[jjameson922]

I hope you're doing good LVD. You haven't shared much about what is going on with you lately?

The things that are written are so right on. I'm a woman and I'm glad I was raised tough. Life throws me all kinds of curves but I was taught how to handle them. There isn't a thing that Aqua writes that a friend or family member wouldn't square me away about if the words came from me. "Need someone to take me in," no way. Always knew if I became a "victim" of some uspeakable disaster, there would be help but make poor choices, too bad. Say I'm grieving over a loved one and I'd be told to get over myself. And somehow I was able to figure out that these hard people in my life were not taking the easy way out but having the strength to care enough about me to say the hard things that needed to be said. I then went on to raise two kids the same way. They both knew if they wanted cars at 16, they'd better start saving and working at 12. At 16, they worked to keep gas in them and pay insurance. Asking if they wanted to go to college was not an option; the question was, what college are you interested in? Then they worked more and helped pay their way through. Now both of them are about Aqua's age; one is an executive with a major company earning about $400K a year. He never whines about anything. Today he is still on a 13 hour flight home from Germany. He'll take a few days to enjoy the wife and kids, beautiful house and big boat and then he's off for weeks in Asia, long days, comprimised diet, lonliness and business meetings way past his 40 hours but he's content with the choice he made.

[dynimagelv]

Life is about choices....from the moment you wake up [a choice] until the moment yo fall asleep [a choice] In between every single thing you do all day long is a choise [aside from breathing and that sometimes becomes a choice] Make the right ones and you succeed. Make the wrong ones and your'e cannon fodder.

YOU make them ....YOU live with the consequences

[jjameson922]

[quote=dynimagelv;16027781]Life is about choices....from the moment you wake up [a choice] until the moment yo fall asleep [a choice] In between every single thing you do all day long is a choise [aside from breathing and that sometimes becomes a choice] Make the right ones and you succeed. Make the wrong ones and your'e cannon fodder.

YOU make them ....YOU live with the consequences[/quote


AMEN........

[Spraynard Kruger]

The truth can hurt, but you can't always indulge people's sensitivities and weaknesses, either.

Its not always a good idea to point them out. I mean, aren't some of us who are so headstrong and cocksure of ourselves and our abilities only seconds away from a disaster that could break our physical health, our mental spirit and our ability to carry on?

I know a lot of brave people who have been to hell and back only to find the support system they thought they could depend on stripped from underneath them.

I constantly count my blessings and continue to encourage people to do what I would do if I were in their shoes, but a lot of times thats easier said than done.

Sometimes, it can be very God damned frustrating, especially when your intent is misunderstood.

[jjameson922]

You made an excellent point Sraynard about how some of us confident people could be seconds away from disaster. I realize that and I'm sure many others do but...those are the times we become the victims. There is a major difference between someone crying the woe because they have made poor choices and that of the person who has been an innocent victim. Sadly most people with problems think of themselves and try to portray themselves as victims when in reality what has happened to them is a result of their poor choices. When I become a victim, such as a stupid driver with questionable insurance hit my new car a few weeks ago and I'm not getting a bit of resolution at this point, to help with the anger and frustration I start building up, I try to take responsibility for my part of the situation. I.E., I should have known better to go there, possibly I was driving a little too fast, if I had been more patient I wouldn't have been where I was when it happened. I hate that wishy washy feeling sorry for myself victim feeling. I find it really helps to be hard on myself for the part I play in something rather than feel sad and victimized. Then, since I truly believe attitude is the only thing one has in life, when hard times come my way like my recent health issues, I hopefully have developed the strength and mental stamina to deal with them as best as possible.

[PinkString]

One thing I am not, is confident about my life right now. We are falling on hard times, but I will never ask for a handout, never have, never will. We figure it out eventually by ourselves. I look at it as there is always tomorrow, maybe something great will happen. And if it doesn't, there is always tomorrow...

As for Aqua, we all want him to succeed, but I always get the feeling he really doesn't want to. He always has an excuse. What he needs to do is right down all his excuses on little pieces of paper, one for each excuse. Take them all and seal them in a box and throw it in the trash. Excuses are gone, so move on with your life.

As for my family, even though I have fallen on really hard times before in the past, I never asked them for help. But, they have asked me many times in my life for help in the form of money. We just do not have extra money laying around to give to people, so we could not help in that way. And besides, if you "loan" it out, you will never get it back. I know my siblings. Too well. I don't care how many times we've heard "I'll pay you back, i'm good for it." well, if they never get work to pay you back, you will never get it back. If for any reason, any of them fell on worse times and became homeless, I would take them in for a month. Which would give them ample time to find a job and get their own pad. Even though it's against HOA rules here, I would take them in and they would do
housework in exchange for room and board.

JJameson, the accident was just that, an accident. It was not your fault. It was the fault of the idiot that hit you.
We went to Santa Fe station once for an evening sometime last year. We came out to the parking garage to leave and someone had keyed our car front, back and both sides. Only ours for some reason.
Very sad and more money to get it fixed.

[las vegas drunk]

I have heard back from Aqualung and he said he is doing ok. He cannot get online anymore with his phone so that is why he has been gone.

[PinkString]

So let him come to your place and go online sometime. Just be careful though, he may never want to leave.

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by PinkString

So let him come to your place and go online sometime. Just be careful though, he may never want to leave.

I am sorry to hear you too are falling on hard times. I hope they improve for you soon. Aqualung is always welcome to come over to my place, but he can not live here. There just is not enough room unfortunately.

[las vegas drunk]

Originally Posted by PinkString

We went to Santa Fe station once for an evening sometime last year. We came out to the parking garage to leave and someone had keyed our car front, back and both sides. Only ours for some reason.
Very sad and more money to get it fixed.

That happened to me back in Phoenix. I went in to get a haircut and I came out to find my beautiful car was keyed on both sides. I was disgusted especially since I only had liability insurance. I swear I would be in prison in I had seen who done it. I was so pissed off about that.