[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by kimba01

Unfortunately, love is love. It doesn't care that you don't want your mate to be a drunk. It doesn't care about age difference. It doesn't differentiate between good times and bad times. The human mind does.

She can still love you and not be able to be with you because of your choices or whatever. She should move on, though.

One thing that holds people back from living how they want to is the belief that they are not good enough and they don't deserve it. I understand. Glad you took what you needed from the conversation.

I never knew how much she loved me until today. She only wants the best for me, and I cannot blame her for that. I agree that she should give up on me, especially since I have given up on myself.

[PinkString]

Originally Posted by las vegas drunk

I never knew how much she loved me until today. She only wants the best for me, and I cannot blame her for that. I agree that she should give up on me, especially since I have given up on myself.

I guess she really loves you in her own way. Maybe she will eventually move on. It's not like she's too old to find anyone unless she thinks she is.
The only way it would ever work for you two now or in the future, you both will have to accept each other the way you are and not try to change the other. Ever.
Loving someone freely and unconditionally means accepting each other faults and all.

[pommysmommy]

Originally Posted by las vegas drunk

I never knew how much she loved me until today. She only wants the best for me, and I cannot blame her for that. I agree that she should give up on me, especially since I have given up on myself.

If she only loves you long distance as a sober man the love is fake. I have vowed to only speak my mind from now on. No more diplomacy. Diplomacy = FAKE.

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by PinkString

I guess she really loves you in her own way. Maybe she will eventually move on. It's not like she's too old to find anyone unless she thinks she is.
The only way it would ever work for you two now or in the future, you both will have to accept each other the way you are and not try to change the other. Ever.
Loving someone freely and unconditionally means accepting each other faults and all.

She is still very beautiful and would have no problem finding dates. Unfortunately, she was very hurt by the last 2 guys she was with, one of them being me. Back in 1999, we had been together for over 3 years. She was 41, and I was 24. She told me she was not getting any younger and gave me an ultimatum. She said either we get married or it is time for us to part ways. What did I do? I went to the nightclub and met a 19 year old and left her for the younger girl. After that, she met this older millionaire, and I was actually happy for her. After 5 years, he leaves her for a 21 year old. She has never been with anyone ever since. She told me she cannot handle it anymore. I feel so bad. If I could do it all over again, I would have married her. I was not a drunk back then, and I feel like an idiot for leaving her. It would have worked out, and I feel I would have turned out ok if I had married her. Where is my time machine?

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by pommysmommy

If she only loves you long distance as a sober man the love is fake. I have vowed to only speak my mind from now on. No more diplomacy. Diplomacy = FAKE.

You can speak your mind, but there is nothing fake here. She has always been there for me and she does love me. We cannot be a couple anymore because of my addictions and other problems.

[thecuse]

Originally Posted by las vegas drunk

She is still very beautiful and would have no problem finding dates. Unfortunately, she was very hurt by the last 2 guys she was with, one of them being me. Back in 1999, we had been together for over 3 years. She was 41, and I was 24. She told me she was not getting any younger and gave me an ultimatum. She said either we get married or it is time for us to part ways. What did I do? I went to the nightclub and met a 19 year old and left her for the younger girl. After that, she met this older millionaire, and I was actually happy for her. After 5 years, he leaves her for a 21 year old. She has never been with anyone ever since. She told me she cannot handle it anymore. I feel so bad. If I could do it all over again, I would have married her. I was not a drunk back then, and I feel like an idiot for leaving her. It would have worked out, and I feel I would have turned out ok if I had married her. Where is my time machine?

...doesnt matter, and you'll never know because you've decided to stay a drunk. You'd rather act like a 12yr old baby and continue to be a drunk than be a man and change your life. I would be so ashamed to write these little "poor me, baby stories"! I dont know what kind of sympathy you think you're going to find here.

The only time machine you've got is the one you get into today and decide to change your future. Or you can continue to be a 40yr old baby and amuse me for the next couple years, your choice

[ElleTea]

Originally Posted by pommysmommy

I agree! She needs to move on and stop making LVD have false hopes.

^^This

I don't know all the details, but some people are just toxic to each other. Just because you "love" someone does not mean being together is the best thing. Saying "Love is all you need" is a crock. It doesn't fix everything. Sometimes love is what drives you apart, if that makes sense.

IMO she sounds manipulative and the longer you go without contact, the better for you both.

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by thecuse

...doesnt matter, and you'll never know because you've decided to stay a drunk. You'd rather act like a 12yr old baby and continue to be a drunk than be a man and change your life. I would be so ashamed to write these little "poor me, baby stories"! I dont know what kind of sympathy you think you're going to find here.

The only time machine you've got is the one you get into today and decide to change your future. Or you can continue to be a 40yr old baby and amuse me for the next couple years, your choice

I never asked nor expected any sympathy. I was just surprised she called me so I thought I would post it. I thought we would never talk again as I would never have called her. As far as my future, there is none, and that is because of mistakes I have made in the past. I am now off unemployment and have zero income coming in. I cannot work or get on disability, so it is just a matter of time before my savings run out and I wind up on the streets. I might as well drink until then, because that is the day I jump out in front of a train.

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by ElleTea

^^This

I don't know all the details, but some people are just toxic to each other. Just because you "love" someone does not mean being together is the best thing. Saying "Love is all you need" is a crock. It doesn't fix everything. Sometimes love is what drives you apart, if that makes sense.

IMO she sounds manipulative and the longer you go without contact, the better for you both.

She and I are completely over. I know I will never see her in person again. I still see no problem with us talking on the phone. We always have. I continued to talk to her on the phone after I left her, and all through the 5 years when she was dating the older guy.

[skisickie]

I keep adopting dogs, The last one I had to give to my Ex hubby. Our house is full.
Now there is one in Summerlin on the 20th that I must go to. I mean there are going to be food trucks!!
NO MORE DOGS THOUGH. LOL