How did your divorce turn out? (health insurance, home, school)

[Bereagal]

I am soon to be divorced. We have temporary orders in place that provide me a car to drive, child support and living expenses. I have always been a stay at home mom, per my ex's request. I have started to process to get in school to get an education and training in a field that i am really interested in. There is a high demand for this job and I feel it is the right place for me. I am very excited! Does anyone have an opinion as to how my divorce may end? Will the temporary orders that we have now remain after we are divorced? I am only asking for it for a year. That is all it is going to take for me to get my degree. By the way, I have a 12 year old son that has a medical problem and I am taking care of him all on my own. His father has not seen him or tried to contact him since he left in early November of 2008.

[blossom4792]

I would try to get spousal support for 3 years rather than 1. If you end up with 2 years, or some graduated approach where you get less each year, fine. I'm not saying this based on your job potential (I'm sure you'll do fine) - but time goes by quickly and you need everything you can get, when you can get it. Also, make sure to get child support (until age 18), help with medical expenses for your son, and health insurance if needed/possible. I went through mediation and so everything was laid out with definite timetables. Definitely keep things as amicable as possible, but I think there is a tendency to want to just "get out" of the marriage and so important things may slip through the cracks or may not be laid out. On a personal note, life after divorce (if the marriage was really bad) is quite happy. You get to make your own choices and shape your own life.