip during the day look around and you will see nothing but older dealers and in many spots older cocktail waitresses, older front dest etc. Basically most have been at that same job for years so they have no idea how difficult or bad the economy is. They are full time workers but that opportunity isn't there anymore. If you want to stay if Vegas realize that the casinos were the biggest job in Las Vegas. But the job availability is horrendous now, hence the high unemployment. By the way you don't come to Las Vegas to work in the grocery business there is no future in that. If you do decide to go back to school there are better oportunities in other parts of the country.
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Old 09-20-2010, 04:06 PM
 
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If your a female who is good looking more doors are open. But your a guy so it will be very difficult to land a good job. AFter the Cosmopolitian is done hiring there probably won't be another casino for 5-10 years so opportunity is going to be tough. Good luck.
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Old 09-20-2010, 05:25 PM
 
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I've actually seriously been considering going home. I have given it a lot of thought and I realized I wasnt happy there, yet I don't seem to be happy here in LV either. I've never been happy anywhere I move.

The problem is myself and my inability to be satisfied with what I do have. I always feel inferior to others and like I dont have enough (ie material things) or that Im just not good enough (life in general)
So what?

Who cares about material stuff? What's more important than your possessions is your happiness; one is not required for the other - if you can't be happy without a lot of material stuff, think about what that says about you. An ex-girlfriend of mine continually acquired stuff to the point that our place would have been filled floor to ceiling eventually if I stayed with her. I realized she kept buying & acquiring things to fill a void in her life & that wasn't going to change. She didn't just have issues, she had ... subscriptions. Don't be that person; figure out what you do best & what you enjoy, work hard at it & the rest will eventually follow. It may take some time, but that's part of growing & evolving as a person. The good news is you've got plenty of time.

Davie, go back & read what you've said above. If you're not happy here & weren't in Florida, what makes you think you'll be happy anywhere? Look inside yourself, grasshopper. Sounds like your main issue(s) revolve around confidence, self-image & perception. That's common when you're young; now you get to choose what direction you want to go & hopefully it will focus on personal growth & development. Don't let other people determine what you are or who you are. Define it for yourself & make the most of your opportunities. As someone who's had his share of tough breaks, I can tell you that patience & persistence are two of the most important qualities you can have. As long as you put in the time & effort things will improve, the road just might be a little longer than you expected. Now's the time to learn to deal with adversity & strengthen your character. It will pay off in leaps & bounds as you get older.

You made a gutsy move by coming out here. Don't give up so easily. Do your best to make it work. Maybe you could give yourself a timeline & some goals & reevaluate if you're not where you want to be in a year or two. It's WAY too early to just throw in the towel.
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Old 09-20-2010, 05:48 PM
 
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Just wanted to add that I think it's pretty admirable to move across the country to try something new.
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Old 09-21-2010, 04:48 PM
 
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You're right JFK. If I knew than what I know now, I would have waited to move, if at all

My 21st is still 3 months out. It will greatly open up the job possibilities for me.

I've actually seriously been considering going home. I have given it a lot of thought and I realized I wasnt happy there, yet I don't seem to be happy here in LV either. I've never been happy anywhere I move.

The problem is myself and my inability to be satisfied with what I do have. I always feel inferior to others and like I dont have enough (ie material things) or that Im just not good enough (life in general)
At first, I thought you were mature for your age...now I'm seeing that you're just like any other 20-year old kid...trying to fit in and impress all the other 20-year olds. Nothing wrong with that...that's how the large majority of 20-year olds think and live their lives. I just thought that you had more potential.

If you want to be different...and really stand out above the rest...you need to take the advice being given to you in this thread. Get enrolled in school...the quicker the better...before you're trapped trying to survive. Make that your priority. Eff the material things and hanging out in clubs. When you look back, none of that means an effin' thing. Thinks take time...and ususally turn out right when you give it the time it needs to season.

Sure...anyone can stick a marshmallow in the fire, watch it catch in flames and blow it out quickly then eat it. But the one that sits their patiently and toasts all sides to a golden brown is the one that really has something special.

Still...there are some that don't even bother toasting the marshmallow. They are worst off.
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